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Following the shocking murders in Paris, condemned by Muslims all over the world, and subsequent moves to depict the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once again, Imams from around the world have come together to issue the following advice to those concerned about the depiction.

1.    For Muslims, love of the Prophet (peace be upon him) is a NECESSARY part of our FAITH. He is dearer to us than our parents and children. We prefer him to our own self.

2.    Accordingly we regret and are naturally hurt by the depiction of our Prophet Muhammad (upon whom be peace), a great personality held in high esteem by 1.8 billion Muslims and millions more, in such a manner.

3.    Muslims do believe in freedom of speech. And they do respect the right for people to say what they believe to be correct. However, freedom of speech should not be translated in to a duty to offend. Furthermore, it is common knowledge that absolute freedom of speech does not exist. There are laws to protect the dignity and properties of people. We urge governments, civil society and our media to foster a culture of mutual respect and unity, not one of division and disdain.

4.    Most Muslims will inevitably be hurt, offended and upset by the republication of the cartoons. But our reaction must be a reflection of the teachings of the gentle and merciful character of the Prophet (peace be upon him).  Enduring patience, tolerance, gentleness and mercy as was the character of our beloved Prophet (peace and Blessings be upon him) is the best and immediate way to respond. With dignified nobility we must be restrained, as the Quran says “And when the ignorant speak to them, they say words of Peace.”

Our aim is to not, inadvertently, give the cartoons more prominence through our attention. Muslims must remain calm and peaceful in their speech and actions. Repel harm with goodness is the Qur’anic imperative and by which the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) lived. If we feel strongly, the only course of action to us is with reasoned debate, civil activism and other legal avenues, God willing.

5.Muslims have to remember that by depicting the Prophet (peace be upon him) no one can ever tarnish his image, as he is way beyond what is depicted, as Allah says, ‘We have elevated your remembrance’. We should spend such regrettable moments in supplicating with many litanies and prayers of blessings on the Prophet; may Allah’s mercy, peace and blessing be upon his soul.

6. Engage with others about your feelings. Speak of your love for the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and do not be shy to let your non-Muslim friends know your justified displeasure at the mockery that is made of our faith. People need to know how much love we have for our Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him).

7.  Learn more and share more about the greatness of the Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). Hassaan bin Thaabit (may Allah be pleased with him) describes him with the following couplets:

“My eyes have never seen anyone more perfect than you
No woman has given birth to anyone more handsome than you
You have been created free from all defects
As if you were created the way you wished”

8. We should, through our actions and deeds, display the sublime character of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet faced many great challenges but he exhibited impeccable beauty of character in his actions. He did not react inhumanely or violently. He was attacked verbally and physically in Taif but he forgave the people. His uncle and companions were murdered but he reacted peacefully and in a humane manner. And there are many such examples from the life of the Prophet (peace be upon him) we must display.

9. As citizens of our respective countries, we must not allow hate to creep into our hearts due to the horrific incidents of Paris. Muslims, non-Muslims and people of all backgrounds must come together and show unity and solidarity and not let it divide our communities. We must remember the statements of the Prophet (peace be upon him) such as: “Someone who unjustly kills a non-Muslim citizen cannot attain a whiff of Heaven, even though its fragrance is felt from a distance of forty years. (Bukhari), or, “He who hurts a non-Muslim citizen hurts me, and he who hurts me annoys Allah.” (Tabarani) And many other similar hadiths highlighting that Muslims are not allowed to hurt their non-Muslim brothers and sisters in humanity.

10. We must continuously supplicate to Allah that He rectifies our situation. Pray to Him that the chaos, injustice and oppression is lifted from all societies. We should pray to Allah so that He makes Britain, Nigeria, United States, India, United Kingdom, Australia, better, fairer and just countries for all. Pray to Him to aid the oppressed and the victims of the oppressors all over the world. Pray that He allows us to contribute to a more peaceful and just world. Sincerely pray at night and beseech Him to protect our honour and our dignity.

May Allah give us the ability to do what is right and avoid what is wrong. May Allah protect the whole of humanity from trials and tribulations.

Signed:

1. Mawlana Yunus Dudhwala (Head of Chaplaincy, Barts Health NHS Trust)
2. Dr Omer al Hamdoon (Muslim Association of Britain)
3. Imam Abdullah Hasan (Imams Against Domestic Abuse)
4. Imam Irfan Chishti (Chishtia Mosque, Rochdale)
5. Imam Shams ad Duha (Ebrahim College)
6. Sheikh Abdur Raheem Limbada (Tafseer-raheemi.com)
7. Imam Shafiur Rahman (Jibreel Institute)
8. Imam Ibrahim Mogra (MCB)
9. Imam Zuber Karim (Dundee Mosque)
10. Imam Abdul Wahhab (Plashet Grove Mosque)
11. Muhammad Ashraf Hansrot (Thornton Heath Islamic Centre)
12. Mawlana Abdul Mateen (Head teacher and Muslim Chaplain Quwwatul Islam Society London)
13. Mawlana Khalil Laher (Quwwat-ul-Islam Society, London)
14. Imam Sulaiman Gani (Chaplain and Presenter on Iqra TV)
15. Imam Wasim Kempson, West London Islamic Cultural Centre, UK
16. Imam Yahya Adel Ibrahim, Al Kauthar Institute, Australia
17. Imam Ghulam Moyhuddin, Ashton Central Mosque
18. Mawlana Mujahid Ali (Hafs Academy)
19. Imam Saeed Algadi (Almuntada Trust)
20. Dr Abul Kalam Azad (Khateeb, Dockland Community Mosque)
21. Dr Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera, Scholar and Founder Zam Zam Academy, UK
22. Sheikh Zahir Mahmood (As Suffa Institute)
23. Shaykh Muhammad Umar Al-Qadri, Al-Mustafa Islamic Educational & Cultural Centre, Ireland
24. Mawlana Adnan Qurayshi (Al-Ashraaf Secondary School)
25. Mawlana Zakaria Maljee (Stamford Hill)
26. Imam Ahmed Desai, Masjid Quba, Bradford, UK
27. Mawlana Abdullah Rawat, Musallah an Noor Stoke Newington, London, UK
28. Mufti Sajid (Azhar Academy Ltd/Quwwatul Islam Mosque)
29. Imam Tahir Talati (Imam Zakariya Academy)
30. Imam Ilyas Amin (Azhar Masjid)
31. Mawlana Muhammad Saleem  (Quwwat ul Islam)
32. Mawlana Zenulabedin Yakub (Masjid e Tauheed)
33. Mawlana Said Ahmed (Masjid e Salaam, Preston)
34. Mawlana Ilyas (Masjid e Mahad, Preston)
35. Imam Yusuf Rios, Muslim Chaplain, The Shaukani Institute, United States
36. Mawlana Muhammad ibn Ismail (Newham Ulama Forum)
38. Imam Qari Asim, Makkah Masjid, Leeds, UK
38. Mawlana Imran Ali, BMACC Bearsden, Glasgow, Scotland
39. Dr Mansur Ali (Cardiff University)
40. Imam Imtiyaz Damiel (Abu Hanifah Foundation)
41. Sheikh Jaffer Ali Ladak (Hyderi Islamic Cente)
42. Imam Shabir Moosa Adam, Masjid Ibrahim, Australia
43. Shaykh Arif Abdul Hussain (Al-Mahdi Institute)
44. Shaykh Mohammad Saeed Bahmanpour (Resident scholar, Islamic Centre of England)
45. Sheikh Mohammed Al-Hilli (Noor Trust)
46. Ayatollah Seyed Milani (AlKhoie Islamic Centre)
47. Mufti Salim Ismail (Upton Park Islamic Centre)
48. Moulana Mohammad Shahid Raza, Leicester Central Mosque, UK
49. Sheikh Abdul Qayyum, East London Mosque, UK
50. Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi (World Ahlulbayt Islamic League)
51. Imam Fahimul Anam (Beacon Institute)
52..Imam Fadel Soliman (Bridges Foundation)
53. Dr Jasser Auda, Qatar
54. Imam Muhammad Mustaqeem Shah, Al Mustaqeem Centre, Bradford, UK
55. Imam Abdur Rahman Anwar (Imam, London)
56. Imam Amer Jamil (iSyllabus, Scotland)
57. Mufti Mohammad Ibrahim Qureshi (Islamic Center Northridge), Los Angles, CA, USA
58. Imam Yasuf iban Steven Deardorff
59. Maulana Mohammed Mota, Jame  Masjid  Batley, Birmingham, UK
60. Imam Omar Suleiman- Resident Scholar -Valley Ranch Islamic Center, TX, USA
61. Imam Ajmal Masroor (Palmers Green Mosque)
62. Imam Muhammad Tahir Kiyani, Batley, Birmingham, UK
63. Shybatu Hassan Ibrahim-Bayero University Kano, Nigeria
64. Barrister Unusa Karimu, Banjong Mosque
65. Mawlana Idris Abdus Salam, Darul Hidayah
65. Syed Zafar Mahmood, Zakat Foundation of India
66. Imam Abdul Hakim HamidMuslim Community of Palm Beach County
67. A Mushahid Kadir, Shadwell Jame Masjid
68. Kasali Kehinde, Asst Ameer Akinmorin Jamaa (Adeyemi College Mosque, Ondo) Muslim Student Society Of Nigeria
69. Javaid Ali Khan, Millat
70. Bro. Nassib Said (Abushureim), Director of Outreach,  Coast Muslim Youth Forum (Kenya)
71. Imam Ajmal Masroor (Palmers Green Mosque)
72. Imam Muhammad Tahir Kiyani (Batley, Birmingham)
73. Imam Hassan Rabbani (Zia ul-Quran Mosque)
74.Imam Adil Rehman (Beyond Boundaries)
75. Ustadh Abdur Raheem Green (iERA)
76. Imam Fahim Hammadur Rahman (European Islamic Centre, Oldham)
77. Imam Shams Tameez (Aylesbury Masjid)
78. Imam Abdul Malik Sheikh (Khateeb, Holborn Mosque)
79. Sheikh Shouaib Ahmed  Mirpuri (Abdul aziz ibn bazz masjid banbury)
80. Sheikh Abdul Hadi (Ameer Markazi Jamiat Ahlehadith, UK)
81. Imam Mohammed Ibrahim Mirpuri (Muhammadi Masjid, Bham)
82. Sheikh Hafiz Sharrif Ullah (Al Huda Masjid, Bradford)
83. Imam Hafiz Akhlaq Ahmed (Masjid Ahlehadith, Bradford)
84. Hafiz Abdul Aala (Masjid Muhammadi, Keighly)
85. Hafiz Hamood Ur Rahman (Makki Masjid, Manchester)
86. Sheikh Mustafidh Gani (Beyond Boundaries)
87. Imam Aziz Ibraheeem (Imaan Trust Community Centre, Saint Helens, Merseyside)
88. Imam Rizwan Hussain Al azhari (Imam Bashir Ahmed masjid, Southampton)
89. Mawlana Munawar (Khateeb, Balham Mosque)
90. Qari Ashraf (Tooting Islamic Centre)
91. Imam Choukri Majouli (Finsbury Park Mosque)
92. Imam Mubarak Manya (Zakariyya Jaame Masjid, Bolton)
93. Imam Ashraf Ali, Muslim Welfare Association of Port Talbot, Wales
94. Dato Thasleem Mohamed Ibrahim Al-Haj, Chairperson JIHAD for JUSTICE, Malaysia
95. Shaykh Muiz Bukhary (Sakeenah Institute)
96. Shaykh Yasir Qadhi, USA
97. Imam Anas Hlayhel, East Valley Masjid, Phoenix, USA
98. Shaykh Abdul Nasir Jangda, Qalam Institute, TX, USA
99. Shaykh Yase Birjas, Valley Ranch Masjid, TX, USA
100. Imam Nadim Sulaiman Ali, Community Masjid of Atlanta, USA
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  1. Pingback: TO DEFEND OUR BELOVED PROPHET, LET US EXEMPLIFY HIS TRUE IDEALS SAY IMAMS | PASS THE KNOWLEDGE (LIGHT & LIFE)

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      vewsmith

      January 18, 2015 at 1:01 PM

      Just a question of clarification. I understand that an interpretation of the Qur’an that no pictures or depictions be made of Muhammad was to avoid worship of him as the prophet instead of Allah. This was a very long time ago when books did not exist, nor newspapers, and pictures and words were all hand-written. Christians and Jews are also not in favor of pictures of God or idols, but seem to have no ban on imagined depictions of Christian or Jewish prophets, though I think they would go along with worshipping those pictures of prophets instead of the one God. I am not talking about the fact that many Christians think Jesus is god or part of God as I know in Islam the distinction is clear between Allah and anyone or anything else. I understand is the same one God believed in by all the mono-theist religions such as Islam, Christianity, and the Jewish religion, even though there is that whole Jesus/God confusion which frankly isn’t to the credit of that particular religion. Since there were no photographs back in the day and no drawings done of the prophets at the time , any later depictions would have to be purely based on imagination, so it would not even possible to show any actual likeness of any prophet and someone’s later attempt to do so via cartoon seems in some way to be part of the cult of celebrity that currently runs the world. I also thought that the discouragement, not outright ban of such images of Muhammad was to deal with the cultures of a long time ago, closer to the time the prophet was alive, clearly discouraging undue adoration of him instead of Allah. My question is why such an issue is still relevant since everyone knows there is no way to really depict the prophets who lived so many centuries ago so any attempt to do so would not have any relation whatsoever to any reality. No one I know believes that the endless depictions of Jesus in paintings or drawings are what he looked like-I hope not anyway. Nor any depictions of Moses or other Jewish prophets.
      You are right to make a distinction between the prophet and Allah, but in this day and age I do not understand how it represents an insult, why someone could actually get so angry as to execute a whole room full of people over a drawing that both the drawer and the believer knows not possibly represent the prophet Muhammad nor any of the other religious leaders they drew pictures of. Thank you for listening to the question and answering it if you wish to.

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        Sheima Salam Sumer

        January 18, 2015 at 1:53 PM

        Dear Vewsmith,
        Thank you for your sincere comment and question. First of all I want to say that I and 99.9% of Muslims would never ever defend murder in the name of our beloved faith. Our beloved Prophet was a Messenger of Mercy and disliked bloodshed extremely. I also want to say that yes, Muslims believe in the same 1 God of the Bible, Torah and other books all sent from the same 1 Merciful, Great Creator. Now, I would like to attempt to answer your question, which I understand to be: Why do Muslims today still ban the depiction of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) even though such depictions would not accurately represent him and it is unlikely that these depictions would lead people to worship him instead of Allah (Glory be to Him the Most High)? I hope this is the correct summary of your question. My answer as a practicing Muslimah is that Muslims hold the Prophet Muhammad with the highest respect and we consider it disrespectful to draw him or depict him in any form. To my knowledge, Muslims really shouldn’t depict any of the Prophets, because we love and revere them all, including Prophets Jesus, Moses, Abraham etc. So today it’s more an issue of respect, but even today there might be a risk of deifying Prophets.

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      Mark

      June 21, 2015 at 1:58 PM

      I can’t help thinking that the numerous points have over-egged the pie. It only needs two or three.

      After the Danish cartoons and the Charlie Hebdo thing (ie numerous murders), the whole thing was about “Love of Muhammed” and “Limits of free speech”.
      I saw the problem as the “Love of Muhammed” and it being needed to be tackled from that direction, rather than “Free-speech” being the problem, so there is a little light here in that this is the first attempt I’ve seen to do this.

      Points 1 and 3 are still problematic.

      Point 1: Can someone tell me how “we love Muhammed more than our own families,” can possibly translate into any practical use in day to day life? Could it be that a daughter asks her dad to help with her homework, otherwise she will fail an exam, but he says, “no, I have to go to the mosque to pray, so Allah and Muhammed comes first.” I really don’t know, so it seems like empty, impractical words. Otherwise, it could be one of these:

      1. Make people admire the stance? That isn’t going to happen.
      2. An explanation for the murders? That would be mad.
      3. An excuse for the murders? That would be even madder.
      4. A veiled threat, in that “This fervent love isn’t going away, so think twice before you draw that picture, write a book, make a TV documentary,” etc, etc. This one is my favourite.

      But I suppose number 4 is being tackled to an extent in this article.

      Point 3: The problem here is the “however” as always. And as I say, the problem is not from this direction at all. It is with the fervency of the “love of Muhammed,” which can be tackled from that direction. People aren’t born with it, it is indoctrinated. I suppose other religions (of particular types) “love” their religious idols, but there are none at the moment who go as far as what we have seen happen. It is up to those within the religion to put a stop to it and find a balance.

      Finally, I’d say that this article talks of “Muslims” with the implied “all”.
      Surely you know that there is a broader range of people in any given religion, but you seem to be pushing that the orthodox is the only way “Muslims” can go, and that, in my opinion is dangerous.

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    Gavin Volaire

    January 14, 2015 at 12:37 PM

    I’m sure this comment has no shot of ever appearing but here is my two cents. Nobody cares to hear you speak about the depictions at this point. If you must speak and deem to give counsel to your fellow Muslims, tell them to speak against the murders, not the depictions. To focus on the depictions instead of the murders might be construed as missing the big picture.

    An apology to the free world would be a better way to go at this point, boys.

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      Inam Saifi

      January 14, 2015 at 5:25 PM

      Everyone had different level of tolerance, and the two who carried out the attached naturally has no more tolerance left against the offence Charlie committed to offend Muslim world, they didn’t listen to wise advice of 1.8 billion Muslims of not to carry out such offence, but truth is society of west actually think that ‘Freedom of Speach’ is ‘Freedom to Offend’, and to the making mockery of people is their birth right,
      SO you(because you are Charlie), carried on with your act without thinking anybody’s sentiments and consequence, and so did the two, in their frame of mind, being right.
      So don’t be cry baby and please don’t be offended because it is ‘Freedom of Speach’, just a dialogue (that you wanted).

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        aliama mehru

        July 17, 2015 at 1:35 AM

        What pretty words we use to paint pictures of our Man Mohammed, gushing with emotion in our submission to this perfect image that has been painted for us by the men who have gone before.
        what is the difference in using ink and paper to paint images in pictures or words? Is the effect not the same. An artefact that we can associate with and be captured by, and embue with our emotion. The image is not the creation.

        Unfortunately the Arabs wrote their images down, and then fought wars over whose version was the only one. What arrogance and pride. ‘we are special’, ‘it was only given to my ancestors’, ‘my way is the only way and you must all submit to it’.

        Is the creation so feeble and sheepish that it has only been noticed by a single man? No, it is ever present, ever shining, and there are many who bump into aspects of it and occasionally recognise and name it throughout the world on a daily basis. Has it sewn only a single seed in a single location in the history of mankind? No it is virile, and our history is littered with many ways that show how to get closer to the creation.Revelations abound before and after the 6th century.

        Unfortunately It it the nature of man that our attention is captured by our own desires and arrogance and pride and a million other emotions, even love and hate, and we lose these fleeting connections, concentrating instead on the form of a revelation rather than what is being taught. In this way Religions become prisons. and Islam is no different.

        We have created a prison that has ensnared 1.8b people around the world. Our attention is captivated by images that have been written of the perfect prophet and the perfect way. we are so convinced in the superiority of our 6c arab way that we consume ourselves competing with and destroying those who dare to disagree with us and have the audacity to use other ways to get close to the creation, and in our crazy imaginings we dream that this is what the creation wants.

        The door to this prison is not closed, but
        we have become so accustomed to the support and friendship our brothers in this prison, that they have become the bars that hold us in place and prevent us from submitting to the creation instead of submitting to the creation of the Arabs.

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      Aly Balagamwala

      January 15, 2015 at 10:58 AM

      I think this is what you are looking for http://muslimmatters.org/2015/01/09/get-the-muslim-icondemn-app/

      *Comment above is posted in a personal capacity and may not reflect the official views of MuslimMatters or its staff*

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      Ahmad

      January 15, 2015 at 11:15 AM

      Why would the Imam’s or anyone else, apologize for the actions of those. They condemn it as everyone does.

      Just like its not you job to personally apologize for all lunatics that walk about your neighborhood, killing, murdering and doing even worse. Or apologizing for your governments actions in going and killing a bunch on innocent people who have never done any harm to you.

      So if you want to start apologizing for all the crimes committed by, you relatives, neighbors, community members, religious groups, organisations, namesakes or any other body remotely related to you. I will be more then happy to start apologizing for the same. When do you want to start Gavin?

      Also i may remind you that there are a lot of LAW’s limiting free speech, specifically doing what has been done to muslim’s if it was done to Jews the Magazine would have been fined and the cartoonist jailed. So please dont go about preaching Free Speech. As we speak there are people(non-Muslims) being brought to criminal courts just because they spoke out against what the magazine did.

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        Gavin

        January 19, 2015 at 7:46 AM

        You must not have heard about the lowlifes who killed a bunch of innocent people over a cartoon, M. Mahmud.

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        Gavin

        January 19, 2015 at 7:50 AM

        How about everyone who wants to focus on the cartoon instead of the murderous psychopaths who killed innocent people apologize to the entire world for their incredibly stupid, rude, belligerent attitude?

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        M. Mahmud

        May 6, 2015 at 1:31 AM

        Gavin I repeat-none of us owe you an apology. If you want an apology, try to run in-front of me when I’m driving or something. Barring that, you won’t get an apology so get off your knees and stop begging for one. It’s undignified.

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      M. Mahmud

      January 15, 2015 at 10:30 PM

      None of us owe you an apology.

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      Haider Rehman

      June 18, 2015 at 2:41 PM

      Why should I apologize for a crime some other person committed? I can only condemn it, and that’s what I do.
      Non-Muslims used to disrespect prophet PBUH, but he tolerated them. We educate people that they are not following prophet PBUH by murdering people who disrespect him. But I do NOT owe you an apology if a particular group does not heed to it.

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    Haig McCarrell

    January 17, 2015 at 9:15 PM

    I am a Christian and after these attacks I tweeted: “Je ne suis pas Charlie Hebdo”, I am not Charlie Hebdo. Why? I find the cartoons to be gratuitous and that they were offensive, immature, peurile and in the end, irresponsible. Mere offence is not satire. Satire is intended to criticize, expose hypocrisy or complicity and tends to take on “untouchables”. It has intent to illicit discussion and to challenge those given or having power. Just the same, commentary, even offensive commentary, does not justify taking life, which was also wrong.

    As you note this is not Muhammad’s way, nor is ti Jesus’ way. On the cross, he asked his Father in heaven to forgive those who killed him, saying that they did not know what they were doing. When we foment hatred, unrest, slander and intolerance, we disobey God’s will for us. When we kill another, we desicrate his image in which we are all made.

    Where do we go from here? I hope leaders in our communities, elected officials, those in authority, Muslims, Christians and others can discuss inclusion, understanding and mutual respect. In North America, a very high percentage of Muslims identify as American and Canadian. National identification is a very low number in some European countries such as France and maybe the UK too? How are immigrants and minorities being included and integrated? How do they have opportunity and hope for a better life.

    This is a problem elsewhere too. This is a human problem. The discussion ought to be expanded to discuss the fate of Christians and other minorities including Muslims in the Middle East for example. When we come together and advocate for each other, and permit unfettered freedom of religion without compulsion in all countries, we will live out God’s call to foster the dignity of each person.

    I hope you agree and you will be an advocate for this inclusion without fear as well. Peace.

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    Truth

    January 25, 2015 at 11:09 AM

    White people are trying to demonize the Muslims to make their murder of them fair-seeming and justified – the same as white people did to the Natives of every continent and island before they slaughtered them and stole their lands and resources!! Muslims are the final feast for these white satanic BEASTS! As prophesied!

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      Haider Rehman

      June 18, 2015 at 2:44 PM

      I think you have a problem against white people, which I as a Muslim and a human, find disturbing.

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    arshad bin zakir

    March 2, 2015 at 1:28 PM

    peace be upon all,,,,,,,,,,,
    I wonder that some people only only these few people who are killing people (as they are killing even muslims) nowhere is such thing to kill people, while more than 1.8 billion muslims condemn this shameful act.

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    iftekhar

    May 6, 2015 at 5:54 AM

    assalam
    the best way to protest is to introduce all human beings about Prophet (SWS) and his teaching.

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    Sheima Salam Sumer

    May 31, 2015 at 2:12 AM

    http://www.islamicity.com/articles/articles.asp?ref=ic0811-3718

    To Jalalaa: First, scholars of Islam have shown that our beloved Prophet (s) actually married Aisha (r) when she was around 17. You can view the above link. And even though some scholars said that she was younger, you need to understand that in that time and culture, marrying young was very normal. The Quran and Islam teach that both people need to be at the age of maturity when they get married:

    “Test the orphans until they reach the age of marriage ; if you then find sound judgment in them, release their property to them… When you release their property to them, take witnesses in their presence.” (Quran, 4:6)
    In this passage, marriageable age is equated with sound judgment–an age at which a person can responsibly handle his or her wealth & possessions. Common sense, then, would dictate that a person has not reached marriageable age until adulthood, since children could hardly be expected to look after their possessions responsibly.

    This passage is from a great article by Ro Waseem that I recommend you read: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/quranalyzeit/2015/03/08/child-brides-and-the-quran-dispelling-the-misconceptions-on-international-womens-day/

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    Sweetz

    June 22, 2015 at 5:20 PM

    Before world leaders marched in Paris, the Muslim world had condemned the actions of the gunmen. But, I guess such actions are overrided by Hate for Muslims in general, rather than for the few Radicals.

    Furthermore, I stand corrected, but Muslims are not permitted to draw anything that depicts life, not even animals. Neither can we pray where such pictures are visible. One won’t find photos displayed in a Muslim home either as we know the consequences.

    Don’t understand the reason that people want to draw The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) other than to provoke pain to Muslims. Has a Muslim drawn anything to upset any other religion?

    The action of extremists cannot be blamed on over 1.6 billion and still growing Muslims.

    THEIR REACTION IS NOT CONDONED!

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      Aliama Mehru

      June 29, 2015 at 3:32 PM

      Seems to me that the Man Mohammed has become an idol! What has been written about idols?

      “Muslims have to remember that by depicting the Prophet (peace be upon him) no one can ever tarnish his image, as he is way beyond what is depicted, as Allah says, ‘We have elevated your remembrance’. We should spend such regrettable moments in supplicating with many litanies and prayers of blessings on the Prophet; may Allah’s mercy, peace and blessing be upon his soul.”

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Convert Story: To Ask Or Not to Ask, That is the Question

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“How did you convert to Islam” is a question that is commonly asked to those who convert to Islam. While the short answer to this question is, “I said shahada”, the long (and more detailed) answer is one that is commonly expected.

It is important to acknowledge that the majority of “born Muslims” who ask this question do such out of good intentions. For this reason, I wrote this piece out of a place of love and not out of a place of judgment or hatred. While it is important for “born Muslims” to be mindful of how they ask this question, it is equally important for converts to not hold ill will towards born Muslims who ask this question. Due to the fact that Islamophobia is rampant in both the media and political discourse, many “born Muslims” are naturally shocked and emotional when they meet people who accept Islam. Some “born Muslims” have also had limited interactions with converts and therefore, to them, it is not only shocking for them to meet converts, but they are genuinely unaware of certain etiquettes when it comes to asking a convert for his or her story.

In this piece, I am going to write about a pet peeve that is shared among many Muslim converts. While I cannot speak for every single convert, I can say that based on innumerable conversations I have had with fellow converts, there is one thing most of us agree on and it is this; it is rude to ask a convert about his or her conversion story when you haven’t built a relationship with the convert. This piece will explain why many converts consider such a question to be intrusive. The purpose of this article is to better educate the “born Muslim” community on how they can do a better job in support of converts to Islam. In this piece, I will break down the reasons why this question can come off as intrusive if it isn’t asked in a proper manner. I will also include personal anecdotes to support my position.

I would like to conclude by saying that I do not discourage “born Muslims” from asking this question entirely, rather I am merely arguing that this question should be asked with the best of adab.

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:  “Part of a person’s being a good Muslim is leaving alone that which does not concern him.” (Tirmidhi) For this reason, such a question should be asked for purpose and it should be done with the best of manners. This is supported by the fact that Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, “I have been sent to perfect good character.” (Al Muwatta)

Note: For the sake of avoiding confusion, the term “born Muslim” is defined as anyone who was brought up in a Muslim household.

To ask a convert “Why did you convert?” is to ask about the person’s personal relationship with God

Within the context of a friendship, it is generally understood that friends will share personal details with each other. However, it is also generally understood that it is rude to ask people you just met personal questions. To ask a new acquaintance a personal question in most cases comes off as intrusive. This is especially the case in which you ask a person about his or her relationship with God.

For example, there are women who do not wear hijab. Even if we do (for a moment) ignore the Islamic ruling concerning hijab, we should all agree that a woman’s reason for wearing (or not wearing) hijab is a personal matter that is between said woman and God. If one was to ask a woman who doesn’t wear hijab why she doesn’t wear it, that would be intrusive because such a question would involve interrogating said woman about her relationship with God.

Another example concerns a married couple. If one was to meet a married person for the first time, it can be considered rude to ask said person about his or her relationship with his or her spouse.

When one asks a convert about his or her choice to convert, one is literally asking said convert about his or her relationship with God.

I am not saying that it is wrong in all cases to ask such a question. However, one should be mindful of the fact that because this is a personal question, one should have at least have built some form of a friendship with said person before asking.

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To ask a convert “Why did you convert?” is another way of asking, “Why do you believe in Islam?”

Many people identify to a faith tradition because it was part of their upbringing. If you were to ask a person who was born Muslim, “why are you Muslim?” you might hear said Muslim respond with, “I am Muslim because I was raised Muslim” and you wouldn’t hear a detailed answer beyond this.

In most cases, a convert to Islam (or any other religion) did such after research and critical thinking. To convert to a new religion involves not only deep thinking but a willingness to step into the unknown.

I have on many occasions told my story to people. In most cases I will ask the person “why do you believe in Islam?” I am then disappointed when I find out that the only reason the person is Muslim is due to upbringing. While I am not saying that said person’s faith is invalid or less than mine, a person who only identifies with a religion due to upbringing is a person who didn’t engage in critical thinking.

Any relationship should be built upon equality and mutual benefit. If I as a convert am able to provide a well thought out answer as to why I believe in Islam, I expect a well thought out answer to the same question from the person who initially asked me.

Again, while I am not saying it is wrong in all cases to ask, a born Muslim should ask himself or herself “why do I believe in Islam?” In my opinion, there are many who are born into Muslim families who don’t truly believe until later in their lives. Those Muslims in my opinion (and mine alone) are similar to converts.

To ask a convert “Why did you convert?” is to ask the convert to perform labor.

In some cases, “born Muslims” expect converts to tell their stories. I can remember a few incidents in which I have been asked to tell my story and I politely declined. In response, the person became angry. This to me is a symptom of entitlement. Nobody is entitled to know anything about anyone else (aside from people with whom one has a natural relationship with).

In addition, one should be cognizant of the fact that converts typically get asked this question repeatedly. Thus after a significant amount of time, a convert is prone to get tired of repeating the same question over again repeatedly. Naturally, it can become exhausting eventually.

While I do not believe it is wrong to ask this question in all cases, one should not ask this question to a convert from a place of entitlement. I can think of cases where I have been asked this question by “born Muslims” and when I have refused to provide an answer, they have gotten angry at me. This is entitlement.

To ask a convert “Why did you convert?” is to ask the convert to explain his or her personal life.

Backbiting is one of the worst sins in Islam. Another major sin is to disrespect one’s parents. Thus we can conclude that backbiting about one’s parents is a huge sin.

This is evidenced by the fact that Allah has said (ﷻ) “We have enjoined on humankind kindness to parents.” (Quran 29:8)

A typical follow-up question to “Why did you convert?” is “How did your parents react?” This in many cases puts the convert in a position where one may feel pressured to mention some negative details about his or her parents. In Islam, parents are to be respected, even if they aren’t Muslim.

Before asking a convert this question, one should be mindful of not putting unnecessary pressure on the convert to commit this injustice.

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Cases when it is appropriate to ask

However, I do maintain a firm belief that in any true friendship, things will be shared. I don’t think it is wrong in itself to ask a convert about his or her story provided that there already exists a relationship where personal information can be shared. It is highly suggested to hang out with the person first and then ask the convert for his or her story.

As a personal rule of mine, unless I have hung out with the person one on one at least once (or a few times in group gatherings) I don’t tell any born Muslims my conversion story. Naturally, I only share personal details with people I consider to be a friend. If I would hang out with the person, I consider that person to be a friend.

The reason I am also hesitant to share my story with just anyone who asks me is because I can think of countless cases of when I have shared my story to people I have never seen or heard from again. I choose to exert my agency to share personal details of my life to people who I consider to be part of my life. While many Muslims are happy when people convert, many Muslims also fail to provide any form of support for said convert after conversion. I have seen too many cases of when a person recites shahadah, people pull their phones out to record it, but very few will give the convert his or her number. I genuinely believe that many “born Muslims” fail to see the big picture in this regard.

Before asking a convert for his or her story, you should ask yourself if you are comfortable sharing personal details of your life to that person. If you are not comfortable sharing personal details of your life to that person, there is nothing wrong with that. However, you shouldn’t expect the convert to share personal details if you aren’t comfortable sharing personal details. Even if you have built a close friendship with someone, you still aren’t expected to share every detail of your life to someone. Even if you consider a convert to be a close friend, you should still respect a convert’s wishes to not share his or her story.

Conclusion

While I have addressed concerns about the tendency of “born Muslims” to ask converts about their journeys, I want to acknowledge that most people have good intentions. In Islam, the natural state of any person is one of righteousness.

I firmly believe that a friendship that isn’t built on trust and the sharing of personal information isn’t a genuine friendship. Therefore the key term in this context is “friend”. If you wish to ask a convert his or her story, please make sure the following conditions are met:

  1. You are already friends with the convert to a point where asking a convert about his or her relationship with God isn’t an intrusive question. Ask yourself, “Are we close enough where we can share other personal details of our lives with each other?”
  2. You have a well thought out reason as to why you believe in Islam.
  3. You don’t feel entitled to know about the convert’s journey and that you will allow the convert to choose not to share such information if the convert doesn’t wish to.
  4. You don’t probe into the convert’s relationships with other people.
  5. You aren’t just asking the question to somehow feel validated about your belief in Islam.

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10 Lessons I Learned While Serving Those in Need

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I have spent about a decade serving the impoverished domestically and recently, abroad. I don’t work for a major charity organization, I work for my community, through grassroots efforts. It was something embedded in me while learning Islam. Before starting a charity organization, I started studying Islam with Dr. Hatem Alhaj (my mentor) and various other scholars. The more I studied, the more I wanted to implement what I was learning. What my community needed at the time was intensive charity work, as it was neglected entirely by our community. From that, I collected 10 lessons from servicing those in need. 

1. My bubble burst

One of the first things I experienced was the bursting of my bubble, a sense of realization. I, like many others, was unaware of the hardship in my own community. Yes, we know the hadith and see the events unfold on the news and social media, but when a father of three cried before me because a bag of groceries was made available for him to take home, that moment changed me. We tend to forget how little it takes, to make a huge difference in someone’s life. This experience, made me understand the following hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): “Every Muslim has to give in charity.” The people then asked: “(But what) if someone has nothing to give, what should he do?” The Prophet replied: “He should work with his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns).” The people further asked: “If he cannot find even that?” He replied: “He should help the needy, who appeal for help.” Then the people asked: “If he cannot do (even) that?” The Prophet said finally: “Then he should perform good deeds and keep away from evil deeds, and that will be regarded as charitable deeds.” – Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 524. I

t is simply an obligation, due to the amount of good it generates after you do this one action. I then realized even more how beautiful Islam is for commanding this deed. 

2. Friendships were developed on good deeds

Serving the poor is a great reward in itself. The Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “Save yourself from hellfire by giving even half a date-fruit in charity.” – Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 498. But it is better done with a team, I began building a team of people with similar objectives in serving the needy. These people later became some of my closest friends, who better to keep close to you than one that serves Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) by helping the neediest in the same community you reside in. Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” [reported by Abu Dawood & Tirmidhee] This is turn kept me on the right path of pleasing Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). Working with a team removes a lot of the burden as well and the depression that might occur seeing the saddest stories on a daily basis. Allah says in the Qur’ān, “Indeed the believers are brothers.” (49:10). Sometimes there is a misconception that you have to have a huge office or a large masjid in order to get work done. But honestly, all you need is a dedicated group of people with the right intention and things take off from there. 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: 'If you love the poor and bring them near you. . .God will bring you near Him on the Day of Resurrection.' - Al-Tirmidhi,Click To Tweet

3. Made me thankful

This made me thankful for whatever I had, serving the less fortunate reminded me daily to turn to Allah and ask for forgiveness and so be thankful. This kind of service also puts things into perspective. What is truly important in life? I stepped further and further away from a materialistic lifestyle and allowed me to value things that can’t be valued by money. I learned this from the poorest of people in my community, who strived daily for their family regardless of their situation — parents who did what they can to shield their children from their harsh reality. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “If you love the poor and bring them near you. . .God will bring you near Him on the Day of Resurrection.” – Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1376. They had a quality about them, despite their poverty status. They were always some of the kindest people I have known. 

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4. People want to do Good

I learned that people want to do good; they want to improve their community and society. I began to see the impact on a communal level, people were being more engaged. We were the only Muslim group helping indiscriminately in our county. Even the people we helped, gave back by volunteering at our food pantry. We have schools where small kids (under adult supervision) partake in preparing meals for the needy, local masajids, churches, and temples, high school kids from public schools, and college organizations (Muslim and nonMuslim) visit frequently from several cities in neighboring counties, cities, and states. The good spreads a lot easier and faster than evil. People want to do good, we just need more opportunities for them to join in. United we can rock this world.

“We need more light about each other. Light creates understanding, understanding creates love, love creates patience, and patience creates unity.” Malcolm X. Click To Tweet

5. Smiles

Smiles, I have seen the wealthiest smiles on the poorest people. Despite being on the brink of homelessness, when I saw them they had the best smile on their faces. This wasn’t all of them, but then I would smile back and that changed the environment we were in. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Charity is prescribed for each descendant of Adam every day the sun rises.” He was then asked: “From what do we give charity every day?” The Prophet answered: “The doors of goodness are many…enjoining good, forbidding evil, removing harm from the road, listening to the deaf, leading the blind, guiding one to the object of his need, hurrying with the strength of one’s legs to one in sorrow who is asking for help, and supporting the feeble with the strength of one’s arms–all of these are charity prescribed for you.” He also said: “Your smile for your brother is charity.” – Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 3, Number 98. Smiles are truly universal.

6. It’s ok to cry

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah said: “A man who weeps for fear of Allah will not enter Hell until the milk goes back into the udder, and dust produced (when fighting) for the sake of Allah and the smoke of Hell will never coexist.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and al-Nasaa’i. There are situations you see that hit you hard; they fill your heart with emotions, but that never swayed my concrete belief in Allah’s wisdom. Crying before Allah, not just out of fear, but to be thankful for His Mercy upon you is a relief.

7. Learning to say no

It was one of the hardest things I had to do, a lot (if not all) of the requests I received for help were extremely reasonable. I do not think anyone asked for anything outrageous. Our organization started becoming the go-to organization in our area for help, but we are one organization, with limited resources, and a few times we were restricted on when or how we could help. This is where learning to say no became a learned skill. Wedid do our best to follow up with a plan or an alternative resource.

8. It is part of raising a family and finding yourself

How so? Being involved in your community doesn’t take away from raising your family, it is part of it. I can’t watch and do nothing and expect my children to be heroes. I have to lead by example. Helping others is good for my family’s health. Many people living in our country are consumed with their busy lives. Running out the door, getting to work, driving the kids to their after school activities, spending weekends taking care of their families, etc. So people have a fear of investing hours in doing this type of work. But in reality, this work puts more blessings in your time.

One may feel they are taking time away from their family, but in reality, when one comes back home, they find more peace in their home then they left it with. By helping others, I improve the health and culture of my community, this in turn positively impacts my family.

I enjoy being a softie with my family and friends. I am a tall bearded man, and that image suited me better. I am not sure what made me softer, having kids or serving the poor. Either way, it was rewarding and defined my role and purpose in my community.

I learned that you make your own situation. You can be a spectator, or you can get in there and do the best you can to help. It gave me an opportunity to be a role model for my own children, to show them the benefit of doing good and helping when you can.

It came with a lot of humility. Soon after starting I realized that all I am is a facilitator, Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) is giving an opportunity of a lifetime to do this work, a line of work very little people get to engage in regularly. My advice to my readers, if you can serve the poor do so immediately before you get occupied or busy with life.

Helping others is good for my family’s health.Click To Tweet

9. Dawah through action

As I mentioned before I did spend time studying, and at one point developed one of the top dawah initiatives in the country (according to IERA). But the reality is, helping the less fortunate is my type of dawah, people started to associate our food pantry and helping others with Islam. As an organization with one of the most diverse groups of volunteers, people from various religious backgrounds found the environment comfortable and hospitable. I began working with people I never would have worked before if I had stuck to traditional dawah, studying, or masjid involvement, all of which are critical. This became a symbol of Islam in our community, and while serving, we became those that embodied the Quran and Sunnah. For a lot of those we served, we were the first Muslims they encountered, and Alhamdulilah for the team we have. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) also says in the Quran: “So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you” (3:159). It is our actions that can turn people away or towards Islam.

10. Once you serve the needy, you do this for life

I wasn’t volunteering on occasion,— this was an unpaid job that was done regularly. I got requests and calls for emergencies daily at times. It took up hours upon hours every week. As a charity worker, I developed experience and insight in this field. I learned that this was one of the best ways I could serve Allah [swt. “They ask you (O Muhammad) what they should spend in charity. Say: ‘Whatever you spend with a good heart, give it to parents, relatives, orphans, the helpless, and travelers in need. Whatever good you do, God is aware of it.'” – The Holy Quran, 2:215

I believe the work I do with the countless people that do the same is the best work that can be done in our current political climate and globalization. My views and thoughts have evolved over the years seeing situations develop to what they are today. This gave me a comprehensive outlook on our needs as a society and allowed me to venture off and meet people top in their fields like in social activism, environmentalism, labor, etc.

I want to end with three sectors in society that Muslims prosper in and three that Muslims can improve on. We strive on individual education (noncommunal), distributing and organizing charity, and more recently being politically engaged. What we need to improve on is our environmental awareness, working with and understanding unions and labor rights, and organizing anti-war movements. 

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He Catches Me When I Fall: A Journey To Tawakkul

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While discussing an emotionally-heavy issue, my therapist brought up the point that in life we can reach a point of acceptance in regards to our difficult issues: “It sounds cliche, but there’s no other way to say it: it is what it is.”

Okay, I thought, as I listened. Acceptance. Yes, I can do this eventually. She went on to add: “It is what it is, and I know that everything will be okay.””

Tears had already been flowing, but by this point, full-blown sobs started. “I…can’t….seem…to ever…believe that.” There. I had said it. I had faked being confident and accepting, even to myself. I had faked the whole, “I have these health problems, but I am so together” type of vibe that I had been putting out for years.

Maybe it was the hormones of a third pregnancy, confronting the realities of life with multiple chronic diseases, family problems, or perhaps a midlife crisis: but at that moment, I did not feel deep in my heart with true conviction that everything would be okay.

That conversation led me to reflect on the concept of tawakkul in the following weeks and months. What did it mean to have true trust in Allah? And why was it that for years I smiled and said, “Alhamdulillah, I’m coping just fine!” when in reality, the harsh truth was that I felt like I had not an ounce of tawakkul?

I had led myself to believe that denying my grief and slapping a smile on was tawakkul. I was being outwardly cheerful — I even made jokes about my life with Multiple Sclerosis — and I liked to think I was functioning all right. Until I wasn’t.

You see, the body doesn’t lie. You can tell all the lies you want to with your tongue, but after some time, the body will let you know that it’s holding oceans of grief, unshed tears, and unhealed traumas. And that period of my life is a tale for another time.

The short story is that things came to a head and I suddenly felt utterly overwhelmed and terrified daily about my future with a potentially disabling disease, while being diagnosed with a second major chronic illness, all while caring for a newborn along with my other children. Panic attacks and severe anxiety ensued. When I realized that I didn’t have true tawakkul, I had to reflect and find my way again.

I thought about Yaqub (Jacob). I thought long and hard about his grief: “Yaa asafaa ‘alaa Yusuf!” “Oh, how great is my grief for Joseph!”

He wept until he was blind. And yet, he constantly asserted, “Wallahul-Musta’aan”: “Allah is the one whose help is sought.” And he believed.

Oh, how did he believe. His sons laughed and called him an old fool for grieving over a son lost for decades. He then lost another dear son, Binyamin. And yet he said, “Perhaps it will be that my Lord will bring them to me altogether.”

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So my first realization was that there was no sin in the grief. I could indeed trust Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) while feeling a sorrow so profound that it ripped me apart at times. “The heart grieves and the eyes weep, but the tongue does not say that except which pleases its Lord. Oh, Ibrahim, we are gravely saddened by your passing.” These are the words of our Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) for a lost infant son, said with tears pouring down his blessed face, ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him).

I thought of the Year of Grief, Aamul-Huzn, when he, Allah’s peace be upon him, lost the woman who was the love of his life and the mother of his children; as well as an uncle who was like a father. The year was named after his grief! And here I was denying myself this human emotion because it somehow felt like a betrayal of true sabr?

Tawakkul, tawakkul, where are you? I searched for how I could feel it, truly feel it.Click To Tweet

Through years of introspection and then therapy, I realized that I had a personality that centered around control. I expressed this in various ways from trying to manage my siblings (curse of the firstborn), to trying to manage my childbirth and health. If I only did the “right” things, then I could have the perfect, “natural” birth and the perfect picture of health.

When I was diagnosed with a chronic disease, these illusions started to crack. And yet even then, I thought that if I did the right things, took the right supplements and alternative remedies and medications, that I wouldn’t have trouble with my MS.

See, when you think you control things and you attempt to micromanage everything, you’ve already lost tawakkul. You’ve taken the role of controlling the outcome upon yourself when in reality, your Lord is in control. It took a difficult time when I felt I was spiraling out of control for me to truly realize that I was not the master of my outcomes. Certainly, I would “tie my camel” and take my precautions, but then it was a matter of letting go.

At some point, I envisioned my experience of tawakkul as a free-fall. You know those trust exercises that you do at summer camps or company retreats? You fall back into the arms of someone and relinquish any control over your muscles. You are supposed to be limp and fully trust your partner to catch you.

I did this once with a youth group. After they fell–some gracefully and trusting, some not — I told them: “This is the example of tawakkul. Some of you didn’t trust and you tried to break your fall but some of you completely let go and let your partner catch you. Life will throw you down, it will hit you over and over, and you will fall–but He, subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He), will be there to break your fall.”

I am falling. There is a degree of terror and sadness in the fall. But that point when through the pain and tears I can say, “It is what it is, and no matter what, everything will be okay”, that right there is the tranquility that comes from tawakkul.

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