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Keys To Improve Your Marriage with Haleh Banani: Communication
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Saliha
December 4, 2014 at 12:44 PM
Salam Dr. Banani,
thanks for your talk. I wonder though about I statements. When people use them on me, I really find them just another form of passive aggression: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cui-bono/201211/are-i-statements-better-you-statements
Saliha
December 4, 2014 at 12:46 PM
as-salam alaykum Dr. Banani; are you sure that I-statements are the answer? often they can just make things worse, in my experience. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cui-bono/201211/are-i-statements-better-you-statements
Sharmeen
December 5, 2014 at 6:39 AM
MashaAllah your wise words amazed me Dr. Haleh Banani. I’m not married yet but will definitely keep them in my mind and my sisters can also be benefited by your words. May Allah bless you, you’re doing a great job.
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ummrayhan
December 5, 2014 at 11:11 PM
Asalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakahtuh. I think the I statement is meant in a different way. If trying to explain something that bothers you in a relationship you don’t want to hear “You make me feel like a loser”. You want to say it a bit like “When you say these things I feel like a loser/it makes me feel like a loser”. It’s meant to take the blame away. I statements in a CV or a MM piece come across as arrogant, true. But not if used wisely in a communication situation
Umm hadi
December 6, 2014 at 10:31 AM
Jazakillahu Khair Sr. Very helpful and thoughtful.
Sheima Salam Sumer
December 8, 2014 at 3:41 AM
As salamualaikum! I just watched the first and second videos in Dr. Banani’s series and have shared them with others. May Allah (swt) bless Dr. Banani and the Muslim Matters team for creating such a helpful video series for our ummah. I found the videos simple, easy to apply and amazingly useful, Mash’Allah.
Nova
December 21, 2014 at 10:34 PM
Good advice except for one thing…some relationships are so engrained with years of pain and suffering not even therapy is going to save it. In fact the only hope is that both will realize the only way to salvage the family is to end the marriage. Sad but true.
Babar
December 24, 2014 at 7:20 AM
An easy way to improve marriage – women should stop taunting, nagging, and trying to control their husbands. A man today has been reduced to an ATM, who must fulfill all the wishes of his wife, and then have her constantly complain, showing ingratitude after spending his money on shopping, clothes, sandals, constant visits to boutiques and beauty saloons, driving his car, living in his house, etc. Today, men are not seen as human beings, only women’s drivers, porters, and ATMs.
asma
January 8, 2015 at 8:52 AM
Brother, for this matter you need to communicate with your spouse in all respects, Communications matters!
asma
January 8, 2015 at 8:49 AM
Asalamualikum Sister,
SubhanAllah very wise pointers. May Allah help us to act on these. Aameen!
Shailesh
August 28, 2015 at 4:04 AM
http://muslimmatters.org/2015/01/08/keys-to-improve-your-marriage-with-haleh-banani-2/#comment-144917
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