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Haleh Banani holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. A faith-based counselor, life coach, and mental health professional who has served the community since 1998 by saving hundreds of marriages and helping thousands of people around the world overcome their challenges and become the most amazing version of themselves. The host of "With Haleh" on Al-Fajr TV and was a featured expert on Al-Jazeera international and other media outlets. She is an international speaker and writer.



  1. Blog Islam Barcelona

    December 18, 2015 at 6:40 PM

    I think that the first things that we should improve as muslims is our relationships, marriage, family

  2. Aafia

    December 19, 2015 at 5:33 PM

    Alhumdulillah,Allah Instills automatic love in our Spouse Otherwise It is not an easy task living with each Other for life and caring for them every moment.For me the most Important part of happy married life is communication .But Unfortunately Technology has evaded our Personal life to such an extent that we hardly give enough time for each Other .

  3. Faisal

    December 19, 2015 at 8:47 PM

    It’s true that smart phones etc. are taking more and more of our time, time that we could be using to communicate with our spouses. One thing that my wife and I do is to send each other romantic messages on our smart phones. It works for us and reassures us both that we are a part of each other’s smartphone worlds. We also sometimes watch things and listen to things of mutual interest together on our smart phones and tablet. If we use our smartphones in this way viz a viz our spouses it can be enjoyable and exciting and help to keep intimacy alive and well in a married relationship. After all, it’s not that technology is a problem, it’s how we use it that’s a problem. I hope this helps.

  4. Henry RootBall

    January 30, 2016 at 2:50 PM

    Is anal sex ok in Islam?

    • Ahmad B.

      January 31, 2016 at 11:11 AM

      Dear Henry,

      The answer is “No.” Only vaginal.


    • Hussaini Abdullahi

      March 2, 2016 at 2:11 AM

      dear Henry,
      Can a you eat talk with your nose? Allah gave us mouth as tool of talking (which include reading and recitations) and eating.
      Why do we not choose to change and eat through the nose? It’s because the nose is not the right channel for eating.
      Likewise, the anus is not the right channel for sex.
      He provided everything for us to enjoy in vagina and a route through which a seed can be panted.
      Even scientifically it’s not OK.

  5. Foyez

    May 2, 2016 at 10:51 AM

    It is not a matter to express. She can understand almost anything seeing my eyes.

  6. umar mohammed

    July 13, 2016 at 10:45 AM

    i do not have good relationship with my piences. she dont want give more time to discuss about love, and insiste tell me a word of loves. but she agreed to marry me. is there any women whom their habit is aturally like this? if not what can i do? and i loves her. advice me what to do? m’y name ils umar mohammed

  7. Abdulrahim

    July 30, 2016 at 4:25 PM

    Asalaaam Aleikum,

    please can i have Haleh Banani’s contact please

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