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Keys To Improve Your Marriage with Haleh Banani: Communication

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December 4, 2014

An introduction to the series: Keys to Improve Your Marriage.

No matter what stage you are at in your marriage you can benefit from the information given by Haleh Banani who has her Masters in Clinical Psychology, with over 15 years experience giving marital and individual therapy. She will give you the necessary tools to improve your marriage by answering some of the most frequently asked questions.

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Communicating with your spouse doesn’t have to be a boxing match with the couple throwing punches and defending themselves. In this video Haleh Banani will discuss the common communication problems and ways to counter them. She will give specific tools in improving the communication with your spouse.

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Haleh Banani

Haleh Banani holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. A faith-based counselor, life coach, and mental health professional who has served the community since 1998 by saving hundreds of marriages and helping thousands of people around the world overcome their challenges and become the most amazing version of themselves. The host of "With Haleh" on Al-Fajr TV and was a featured expert on Al-Jazeera international and other media outlets. She is an international speaker and writer. https://halehbanani.com

12 Comments

Saliha

December 4, 2014 at 12:44 PM

Salam Dr. Banani,
thanks for your talk. I wonder though about I statements. When people use them on me, I really find them just another form of passive aggression: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cui-bono/201211/are-i-statements-better-you-statements

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Saliha

December 4, 2014 at 12:46 PM

as-salam alaykum Dr. Banani; are you sure that I-statements are the answer? often they can just make things worse, in my experience. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cui-bono/201211/are-i-statements-better-you-statements

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Sharmeen

December 5, 2014 at 6:39 AM

MashaAllah your wise words amazed me Dr. Haleh Banani. I’m not married yet but will definitely keep them in my mind and my sisters can also be benefited by your words. May Allah bless you, you’re doing a great job.

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ummrayhan

December 5, 2014 at 11:11 PM

Asalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakahtuh. I think the I statement is meant in a different way. If trying to explain something that bothers you in a relationship you don’t want to hear “You make me feel like a loser”. You want to say it a bit like “When you say these things I feel like a loser/it makes me feel like a loser”. It’s meant to take the blame away. I statements in a CV or a MM piece come across as arrogant, true. But not if used wisely in a communication situation

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Umm hadi

December 6, 2014 at 10:31 AM

Jazakillahu Khair Sr. Very helpful and thoughtful.

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Sheima Salam Sumer

December 8, 2014 at 3:41 AM

As salamualaikum! I just watched the first and second videos in Dr. Banani’s series and have shared them with others. May Allah (swt) bless Dr. Banani and the Muslim Matters team for creating such a helpful video series for our ummah. I found the videos simple, easy to apply and amazingly useful, Mash’Allah.

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Nova

December 21, 2014 at 10:34 PM

Good advice except for one thing…some relationships are so engrained with years of pain and suffering not even therapy is going to save it. In fact the only hope is that both will realize the only way to salvage the family is to end the marriage. Sad but true.

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Babar

December 24, 2014 at 7:20 AM

An easy way to improve marriage – women should stop taunting, nagging, and trying to control their husbands. A man today has been reduced to an ATM, who must fulfill all the wishes of his wife, and then have her constantly complain, showing ingratitude after spending his money on shopping, clothes, sandals, constant visits to boutiques and beauty saloons, driving his car, living in his house, etc. Today, men are not seen as human beings, only women’s drivers, porters, and ATMs.

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- asma
  
  January 8, 2015 at 8:52 AM
  
  Brother, for this matter you need to communicate with your spouse in all respects, Communications matters!
  
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asma

January 8, 2015 at 8:49 AM

Asalamualikum Sister,
SubhanAllah very wise pointers. May Allah help us to act on these. Aameen!

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