Readers' Opinions is a new kind of post on Muslim Matters where an author puts up a topic that's important to them, or a question that's on their mind… you get to have your say, whatever comes to mind. The idea is to talk… and to keep talking… it's totally off-the-record and casual. Come on in and share what you think about today's question… time to get crackin'!
The Question: What do you love about your spouse?
Nothing's better to jump-start a discussion than posting up a question about marriage. That's the reason I put this up… no, really, that's not why this is up. :) I recently read somewhere (can't remember where exactly) about ways to cultivate love and warmth in a relationship and one simple way described was to pause and ponder upon what you really love about your spouse. Tough one, eh? But that's the purpose… rediscover their awesomeness that you've forgotten to notice lately… or begun to take for granted. Maybe he takes out the trash without you telling him? Or you love it that she made an effort to learn to make your favorite dish? Anything from the profound to the seemingly mundane… anything that brings a smile to your face and makes you thankful to be married to your spouse!
If you're not married yet (and I'm part of this cool club too – lol!), you can still join in the discussion! Just because you're single doesn't mean you haven't given a thought to the good things you'd look for in a potential spouse… right? Exactly, I thought so too. :) If you're single but engaged and in the in-between period, you must have thought (a great deal, ahem) about what makes your future spouse so great? Care to tell all (of course, you know you want to!)?
The benefits of having a discussion like this cannot be belittled! In an age where divorce rates are going up, tempers are short and life increasingly more challenging, the importance of having a strong, committed, solid (and Halal) relationship cannot be overstressed. In fact, this kind of discussion, I feel, is a vital part of preparing yourself for marriage i.e. pre-marital counselling. And, like a dear friend told me recently, seeking knowledge is always going to be beneficial… for something as special as marriage, it's a definite need.
Breaking it down for you…
For married couples:
What makes him/her so special in your eyes? Tell us three things about them that continue to inspire you every single day! (Tough, 'eh? Just kidding!)
For those who're single:
So you aren't married yet but what three qualities would you definitely look for when considering a person for marriage?
For those who're engaged:
Three qualities that make you look forward to married life with your spouse-to-be… what are they?
Note: You may post anonymously if you wish… just be a little creative and come up with a nickname so we can tell you guys apart. ;)
A quick reminder…
When you come across a nice comment made by someone, remember to say:
Yep, we want to kill Shaitan's attempt to sow seeds of envy or jealousy in the heart. Be good to your fellow Muslim… and may Allāh bless you with all that is good for you and what pleases you heart. Āmīn.