Haleh Banani | Where Psychology Meets Islam | Forgiveness – Part 1

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   noufal

   September 6, 2012 at 3:37 PM

   good

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   Skewed Image of Forgiveness

   June 19, 2014 at 12:44 PM

   I understand in the video that she is trying to explain that you should not remain a victim of your circumstances and try to rise above hardships, but I find it extremely disturbing that as a psychologist she is essentially saying to forgive people who have sexually or physically abused you. As a Muslim and as a human being, you should NOT feel pressured to forgive such things. She mentions Nelson Mandala being imprisoned for 27 years and managed to forgive his oppressors. While this is a valiant and noble story to tell, this invalidates other people’s hardships and sets a bar of unrealistic expectations on the viewer. In Islam, you are NOT expected to forgive even though it is an option. It is you right to seek justice if you need it. IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF SEXUAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE, PLEASE do not hesitate to reach out for help, to call the authorities, to call a sexual or physical abuse helpline and to get yourself OUT of harmful situations.
   Forgiveness may or may not come with time and with effort and long after you have been healed, but you don’t need to force yourself to forgive someone who has oppressed you in such a horrendous way. Make duaa to get better and then go out there and seek counseling, seek help, and don’t be silent if you are a victim of physical or sexual abuse.

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     Maryam

     April 12, 2015 at 7:45 PM

     Actually, Islam asks of you to forgive everything. And not hold It in your chest. Allah knows everything and will not let people who hurt you go unpunished.

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   RIDA BANANI

   June 23, 2015 at 7:38 AM

   FIRSTLY I WANT TO KNOW FROM WHERE U ARE ORIGINALLY.
   THEN, FROM WHERE (BANANI) COMES

   AS FOR ME OUR ANCESTORS ARE MIXED…SOME SAY FROM HADHRAMAUT (YEMEN) BANANA- CHANGED TO BANANI AND SOME SAY FROM INDIA (GUJRAT) SOME SAY WE R FROM MOROCCO AND SOME SAY FROM IRAQ.

   PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME IF U KNOW YOUR BACKGROUND MAY BE OUR GRAND GRAND FATHERS ARE THE SAME

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