We parents in the West will have to work hard to discover methods to instill “respect†in our children as we make our own values and draw our own lines, preferably, taking the best of both East and West. In fact, we should consider ourselves lucky that we are exposed to both of the cultures and are able to offer the best of both to our children. We will make mistakes, but we must learn to quickly recover, avoid repetition and improve. Although it is difficult, it is worth the constant struggle (juhd).
I strongly believe that there is a need for one of the parents to be the children’s friend, especially while living in the West. What I mean by friendship is to have a kind of relationship with the children where parents themselves take “initiatives†in explaining issues to them that are normally avoided, and giving them a level of confidence that they can practically and literally approach their parent with any and every question they may have.
When I find myself getting upset with my children for disrespecting me, my irritation increases more if they ask me how they were disrespectful or why their action or statement was disrespectful when they didn’t mean it in disrespect!
The genuine confusion on their faces is so apparent that I find myself speechless, but at times I confuse them further by throwing a set of answers, ‘the way you talked’ (tone), ‘what you said’ (words), ‘they way you looked’ (body language). As I confuse them more, I leave myself far more frustrated because I fail to define to them, and to my own-self first, what I mean by “respect!â€
Allow me to say, those who put “reason/intellect/logic†over Revelation and stubbornly argue that their action is only in compliance to Islamic teachings of “think and ponder,†miss out on the whole idea of using their intellect for intellectual reflections.
Submission doesn’t require the understanding of the text first. Rather, understanding can be achieved through the submission.
The very day she was going to purchase her third apartment, the very day she was going to fulfill her dreams, the very day she was going to reap the fruits of her nonstop efforts of 5 years—that very day she lost everything… All that she had worked for was now there for others to enjoy! So what did she depart with?
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