Open Thread Sunday 12-20-2009 | Nikah and Walima… Speeches


As salamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allahi wa Barakatuhu.

posted by abu abdAllah Tariq Ahmed

Still thinking about current events, but a bit more personal in this instance. :) Just tonight a brother told me about the speech made by Ali ibn Talib radi Allaho anho after the Prophet sull Allaho alayhi wa sallam performed the wedding of Ali to Fatimah radi Allaho anha. Two points to remember from it: Ali praised Allah at the outset, and then he thanked the guests. And “tonight” means Wednesday night, because Sunday is my walima, bi’idhnillah.

Walhamdolillah. Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa billah.  If any of my guests are reading this, may Allah have made every footstep you traveled to be with us an increase in barakat for you.  As for those of you who have journeyed with me and my family for many years to this day, may Allah count your patience, your reminders, and your time with us, all of it as good deeds.  And those of the believers, be they friends, family, or musalleen, who wished to be with us but could not, may Allah bless you likewise, for His generosity and His capacity to reward are both limitless.  And for everyone who reads these words, may Allah guide you to the straight path.  Alhamdolillah, making dua for you and limiting my speech are my gifts to you.

So, heard any good speeches at a nikah or walima? What made the speech good or memorable (and hopefully both)?

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14 responses to “Open Thread Sunday 12-20-2009 | Nikah and Walima… Speeches”

  1. Nadim says:

    Fiqh of Zakat by Sh. Yusuf al Qardawi is finally available for free ($50+ value): and

  2. Jamal says:

    assalyum alikum,
    I have been to quite a bit of weddings now and i still havent been to a wedding which had a decent speech. In addition to that, when you ask the people how the wedding was, the answer is a quick “it was boring”.
    Now im a big proponent of having weddings segregated bceause i think its important to keep the two sexes separated. However, at the weddings I have seen, nothing happens on each side besides showing some old photos when they were kids which look just as cute as any other kid around and some embarrassing pictures which no one really cares about. I mean weddings are supposed to be something where we enjoy the celebration, not just sit down and talk like a bunch of old uncles. And for speeches, please someone post up some ideas because I dont want to have a 5 minute wedding. Also if someone could post up some ideas of how to make a wedding enjoyable (ofcouse in a halal manner), that would be great.

  3. Alhamdolillah, Who chose for me better than i could have chosen, Who planned for me better than i could have planned, wa razaqanee min ghayri hawlim minnee wa laa quwwatin. Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar!

    From the requirements of getting married is publicizing the marriage. I am hereby unilaterally promising that as long as I have any say in the Sunday Open Threads, that the announcements of your weddings are welcome here. Actual weddings. :) Not merely, “I’ve found the one!”

    A community needs a place to publicize such things, and for Muslims on-line, that place should be this weekly series. Please also send notice of aqeeqahs and deaths, too. You may invite people or you may merely make people aware.

    Also, please note that no pictures should be submitted with any haram content. If you think your picture might be borderline, please send just your text. All text will be considered, but the right is reserved to edit any submission and to refuse any submission without reservation. This offer may be canceled at any time without notice. Any published notice, even if edited by me, will still be your responsibility as to accuracy, etc. These restrictions and conditions may be changed or added to without exception, and other restrictions may apply.

  4. AnonyMouse says:

    All the best weddings I’ve been to have been the ones where my father did the speech… ‘cuz it turned the wedding into Religious Muslim Comedy Night :D
    A bit cheesy, but as long as we’re all cracking up, what the hey!

  5. BintKhalil says:

    Assalamu alaikum

    Another NYTimes piece about how religion has nothing to do with the Iraq war.

    • Aurora says:

      Watch the documentary, “No End In Sight.” It’s available on Google video. It tells you all the facts about the Iraq War and helps piece the puzzles together. SubhanAllah, it’s a real eye opener.

  6. shahgul says:

    I cannot stand weddings where Muslim ladies think it is ‘show your skin’ night, just because it is segregated. I cannot also stand weddings where the imam delivers a sermon, then the bridegroom’s father delivers a sermon, then the bride’s father delivers a sermon, then the groom delivers a sermon.

    Last time I attended a wedding, the younger guys picked up the bridegroom’s chair and danced with it Jewish style.

    I am all for some daff and dancing within limits.

    • ayesha says:

      “dancing within limits” opens doors for “dancing without limits..”….when one starts dancing you don’t realise how you endup dancing!!!!!!! .

    • zayna says:

      ummm, then why are you looking. :-P Weddings are for celebration and if it is segretated, pleaaase let women live, breathe a little and be women. *rolls her eyes*

  7. Qas says:

    An interesting passage I found in Prof. Jackson’s book, “Islam and the Blackamerican”:

    “The rewards that rapidly accrued to those who could claim even
    the most tenuous connection to the Muslim world and its religious authority
    were simply too great to resist. Blackamerican students who flocked to the
    Middle East only to flunk out of seminaries or to go no further than the language
    requirements for admission returned (often in full “regalia”) to positions
    of honor and respect, if not actual leadership. Indeed, a year (or even less)
    abroad, in any Muslim country (Arabic speaking or not), could offset completely
    the would-be negative implications of having barely graduated from
    high school or having never held down a steady job. In short, the “new” criterion
    engendered by the identification with Immigrant Islam provided a way
    for many of the less-accomplished to bypass traditional American paths to
    economic and social status, allowing them to cloak failure and the rejection of
    time-honored standards of social, interpersonal, and economic responsibility
    in the guise of religious commitment. In the end, the success rate of Blackamericans
    who ventured abroad to acquire the Islamic religious sciences
    turned out to be disappointingly low. As such, even if by the late 1980s almost
    every major U.S. city was home to a contingent of Blackamerican Muslims
    studying abroad, scholars who were capable of getting the Islamic religious
    sciences to speak effectively to their realities as Blackamericans were the exceptions
    rather than the rule.”

  8. najma says:

    Jazak Allah for your dua for those people that you know and don’t, It was very touching. May All swt bless you your family and all who read your post also.

  9. a_sister says:

    Asalaamu alaikum,

    Since this thread is sort of related to the topic of marriage, I was hoping someone could direct me to a good and comprehensive e-book on marriage in Islam (e.g. covering rights and obligations, etc.)??

    Jazak’Allahu khairun for any assistance!!

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