Open Thread Sunday 12-20-2009 | Nikah and Walima… Speeches

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   Nadim

   December 20, 2009 at 12:27 AM

   Fiqh of Zakat by Sh. Yusuf al Qardawi is finally available for free ($50+ value): http://bit.ly/6Xx5An and http://bit.ly/4BhYTB

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   Jamal

   December 20, 2009 at 1:32 PM

   assalyum alikum,
   I have been to quite a bit of weddings now and i still havent been to a wedding which had a decent speech. In addition to that, when you ask the people how the wedding was, the answer is a quick “it was boring”.
   Now im a big proponent of having weddings segregated bceause i think its important to keep the two sexes separated. However, at the weddings I have seen, nothing happens on each side besides showing some old photos when they were kids which look just as cute as any other kid around and some embarrassing pictures which no one really cares about. I mean weddings are supposed to be something where we enjoy the celebration, not just sit down and talk like a bunch of old uncles. And for speeches, please someone post up some ideas because I dont want to have a 5 minute wedding. Also if someone could post up some ideas of how to make a wedding enjoyable (ofcouse in a halal manner), that would be great.
   Jazak’allah
   wassalam

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   abu abdAllah Tariq Ahmed

   December 20, 2009 at 6:51 PM

   Alhamdolillah, Who chose for me better than i could have chosen, Who planned for me better than i could have planned, wa razaqanee min ghayri hawlim minnee wa laa quwwatin. Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar, Allaho Akbar!

   From the requirements of getting married is publicizing the marriage. I am hereby unilaterally promising that as long as I have any say in the Sunday Open Threads, that the announcements of your weddings are welcome here. Actual weddings. :) Not merely, “I’ve found the one!”

   A community needs a place to publicize such things, and for Muslims on-line, that place should be this weekly series. Please also send notice of aqeeqahs and deaths, too. You may invite people or you may merely make people aware.

   Also, please note that no pictures should be submitted with any haram content. If you think your picture might be borderline, please send just your text. All text will be considered, but the right is reserved to edit any submission and to refuse any submission without reservation. This offer may be canceled at any time without notice. Any published notice, even if edited by me, will still be your responsibility as to accuracy, etc. These restrictions and conditions may be changed or added to without exception, and other restrictions may apply.

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     ummaasiyah

     December 21, 2009 at 12:28 PM

     I’m married :-P

     But had I known about Muslim Matters just over a year ago, then I would have announced it on here:-)

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     abu abdAllah Tariq Ahmed

     December 23, 2009 at 11:01 PM

     You can e-mail me your announcements at tariqnisarahmed@gmail.com

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   AnonyMouse

   December 21, 2009 at 2:30 PM

   All the best weddings I’ve been to have been the ones where my father did the speech… ‘cuz it turned the wedding into Religious Muslim Comedy Night :D
   A bit cheesy, but as long as we’re all cracking up, what the hey!

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5. 

   BintKhalil

   December 23, 2009 at 9:28 PM

   Assalamu alaikum

   Another NYTimes piece about how religion has nothing to do with the Iraq war.

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     Aurora

     December 24, 2009 at 2:13 AM

     Watch the documentary, “No End In Sight.” It’s available on Google video. It tells you all the facts about the Iraq War and helps piece the puzzles together. SubhanAllah, it’s a real eye opener.

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   shahgul

   December 24, 2009 at 10:48 PM

   I cannot stand weddings where Muslim ladies think it is ‘show your skin’ night, just because it is segregated. I cannot also stand weddings where the imam delivers a sermon, then the bridegroom’s father delivers a sermon, then the bride’s father delivers a sermon, then the groom delivers a sermon.

   Last time I attended a wedding, the younger guys picked up the bridegroom’s chair and danced with it Jewish style.

   I am all for some daff and dancing within limits.

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     ayesha

     December 25, 2009 at 7:39 AM

     “dancing within limits” opens doors for “dancing without limits..”….when one starts dancing you don’t realise how you endup dancing!!!!!!! .

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     zayna

     July 5, 2010 at 9:08 AM

     ummm, then why are you looking. :-P Weddings are for celebration and if it is segretated, pleaaase let women live, breathe a little and be women. *rolls her eyes*

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7. 

   Qas

   December 26, 2009 at 1:42 AM

   An interesting passage I found in Prof. Jackson’s book, “Islam and the Blackamerican”:

   “The rewards that rapidly accrued to those who could claim even
   the most tenuous connection to the Muslim world and its religious authority
   were simply too great to resist. Blackamerican students who flocked to the
   Middle East only to flunk out of seminaries or to go no further than the language
   requirements for admission returned (often in full “regalia”) to positions
   of honor and respect, if not actual leadership. Indeed, a year (or even less)
   abroad, in any Muslim country (Arabic speaking or not), could offset completely
   the would-be negative implications of having barely graduated from
   high school or having never held down a steady job. In short, the “new” criterion
   engendered by the identification with Immigrant Islam provided a way
   for many of the less-accomplished to bypass traditional American paths to
   economic and social status, allowing them to cloak failure and the rejection of
   time-honored standards of social, interpersonal, and economic responsibility
   in the guise of religious commitment. In the end, the success rate of Blackamericans
   who ventured abroad to acquire the Islamic religious sciences
   turned out to be disappointingly low. As such, even if by the late 1980s almost
   every major U.S. city was home to a contingent of Blackamerican Muslims
   studying abroad, scholars who were capable of getting the Islamic religious
   sciences to speak effectively to their realities as Blackamericans were the exceptions
   rather than the rule.”

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   najma

   January 4, 2010 at 3:53 PM

   Jazak Allah for your dua for those people that you know and don’t, It was very touching. May All swt bless you your family and all who read your post also.

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9. 

   a_sister

   January 5, 2010 at 8:24 PM

   Asalaamu alaikum,

   Since this thread is sort of related to the topic of marriage, I was hoping someone could direct me to a good and comprehensive e-book on marriage in Islam (e.g. covering rights and obligations, etc.)??

   Jazak’Allahu khairun for any assistance!!

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