I recently delivered a lecture entitled “Happy Homes – Tips from the Sunnah for a happy family life.”
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The summary of the lecture is as follows:
In most religions, piety is linked with abstaining from marriage and raising a family. Many people believe it is impossible to give both God and family their rights, this has led to the breakdown of the family structure in pursuit of piety.
On the flipside, in secular culture, emphasis is on self-gratification and this in turn has led to the breakdown of the family system as well.
Islam, however, came to reform society with a natural way of life and as a result great emphasis is placed on family life, this is why the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his family.”
Common causes of problems in Muslim homes:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “None of you is a true believer until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself.”
Not wanting to admit when one is wrong or apologize.
3. Looking for faults in others
“Oh you who believe, stay away from suspicion, sometimes suspicion can be a sin, and do not spy on people or backbite each other, would you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother? No, you would hate it so fear Allah.” (Surah Hujarat 49:12)
4. Cultural practices that conflict with Islam
Practicing any culture is fine as long as it does not contradict any principle of Islam
5. Haraam sources of income
6. Lack of Halal entertainment
7. Haraam elements in the house, includes non-practicing parents or Haraam forms of entertainment
8. Living beyond your means
Qualities needed for a happy family:
1. Knowledge and practice of Islam
2. Love, mercy, compassion and understanding
3. Family time, spending quality time together
4. Patience in dealing with each other and ability to overlook the faults of other family members
5. Respect for everyone
6. Determination to make things work as Allah does not test a person with more than he or she can handle
This is just a summary, listen to the complete lecture at the link above.