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Loving Muslim Marriage Episode #2: Do Women Desire Sex?

Published

October 15, 2019

In this episode, we ask an obvious question with what seems like an obvious answer – do women need sex? Obviously, yes.

If that’s the case though, then why is expressing a sexual need, or seeking help for sexual issues such a taboo in Muslim cultures?

Watch episode 1 here.

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Saba Syed (aka Umm Reem) is the author of International award winning novel, "An Acquaintance." Saba has a BA degree in Islamic Studies. She studied Arabic Language & Literature at Qatar University and at Cairo Institute in Egypt. She also received her Ijaazah in Quranic Hafs recitation in Egypt from Shaikh Muhammad al-Hamazawi. She had been actively involved with Islamic community since 1995 through her MSA, and then as a founding member of TDC, and other community organizations. in 2002, she organized and hosted the very first "Musim Women's Conference" in Houston, TX. Since then, she's been passionately working towards empowering Muslim women through the correct and untainted teachings of Islam. She is a pastoral counselor for marriage & family, women and youth issues. She has hosted several Islamic lectures and weekly halaqas in different communities all over U.S and overseas, also hosted special workshops regarding parenting, Islamic sex-ed, female sexuality, and marital intimacy.

3 Comments

Anonymous

October 17, 2019 at 10:23 PM

Women do not need sex.
Men (also) do not need sex.
Unlike food, water and shelter, sex is NOT a biological need. No one will die without sex.
If sex was a biological NEED (versus desire), then it would be permissible for a person to seek haram means to fulfill their sexual desires if they had no halal avenues (e.g. being unmarried, being unfulfilled sexually in a marriage, etc).

If sex was a need, it would be permissible for those with homosexual desires to go engage in homosexual acts.

If sex was a need, then those who force themselves onto or coerce others to have sex would be excused for “fulfilling their needs”.

Sex is a desire, not a need. Without it life may be more challenging but not impossible.

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- Fritz
  
  October 20, 2019 at 6:30 AM
  
  “Need” is a broad term….Its more of a need like exercise is a need to stay healthy.
  
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- Saba Syed (Umm Reem)
  
  October 23, 2019 at 3:58 AM
  
  Men and women do need sex. Need has different levels.
  
  I find your comment interesting because if “haram becoming halal” was the criteria to define need, then (as you mentioned shelter in your comment) seeking shelter through haraam means will also become halaal for a homeless person.
  But we are not allowed to do that and yet shelter, and even clothing are humanly needs.
  
  No one dies without sex, but we do know that deprivation from sex can and does cause many health issues.
  
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