My heart was anguished when I first heard this story because the victim was a mother; one immediately feels a bond. The news of any human being killed so callously hurts, but it felt closer to home because she was a Pakistani American Muslim, like me. There are so many times we walk from one relative’s house to another, after a family meal; up until she was murdered, this could have been the story of so many of us.
This story has been developing in the past few days; we now learn that the husband, Kashif Parvaiz, has admitted to involvement in a conspiracy to kill his wife. A Boston woman was arrested for allegedly plotting and shooting Nazish.
The circumstances in which she was killed were horrific but her life with this man was no less turbulent. She was allegedly a victim of domestic violence.
Shakila Chaudhry, a family friend from Freehold, said family members had told her that Noorani was physically abused by her husband. “She was such a nice girl; she always got beat up.” Heraa Chaudhry, of Old Bridge, who said she’s a cousin of the woman, said the marriage represented “domestic violence at its worst.”
Another woman suffering from domestic abuse has been taken back to her Creator because of cultural taboos about domestic violence. How much more could she has asked for help? In a text message to family she apparently said “I m dont no wht to do…cant talk to him cuz he abuse me than…he doesnt wanna live with me…I dont no kids get scared of him sometimes i m so tired of this …I dont no i m scared…someday u will find me dead but its cuz of kashi…he wants to kill me..”
The Pakistani community really needs to look introspectively and ask ourselves, is our ‘naak’ and ‘izza’t’ more important than our daughters’ and sisters’ lives? When we send our women back in the hand of savages who mistreat them and abuse them, who are we trying to please? WE are so scared of the community and the people who will talk. Will they be there to raise her children after she is gone? Divorce is disliked but is not haram in our religion, however we are willing to let our daughters face DEATH rather than get divorced from an abuser.
Having said that, I do not blame this particular family, I am sure that they did whatever they could to help her; it is our culture. These norms have been so ingrained in our women, that we do not listen to good naseehah and go back to our abusers.
Right after the murder, Parvaiz made a number of conflicting statements, including that the shooting was a bias crime, Bianchi said at a Friday press conference. In his first statement, Parvaiz said he was shot by a black male, a white male and an unknown third male who shouted slurs saying that he and his wife were terrorists.
These details make my blood boil, the crying wolf about a hate crime makes it harder for real victims of hate crimes. God forbid, next time if there really is a bias crime, people will always remember this plot first.
The statement by Nazish Noorani’s cousin after her funeral was poignant and thoughtful-
Initially, it was reported that it might be a hate crime. I just want to say, that we never thought that. This is fantastic area to live. We have always been from here. Everyone has just been wonderful.
We want to say that we have set up a website, http://www.nazishmemorialfund.org/. We want everyone to check that out. It is for the benefit of the two sons. Please visit that site. That would be very helpful.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon. A 27-year old Pakistani- American, mother of two, was shot in front of her 3-year-old child while taking a walk after iftar with family. May Allah bless them, their family and protect our families. May Allah punish anyone who assaults families.
Announcement on August 18th, 2011
Funeral will be held at:
110 Harrison Street,
Boonton, NJ 07005
after Jumu’ah approx. 1:30 p.m
The details of this horrific murder are still unclear- our thoughts and prayers are with the family- May Allah SWT grant her Jannat tul Firdaus.
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Video from WABC-TV/DTCops suspect that a couple gunned down while pushing their 3-year-old son in a stroller in Boonton, NJ, last night were targeted.
Nazish Noorani, 27, was killed. Her husband, Kashif Pervaiz, 26, was shot four times. He was in surgery today but is expected to survive, family members said.
“This investigation is ongoing and the release of information at this stage would compromise the progress of same,” Morris County Prosecutor Robert Bianchi said in a statement. “From what we have already determined, however, it should be noted that this shooting clearly appears to be target specific and that there is not a continuing danger to the general public at large.”
The couple were at Noorani’s sister’s house in Boonton to break the Ramadan fast last night. They were shot after they left the dinner.
Five shots rang out about 11:30 p.m. Noorani was hit near her heart and Pervaiz was shot in the ankle and shoulder, NJ.com reported.
The family is Muslim and Noorani, 27, was wearing distinctive Pakistani clothing when they went for a walk after their Iftar – the nightly meal that breaks daily fasting during the season of Ramadan. “We’ve had Muslims in the community for over 50 years and very few problems with hate crimes,” Boonton Police Chief Michael Beltran said.
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The husband’s brother told The Associated Press three people opened fire on the couple on the darkened street. Mansoor Hassan says the child was unharmed and is with his grandmother.
Perveiz was studying at Harvard University. Harvard University has said that they have no record of his enrollment.
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