On Attraction from a Unmarried Perspective “If a man wants to betroth a woman, he can look at what entices him to accomplish his marriage.” [Reported by Abu Dawud] As someone who is looking to get married and extremely inexperienced in all terms of physical intimacy, all of this sex ... Read More »
Disclaimer- this post is meant for a mature audience only as it contains sexually explicit material. Many men and women in our communities live under the illusion that only men feel desire or have an interest in being sexual, and that women should not or cannot feel attraction, do not ... Read More »
The BBC show Panorama, through secret filming, has found that Shari'ah courts are not helping women in domestic violent situations. The Telegraph states: “85 councils operating in mosques and houses across the country has revealed that the courts, which are run by sharia councils, are ruling in favor of men ... Read More »
Male-bashing articles are notoriously en vogue, admittedly for valid reasons. From the outset, let me clarify this won't be one of them. The difficulties faced in joining a man to a woman with previous (or more) relationship experience isn't just a “Muslim male” problem, but a social phenomenon with dimensions that ... Read More »
Sheikh Yaser Birjas talks about the five stages of marriage. The first stage of the husband-wife relationship is known as the “in-love” phase where the husband and wife start to get to know each other. Often times, this phase can take place during the nikkah or engagement phase. The ... Read More »
No matter what the reason may be, there is no excuse for enduring injustice. Unfortunately, in many cultures, there is so much negativity associated with seeking help through a third party and/or pursuing a divorce, that many women willingly endure domestic violence rather than protect their rights. Read More »
"Pakistanis are the worst!” a young Desi woman exclaimed wrinkling her nose. “I would never advise marrying any of them.” The other Pakistani women present nodded in emphatic agreement while others shook their heads knowingly. “Arabs are so extreme,” an Arab woman interjected. “Everything is haraam to them.” “Americans are much better,” another woman agreed. “They’re the only men worth marrying.” At the last comment, unease knotted in my stomach… Read More »
The proceeding thoughts are a summary of some of the ways the Prophet [saw] expressed his love for his wives. It is hoped that this will be a reminder for some and learning for others. Read More »
Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for many Muslims across the world. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their future spouse through family or friends. Forced marriage, on the other hand, occurs when a man or woman is coerced by the family to marry, using threats, emotional blackmail, fraud, and even bribes. Arranged against the person will, without consent or consent under duress. That is not a marriage in Islam; it is oppression and abuse. Read More »
One day a sister dropped by to pick up something and saw me dressed up with make-up and jewelry, so she assumed I was going somewhere. When I told her I wasn't, the reason I dressed up surprised her. I told her, “Because it is about time for my husband ... Read More »
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