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Loving Muslim Marriage Episode #8: Female Orgasm


Have you ever heard the myth that women only need to orgasm every 3-5 years, if at all? If you heard it packaged as “Islamic” advice, then you’re neither the only one. Cultural myths likes these sometimes make their way into mainstream Muslim culture disguised as wisdom, only to create problems for men, women, and marriages across the board.

Cultural myths about female orgasm - or the lack thereof - make their way into Muslim culture and hurt Muslims and their marriages. Click To Tweet

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Saba Syed (aka Umm Reem) is the author of International award winning novel, "An Acquaintance." Saba has a BA degree in Islamic Studies. She studied Arabic Language & Literature at Qatar University and at Cairo Institute in Egypt. She also received her Ijaazah in Quranic Hafs recitation in Egypt from Shaikh Muhammad al-Hamazawi. She had been actively involved with Islamic community since 1995 through her MSA, and then as a founding member of TDC, and other community organizations. in 2002, she organized and hosted the very first "Musim Women's Conference" in Houston, TX. Since then, she's been passionately working towards empowering Muslim women through the correct and untainted teachings of Islam. She is a pastoral counselor for marriage & family, women and youth issues. She has hosted several Islamic lectures and weekly halaqas in different communities all over U.S and overseas, also hosted special workshops regarding parenting, Islamic sex-ed, female sexuality, and marital intimacy.



  1. Spirituality

    December 4, 2019 at 8:14 PM

    Jazakum Allahu Khayran. I am really enjoying the series.

    After listening to the episodes so far, I am wondering:

    My understanding is that most scholars view Muslim marriage as a contact in which a man provides financially for a woman in return for her being sexually available to him.

    Are they wrong? Is marriage actually defined differently? Perhaps there is more nuance?

    Because if marriage is defined in such a limited fashion, no wonder both men and women do not consider women’s sexual needs and fulfillment as important, while both consider men’s sexual needs as absolutely paramount.

    • Naeem

      December 31, 2019 at 6:47 PM

      That is not how Islam or most scholars view the Muslim marriage at all.

      The Quran and Hadith clearly reflect how Allah swt created male and female to pair with each other for comfort and support and to enjoin in goodness etc…

  2. Naeem

    December 31, 2019 at 6:41 PM

    Thank you for raising such an important topic…

    Unfortunately, the presenters gave Hollywood examples and yet did not share or explain the hadiths that quote Rasul Allah saw placing great importance on men to use foreplay, to take their time intimately and also to try to “pleasure” their wife etc…

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