Disclaimer: This article is not suitable for all ages. Children please make sure your parents have read this article thoroughly before you take permission from them to read it.
I added this part in the series after a few requests to be explicit what I meant by “Sex-Ed in schools is NOT a Biology lesson”. Some parents/people still insist on allowing children to learn Sex-Ed at schools, which is their personal choice, but in order to be fair I thought of giving some more details on the issue. I believe I cannot do justice with this topic in just one article, I can at least highlight a few reasons.
If parents think that Sex-Ed class aims towards teaching biological process of reproduction, or to educate our young pre/teens about pregnancy preventions, STDs, or teach children a fair balance between early/delayed relationships, then they are being duped.
Sex-Ed curriculum in US is primarily based on PPF (Planned Parenthood Federation), AFY(Advocates for Youth), and SIECUS (Sexual Information & Education Council of the United States). Parents: please familiarize yourself about the beliefs of these networks.
Did you ever wonder WHY:
- There is so much sexuality in our society these days?
- Homosexuality at its rise?
- If Sex-Ed was so beneficial why is it that teen pregnancies and STDs continue to rise?
We are up against a sex-ed. “industry” that is dedicated to promote radical, social ideologies that value unconditional sexual freedom above any health, science or parental authority. The aim is to encourage promiscuity, experimentation, unrestricted sexual behavior, and to embed in minds that sexual freedom is a “personal choice”. Children are encouraged toquestion the family values and religious beliefs.[i] While we, Muslim parents, close the door of communication on our children, they struggle at schools with the strong sexual message, and battle with their hormones that continue to cloud their judgment!
- Parents, have you ever sat through Sex-Ed classes yourself?
- If you have pulled your child out of the Sex-Ed class, have you monitored what they learn from their friends at school?
- Have you ever visited SIECUS, PPF, AFY websites and read what they are promoting?
We are still debating whether parents should talk to children about sex and sexuality while the “experts” of Sex-Ed are promoting, “teach preschoolers that each of us is sexual, from cradle to grave…”[ii] “they should be taught about body parts in games like 'Simon Says', preschoolers should be told about intercourse[iii], they should be told about “body parts that feel good when touched.” FIVE years old should be informed, “everyone has sexual thoughts and fantasies”, “people experience sexual pleasure in a number of different ways.” Basically teach the kids about HIV before ABCs!
Planned Parenthood says, “3rd grade is the time to find out about wet dreams, masturbation, rape, and “sex work.”[vi] “Nine to twelve year olds should understand that male and female are not defined solely by chromosomes or genitalia; everyone has an “internal sense” of his or her identity, and that “sense” might not jibe with what they see in the mirror”.[vii] In other words, they have the right to change their gender!
I implore parents/mentors to please check out some of the most commonly recommended websites by SIECUS, PPF, and AFY during sex-ed for pre/teens orientation and questions:
GoAskAlice.com: An award winning Columbia University website, gets over 2000 questions/week from pre/teens. It may have good information about drugs, alcohol, and diet BUT it also teaches teens how to purchase “adult products” by phone, secretly purchase birth control pills without parents' knowledge, arrange a “trio/threesome”, and “S/M role playing”!
gUrl.com: There “experts” teach our children about sadomasochism, blow jobs, anal sex etc. Think of any perverse sexual act and you will find it there.
- Why are we facing unprecedented sexual practices and fantasies in our times?
Our youth (and even adults) are being educated about human sexuality by porn-stars. Sacreleteen.com, one of the most visited website by teenage girls, because
porn sex-education industry organizations like SIECUS refer to this site to gain more information about skin, acne etc. runs by Heather Corinna, a “bona fide pornographer”[viii]. She runs other website where she teaches teens “how to flirt”, “talk dirty”, “go tantric”, though the site warns that it is intended for adults[ix]. I cannot access that site from here (alhamudlliah for living in Doha).
Parents, please be warned that these websites, other than sex-ed organizations, are also advertised through Facebook, Twitter and My Space. Even if *I* were to visit these sites to gain information about drugs, acne, depression, I would not be able to keep myself from reading the Q/A, then how about pre/teens who are fighting their internal hormonal cyclone, external peer pressure and natural curiosity? I must tell the married couples that after being married for 14 years and having three kids, I can still learn a LOT from these websites.
- Why Sex-Ed organizations are propagating these corrupted sexual ideologies?
Primarily because they are following Alfred Kinsey's doctrine of human sexuality. In short, he introduced a new model of human sexuality which were institutionalized though SIECUS in the 1960s. Dr. Grossman says, “Dr. Kensey was to sex education what Henry Ford was to the automobile…'Sexuality is not an appetite to be curbed,' he insisted. He believed that monogamy is unnatural; rather, the “human animal”- a term Kinsey liked to use- is pansexual”[x]
“Kinsey believed that in our natural state-that is free from social constraints-we human would become sexually active early in life, enjoy intercourse with both sexes, indulge in a variety of behaviors, and eschew fidelity. Kinsey applauded practically every kind of sexual activity…and he disapproved of sexual abstinence.”[xi]
Pervert will be a mild term to use for Kinsey. He used to film his sexual encountering with his wife and other members of his “inner circle”, “seldomly passed up an opportunity to show off his genitals and demonstrate his various masturbatory techniques to his staff members”, “believed that heterosexuality is only a result of social pressure”.[xii]
Wardell Pomeroy, who coauthored Kinsey's books, also the former president of SIECUS said,
“In father-daughter incest, the daughter's age makes all the difference in the world. The older she is, the likelier it is that the experience will be a positive one. The best sort of incest of all, surprisingly enough, is that between a son and a mother who is really educating him sexually, and who then encourages him to go out with girls.”[xiii]
A'oodhobillah! When such perverts are the pioneers of the so-called “educational” institutes responsible for teaching our children about their body part and sexuality, I can only imagine what kind of curricula they must be following: The beliefs of Kinsey and his ilk!
Sexually corrupting our children is not the only flaw of these institutions, they further move on to causing gender-identity confusion in preteens who go through a natural phase of disliking the opposite gender. They are encouraged to like the same gender and explore. I read an 11 year being told that it was okay to be homosexual and/or bisexual at the same time!
My son will turn eleven, inshā'Allāh, in 2 months and he hates girls. What if I had allowed him to attend the Sex-Ed class? And had taken a more “traditional” (hush-hush) approach of educating him at home about these subjects? I cringe at the thought. May Allāh azzawajal protect our children.
When confused pre/teens questions about their disliking of the opposite gender:
“Participating in safe sexual encounters and activity, whether with men, women, or both, can provide wonderful opportunities to learn about your likes and dislikes, passions and goals…Questioning your sexual orientation or sexual identity is by no means a sign of a problem…your feelings are completely normal, as is exploring the. Enjoy!”
“For most people, the teen years are not the time to be 100% in what sexual orientation you are…”
What happened to the “normal” phase of preteens disliking the opposite gender?
These Sex-Ed organizations/websites consistently encourage our children to contact counselors/advisers at health facilities instead of truing to their parents for help and support.
Parents, remember pre/teens go through a confused stage of pre/post hormonal phase when their judgment is clogged and clouded. In addition, they are naturally tempted by shayateen, do they need to be exposed to these vulgar, unrestricted, morally corrupt ideologies to become further confused? What we learn affect our beliefs, way of thinking, ideologies. Top that with the environment our kids are in, where refusing premarital sex is a joke; being transsexual, bisexual, a cross dresser, or undecided is being “normal”.
There is a lot more to say about this subject and I cannot lay out in one article all the reasons why children should not attend Sex-Ed at schools. To conclude, my sincere advice to the parents is to educate your children at home about Sex and Sexuality and widely open the doors of communication.
Inshā'Allāh in next part we will discuss how we can educate our children about the following most commonly asked questions:
- What is the difference between a girl and a boy?
- Where do babies come from?
- Why can't mommy pray?
- How does the baby get in mommy's tummy?
- What is Sex?
[i] “an opportunity for young people to question, explore and assess their own and their community's attitudes about society, gender, and sexuality,” 19:http://www.siecus.org/_data/global/images/guidelines.pdf
[ii] Grossman, Miriam. M.D, “You are Teaching MY Child What”, pg. 8
[iii] “Growth and Development, Ages FOUR to FIVE- What Parents Need to Know,” http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/storage/advfy/documents/4_5.pdf
[vi] “Human Sexuality-What Children Need to Know and When,” October 29, 2008:www.plannedparenthood.org/parents/human-sexuality-what-children-need-know-when-they-need-know-it-4421.htm
[vii] Grossman, Miriam M.D, “You're Teaching My Child What?” pg. 9
[viii] Grossman, Miriam M.D, “You're Teaching My Child What?” pg. 18
[ix] Grossman, Miriam M.D, “You're Teaching My Child What?” pg. 196
[x] Grossman, Miriam M.D, “You're Teaching My Child What?” pg. 20-21
[xi] James H. Jones, Alfred C. Kinsey: A Public/Private Life (New York: W.W. Norton & Co., 1997), 512 and 519.
[xiii] “Wardell Pomeroy: Kinsey Coauthor Speaks Out”, Chic Magazine, February 1981.