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Still thinking about current events, but a bit more personal in this instance. :) Just tonight a brother told me about the speech made by Ali ibn Talib radi Allaho anho after the Prophet sull Allaho alayhi wa sallam performed the wedding of Ali to Fatimah radi Allaho anha. Two points to remember from it: Ali praised Allah at the outset, and then he thanked the guests. And “tonight” means Wednesday night, because Sunday is my walima, bi’idhnillah.
Walhamdolillah. Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa billah. If any of my guests are reading this, may Allah have made every footstep you traveled to be with us an increase in barakat for you. As for those of you who have journeyed with me and my family for many years to this day, may Allah count your patience, your reminders, and your time with us, all of it as good deeds. And those of the believers, be they friends, family, or musalleen, who wished to be with us but could not, may Allah bless you likewise, for His generosity and His capacity to reward are both limitless. And for everyone who reads these words, may Allah guide you to the straight path. Alhamdolillah, making dua for you and limiting my speech are my gifts to you.
So, heard any good speeches at a nikah or walima? What made the speech good or memorable (and hopefully both)?
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assalyum alikum,
I have been to quite a bit of weddings now and i still havent been to a wedding which had a decent speech. In addition to that, when you ask the people how the wedding was, the answer is a quick “it was boring”.
Now im a big proponent of having weddings segregated bceause i think its important to keep the two sexes separated. However, at the weddings I have seen, nothing happens on each side besides showing some old photos when they were kids which look just as cute as any other kid around and some embarrassing pictures which no one really cares about. I mean weddings are supposed to be something where we enjoy the celebration, not just sit down and talk like a bunch of old uncles. And for speeches, please someone post up some ideas because I dont want to have a 5 minute wedding. Also if someone could post up some ideas of how to make a wedding enjoyable (ofcouse in a halal manner), that would be great.
Jazak’allah
wassalam
Alhamdolillah, Who chose for me better than i could have chosen, Who planned for me better than i could have planned, wa razaqanee min ghayri hawlim minnee wa laa quwwatin. Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar!
From the requirements of getting married is publicizing the marriage. I am hereby unilaterally promising that as long as I have any say in the Sunday Open Threads, that the announcements of your weddings are welcome here. Actual weddings. :) Not merely, “I’ve found the one!”
A community needs a place to publicize such things, and for Muslims on-line, that place should be this weekly series. Please also send notice of aqeeqahs and deaths, too. You may invite people or you may merely make people aware.
Also, please note that no pictures should be submitted with any haram content. If you think your picture might be borderline, please send just your text. All text will be considered, but the right is reserved to edit any submission and to refuse any submission without reservation. This offer may be canceled at any time without notice. Any published notice, even if edited by me, will still be your responsibility as to accuracy, etc. These restrictions and conditions may be changed or added to without exception, and other restrictions may apply.
All the best weddings I’ve been to have been the ones where my father did the speech… ‘cuz it turned the wedding into Religious Muslim Comedy Night :D
A bit cheesy, but as long as we’re all cracking up, what the hey!
Watch the documentary, “No End In Sight.” It’s available on Google video. It tells you all the facts about the Iraq War and helps piece the puzzles together. SubhanAllah, it’s a real eye opener.
I cannot stand weddings where Muslim ladies think it is ‘show your skin’ night, just because it is segregated. I cannot also stand weddings where the imam delivers a sermon, then the bridegroom’s father delivers a sermon, then the bride’s father delivers a sermon, then the groom delivers a sermon.
Last time I attended a wedding, the younger guys picked up the bridegroom’s chair and danced with it Jewish style.
ummm, then why are you looking. :-P Weddings are for celebration and if it is segretated, pleaaase let women live, breathe a little and be women. *rolls her eyes*
An interesting passage I found in Prof. Jackson’s book, “Islam and the Blackamerican”:
“The rewards that rapidly accrued to those who could claim even
the most tenuous connection to the Muslim world and its religious authority
were simply too great to resist. Blackamerican students who flocked to the
Middle East only to flunk out of seminaries or to go no further than the language
requirements for admission returned (often in full “regaliaâ€) to positions
of honor and respect, if not actual leadership. Indeed, a year (or even less)
abroad, in any Muslim country (Arabic speaking or not), could offset completely
the would-be negative implications of having barely graduated from
high school or having never held down a steady job. In short, the “new†criterion
engendered by the identification with Immigrant Islam provided a way
for many of the less-accomplished to bypass traditional American paths to
economic and social status, allowing them to cloak failure and the rejection of
time-honored standards of social, interpersonal, and economic responsibility
in the guise of religious commitment. In the end, the success rate of Blackamericans
who ventured abroad to acquire the Islamic religious sciences
turned out to be disappointingly low. As such, even if by the late 1980s almost
every major U.S. city was home to a contingent of Blackamerican Muslims
studying abroad, scholars who were capable of getting the Islamic religious
sciences to speak effectively to their realities as Blackamericans were the exceptions
rather than the rule.”
Jazak Allah for your dua for those people that you know and don’t, It was very touching. May All swt bless you your family and all who read your post also.
Since this thread is sort of related to the topic of marriage, I was hoping someone could direct me to a good and comprehensive e-book on marriage in Islam (e.g. covering rights and obligations, etc.)??
Nadim
December 20, 2009 at 12:27 AM
Fiqh of Zakat by Sh. Yusuf al Qardawi is finally available for free ($50+ value): http://bit.ly/6Xx5An and http://bit.ly/4BhYTB
Jamal
December 20, 2009 at 1:32 PM
assalyum alikum,
I have been to quite a bit of weddings now and i still havent been to a wedding which had a decent speech. In addition to that, when you ask the people how the wedding was, the answer is a quick “it was boring”.
Now im a big proponent of having weddings segregated bceause i think its important to keep the two sexes separated. However, at the weddings I have seen, nothing happens on each side besides showing some old photos when they were kids which look just as cute as any other kid around and some embarrassing pictures which no one really cares about. I mean weddings are supposed to be something where we enjoy the celebration, not just sit down and talk like a bunch of old uncles. And for speeches, please someone post up some ideas because I dont want to have a 5 minute wedding. Also if someone could post up some ideas of how to make a wedding enjoyable (ofcouse in a halal manner), that would be great.
Jazak’allah
wassalam
abu abdAllah Tariq Ahmed
December 20, 2009 at 6:51 PM
Alhamdolillah, Who chose for me better than i could have chosen, Who planned for me better than i could have planned, wa razaqanee min ghayri hawlim minnee wa laa quwwatin. Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar!
From the requirements of getting married is publicizing the marriage. I am hereby unilaterally promising that as long as I have any say in the Sunday Open Threads, that the announcements of your weddings are welcome here. Actual weddings. :) Not merely, “I’ve found the one!”
A community needs a place to publicize such things, and for Muslims on-line, that place should be this weekly series. Please also send notice of aqeeqahs and deaths, too. You may invite people or you may merely make people aware.
ummaasiyah
December 21, 2009 at 12:28 PM
I’m married :-P
But had I known about Muslim Matters just over a year ago, then I would have announced it on here:-)
abu abdAllah Tariq Ahmed
December 23, 2009 at 11:01 PM
You can e-mail me your announcements at tariqnisarahmed@gmail.com
AnonyMouse
December 21, 2009 at 2:30 PM
All the best weddings I’ve been to have been the ones where my father did the speech… ‘cuz it turned the wedding into Religious Muslim Comedy Night :D
A bit cheesy, but as long as we’re all cracking up, what the hey!
BintKhalil
December 23, 2009 at 9:28 PM
Assalamu alaikum
Another NYTimes piece about how religion has nothing to do with the Iraq war.
Aurora
December 24, 2009 at 2:13 AM
Watch the documentary, “No End In Sight.” It’s available on Google video. It tells you all the facts about the Iraq War and helps piece the puzzles together. SubhanAllah, it’s a real eye opener.
shahgul
December 24, 2009 at 10:48 PM
I cannot stand weddings where Muslim ladies think it is ‘show your skin’ night, just because it is segregated. I cannot also stand weddings where the imam delivers a sermon, then the bridegroom’s father delivers a sermon, then the bride’s father delivers a sermon, then the groom delivers a sermon.
Last time I attended a wedding, the younger guys picked up the bridegroom’s chair and danced with it Jewish style.
I am all for some daff and dancing within limits.
ayesha
December 25, 2009 at 7:39 AM
“dancing within limits” opens doors for “dancing without limits..”….when one starts dancing you don’t realise how you endup dancing!!!!!!! .
zayna
July 5, 2010 at 9:08 AM
ummm, then why are you looking. :-P Weddings are for celebration and if it is segretated, pleaaase let women live, breathe a little and be women. *rolls her eyes*
Qas
December 26, 2009 at 1:42 AM
An interesting passage I found in Prof. Jackson’s book, “Islam and the Blackamerican”:
“The rewards that rapidly accrued to those who could claim even
the most tenuous connection to the Muslim world and its religious authority
were simply too great to resist. Blackamerican students who flocked to the
Middle East only to flunk out of seminaries or to go no further than the language
requirements for admission returned (often in full “regaliaâ€) to positions
of honor and respect, if not actual leadership. Indeed, a year (or even less)
abroad, in any Muslim country (Arabic speaking or not), could offset completely
the would-be negative implications of having barely graduated from
high school or having never held down a steady job. In short, the “new†criterion
engendered by the identification with Immigrant Islam provided a way
for many of the less-accomplished to bypass traditional American paths to
economic and social status, allowing them to cloak failure and the rejection of
time-honored standards of social, interpersonal, and economic responsibility
in the guise of religious commitment. In the end, the success rate of Blackamericans
who ventured abroad to acquire the Islamic religious sciences
turned out to be disappointingly low. As such, even if by the late 1980s almost
every major U.S. city was home to a contingent of Blackamerican Muslims
studying abroad, scholars who were capable of getting the Islamic religious
sciences to speak effectively to their realities as Blackamericans were the exceptions
rather than the rule.”
najma
January 4, 2010 at 3:53 PM
Jazak Allah for your dua for those people that you know and don’t, It was very touching. May All swt bless you your family and all who read your post also.
a_sister
January 5, 2010 at 8:24 PM
Asalaamu alaikum,
Since this thread is sort of related to the topic of marriage, I was hoping someone could direct me to a good and comprehensive e-book on marriage in Islam (e.g. covering rights and obligations, etc.)??
Jazak’Allahu khairun for any assistance!!