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Keeping Our Children Safe From Predators: A Guide For Parents

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As parents, our top priority is the safety and well-being of our children. Teaching them how to recognize and respond to potential dangers is crucial. Here are some key points to help you guide your children in staying safe from predators:

Signs Children Should Know To Be Aware Of:

  1. Unusual Interest in Child Activities: Be cautious of adults who show an excessive interest in children’s activities or try to spend time alone with them.
  2. Grooming Behaviours: Watch for adults who give gifts, offer special attention, or try to build a secretive relationship with your child.
  3. Inappropriate Conversations: Teach children to recognize and report any adult who talks about sexual topics or asks for personal information.
  4. Physical Boundaries: Make sure children understand that it’s okay to say “no” to unwanted physical contact, even from someone they know.

Advice For Parents

  1. Open Communication: Create a safe and open environment where your child feels comfortable talking about anything. Use age-appropriate language to discuss personal safety and boundaries. Teach them the difference between good touch and bad touch.
  2. Role Playing: Practice scenarios with your child where they might need to say “no” or seek help. This can build their confidence in handling uncomfortable situations. Many cultures put so much emphasis on respecting elders, that the children are fearful to report sexual assault to their parents and often miss the child’s fear as disobedience. We have to be comfortable with our kids saying NO to us so they feel safe saying NO to others. If they fear saying no to us, they may fear saying no to sexual predators.
  3. Teach Assertiveness: Encourage your child to be assertive and to trust their instincts. Let them know it’s okay to speak up if something feels wrong.
  4. Monitor Online Activity: Keep an eye on your child’s online interactions. Use parental controls and discuss the importance of not sharing personal information online.

Facilitating Conversations

  1. Start Early: Begin conversations about safety and boundaries at a young age. Use everyday moments to reinforce these lessons.
  2. Ask Open Ended Questions: Encourage your child to share their thoughts and feelings. Questions like:
  • “How do you feel about your new friend?”
  • “What do you like most about spending time with [adult’s name]?”
  • “Can you tell me about a time when [adult’s name] made you feel happy or special?”
  • “How do you feel when [adult’s name] is around?”
  • “What kinds of things do you and [adult’s name] do together?”
  • “Has [adult’s name] ever done something that made you feel uncomfortable or confused?”
  • “What do you think about the way [adult’s name] talks to you?”
  • “Can you describe a typical day when you spend time with [adult’s name]?”
  • “How does [adult’s name] make you feel when you are with them?”
  • “What are some things [adult’s name] has taught you or shown you?”
  • “Is there anything you wish [adult’s name] would do differently?”

These questions can open up dialogue and encourage children to express their feelings and experiences in detail, helping you understand their interactions with adults better. Listen to their body language, not just their words.

3. Active Listening: Show that you are listening by repeating back what your child says and validating their feelings. This builds trust and makes them more likely to come to you with concerns.

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4. Stay Calm and Supportive: If your child reports something concerning, stay calm and supportive. Assure them that they did the right thing by telling you and that you will help keep them safe.

Narcissistic and coercive parenting makes it so much more difficult for children to speak up out of fear of being blamed for breaking up the family or disrespecting elders. The number one rule is, if your child speaks up, LISTEN to them. Never pressure or force children to do anything with an adult that they are uncomfortable with doing. Whether that be kissing or sitting on the lap of their uncle, step-parent, teacher, etc. If your child says “no” that’s not disrespect. The adult should grow up and not have a fragile ego and take it personally. The adult should maturely accept the child’s boundaries without taking it personally or letting their ego get in the way. In toxic cultures, this is why kids grow up not knowing what boundaries are and end up in abusive relationships.

By fostering open communication and teaching our children to recognize and respond to potential dangers, we can help ensure their safety and well-being.

 

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Mohamed Rima is a counsellor registered with the ACA - Australian Counselling Association, Australia's largest registration body for Counsellors and Psychotherapists, which ensures that he is bound by professional codes of conduct, ethics and a high standard of ongoing professional development, professional training, and ongoing professional supervision.

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  1. Muhammad

    November 12, 2024 at 11:35 AM

    Jazakallah For Sharing.

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