Arranged Marriage is not Forced Marriage
22 December, 2011
by Hena Zuberi Domestic Violence Series, Family and Community, Featured, Gender Relations, Injustice, Marriage, Society 50 comments
Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for many Muslims across the world. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their future spouse through family or friends. Forced marriage, on the other hand, occurs when a man or woman is coerced by the family to marry, using threats, emotional blackmail, fraud, and even bribes. Arranged against the person will, without consent or consent under duress. That is not a marriage in Islam; it is oppression and abuse.
Unspoken for: The Unheard Victims of Domestic Violence Part 2
21 November, 2011
by Guests Family and Community, Featured, Gender Relations, News & Views, Relationships, Society, Society 25 comments
written by an Anonymous Guest Seeing the Truth Little by little, day by day, as she continued her irrational behavior, my mother’s abuse began to finally wear down on the
The Fate of Prostitutes
The flourishing of prostitution in Muslim countries is a paradox that we often overlook as a problem of our ummah. As prostitution is condemned and forbidden in Islam, and these women, to an extent, are marginalized and invisible in our community, many of us are not aware of the magnitude and realities of this problem. We do not consider them as a cause worth fighting for as we do for the betterment of the poor, abused, homeless, oppressed and ailing.
Verbal Abuse in Marriage: Words can Kill
Islam recognizes the evil of verbal abuse and perhaps that’s why there is so much emphasis on guarding one’s tongue and keeping others secured from its invisible harm. The Messenger of Allah, ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said, “A true believer is not involved in taunting, or frequently cursing (others) or in indecency or abusing.” (al-Tirmidhi)
If this is the right of a regular Muslim, then how much more so a wife or husband is entitled to be safe from verbal abuse and taunting.
Unspoken for: The Unheard Victims of Domestic Violence Part 1
My parents’ disputes could and would start over anything and everything, although money and invalidating of feelings were two strong sparks. My mother believed divorce was not an option because she could not work and support all of us herself. My father did divorce my mother once in a fit of anger, but then asked for her back. He told me he loved my mother and would never want to divorce her as this would break our family apart. Despite the illusion that our family is together, it is broken.
Polygamy: Rational or Irrational?
Must Read for men considering polygamy: I questioned one of the shayookh and his answer to my skeptical question still echoes in my ears; instead of defending or addressing the topic of polygamy, he surprisingly questioned me, ‘Do you believe Allah is Just?’
Fitnah Frenzy: Muslim Men Traumatized
How many times are men reminded that they too are as much of a fitnah for women as women are for men? If men are attracted towards women, women too are equally tempted to attract the attention from men. Nonetheless the world is as incomplete without men as it is without women, and women are a blessing for men as much as men are blessing for women yet they both remain a fitnah for one another. Men are tested through their womenfolk as much as women are tested through their men folk, but neither group is innately evil.
Where Do You Sit? An Imaginary “Real Life” Gender Interaction Scenario
As you make your way to find a seat, you notice two, and only two open seats. However, next to each of the spots are two young outrageously attractive passengers of the opposite gender the likes of super models; one non-Muslim and the other a practicing Muslim from your MSA, community, and masjid. You’re dead tired from the day and standing is not an option on this 45 minute ride. As the train leaves, the question emerges: where do you sit?
Updates! Texas Dawah Convention — Day Two: Notes from Lectures
Yasir Qadhi added his bit: I’m writing from the convention center… I’m attending all of the lectures by our dear Shaykh ṣalāh al-Sawi. He is giving an intensive series on
Misogynistic Women: Reinforcing Gender Injustice
7 November, 2007
by Zainab (AnonyMouse) Editorials, Gender Relations, Reflections & Responses 64 comments
I’ve just discovered my newest pet peeve: misogynistic women. That is, those women who believe in and perpetuate gender-related stereotypes… the most common one being that of women’s inferiority, and men’s
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