Podcast: Sex, Marriage, and Mutual Obligations in Islam | Ustadh Mukhtar Ba

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   Abu Ismail

   December 4, 2020 at 7:06 AM

   A muslim man and a muslim woman, who dont seem to be mahrams, talking about sex just feels extremely awkward and inappropriate. Also i dont come to muslimmatters to often, but when i do there is always some article about sex and whatnot. I understand that this topic should be learned, but why is it brought up so often here? Very uncomfortable.

   Abu Ismail

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   B

   December 4, 2020 at 7:29 AM

   Narrated `Aisha:

   The Prophet (ﷺ) and I used to take a bath from a single pot while we were Junub. During the menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and used to fondle me. While in I`tikaf, he used to bring his head near me and I would wash it while I used to be in my periods (menses).

   Sahih al-Bukhari 299, 300, 301

   Who do you think Aisha was talking to? Both the Muslim men and women…why would she openly tell people that Rasoolulah used to fondle her? To teach the Muslims their religions and obligations..this is the sunnah of the righteous Muslims. There was no shyness in these matters with them and there isn’t with us.

   Your feelings that it’s inappropriate stem from your own cultural indoctrinations. Alhamdulilah Islam frees us from your form of thinking and slavery.

   It is also brought up often because we live in a time of widespread fasad and zina. It’s natural that topics covering those issues come up. The prevalence of the medicine matches the prevalence of the disease. Watch how many millions of vaccines they produce to treat the millions and covid infections and you’ll understand Insha Allah. May Allah grant you tawfeeq to recognise true Islam when you see it.

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   Spirituality

   December 4, 2020 at 9:15 AM

   As Salamu Alaikum, B,

   Thank you for your wonderful response to Abu Ismail, which I agree with until the very end (see below).

   Brother Abu Ismail, there is nothing wrong with non-mahram Muslim woman and a Muslim man having frank discussions of sex in a public forum with an intention to educate the larger community. If you know otherwise, please give us requisite proof for your position.

   B – I am concerned about how you ended your post: ‘The prevalence of the medicine matches the prevalence of the disease. Watch how many millions of vaccines they produce to treat the millions and covid infections and you’ll understand Insha Allah.’

   Unfortunately, I do not understand; would you clarify? My understanding as a health professional is that COVID-19 is transmitted through respiratory droplets/aerosols. I’m not sure what exactly widespread fasad and zina have to do with COVID-19 spread – other than intimate activities can spread COVID-19, but then again, so can non-intimate activities.

   Please note that diseases were present – in fact common, during the time of the Prophet (s). Mecca was known to have outbreaks of some sort, which according to some scholars is one of the reasons that Meccan mothers, including Amina, the mother of the Prophet (s), would send their children out to be raised in the country side. The Prophet (s) father and mother both died of some disease(s) while traveling. And Yathrib – before it became known as Madina-al Munnawarah- was known to have some disease that outsiders would catch. In fact, both Abu Bakr RA and Bilal RA both caught that disease shortly after their hijra. The disease was banished by Allah shortly after the Prophet (s)’s hijra to Madina.

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   B

   December 5, 2020 at 9:24 AM

   It was an analogy. The response matches the action. One person gets sick, you call one ambulance…two….two ambulances…etc..

   One case of zina…talk to one person…two…two people…it becomes prevalent in a society…it is spoken about open in that society…etc etc etc

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