30 Khawaatir in 30 Days- A Parent’s Guide | Day 6: Controlling Your Anger

Now that we have learnt about taqwa and angels, let’s talk about controlling your anger.

Question: Have any of you heard the word “hangry” before? Can anyone tell me what it means? 

Yes! It means that you have a bad temper because you’re hungry.

Question: Do you feel especially “hangry” in Ramadan?

Question: Well, did you know something that will be highly rewarded by Allah is if we can control our anger during this blessed month of Ramadan?

We are not only fasting from food and drink, but also from losing our temper with our family members!

Question: Do you think it’s easier or harder to control your anger in Ramadan?

Did you know that one day a young man approached the Prophet Muhammad and asked him for some advice? People around the Prophet were always asking him for ways to be better!

The Prophet told the young man, “Do not become angry,” and he repeated this three times.

On another occasion the Prophet asked his companions, “Do you know who the strong person is?” 

Question: Who do you think the strong person is?

His companions replied, “The one who is able to wrestle others down.” The Prophet responded, “No, it is the one who is able to control their anger.”

Question: Do you think you’re a strong person?

Alhamdulillah our religion has given us ways to improve our self control!

Allah and Prophet Muhammad gave us three practical steps we can take when we feel angry.

Question: Can you guess what they are?

The first one is to move your position. So if you’re standing, sit down. If you’re sitting down, lay down.

The second one is to make wudu. Prophet Muhammad said, “Verily, anger comes from Satan and Satan was created from fire. Fire is extinguished with water, so if you become angry then perform wudu with water.”

Question: Can anyone tell me what the third one is?

It is seeking refuge in Allah from the Shaytaan by saying:

أعوذُ بِٱللَّهِ مِنَ ٱلشَّيۡطَٰنِ ٱلرَّجِيمِ

I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytaan.

Question: Now who can help me recap the three steps we can take to help us control our anger?