By Ramy Noaman

A quality that holds weight as a true leadership skill is to bring out the best in others. What makes one a true leader is to be able to do so even if he himself is not interested in the qualities a certain person may have, or may not be interested in the possibilities which could come about from using these skills, but still actively helps others to capitalize on their potential to benefit society.

For example, if you have a true leadership personality, then even if you have never taken a liking to history, you can still encourage your brother who enjoys it and has a true insight into analyzing it and extracting its lessons. If he came to you and you turned him away while he began discussing this passion of his, simply because you're uninterested in the subject matter, then you could inhibit a very productive line of thinking which could emerge from casual conversation, or you could fail to discover a true talent in him and his ideas because you haven't given him a chance to express them. Because of your encouragement, he may go off to extract gems of wisdom from pursuing this interest of his, which could benefit him, the community, and even you. Imagine if that talent remained hidden simply because it wasn't tapped into, and as a result, went to waste.

But if you do take advantage of these small opportunities, however small they may be, then Allah may open up the doors of potential from where you may never expect it. Remember how Mūsa ('alayhi'l-salām) took advantage of every little opportunity, and how it opened up the doors of prosperity from Allah? Remember when he arrived exhausted in Madyan in exile from Egypt, but he helped two girls pull up water from the well even before he sat down? After doing an act of good, despite the difficulty, he then made du'ā' and asked Allah for help. Moments later, the girls came back and invited him to meet their father, who offered him a job and his daughter in marriage. This is how Allah responded to his sincere act of good – by multiplying the favors of Mūsa towards the young women, and reciprocating it back to him.

The Story of Abu Mahjan

We don't want to waste opportunities in others to do good – especially good which can benefit many. An example from the time of the ṣaḥābah is the story of Abu Mahjan Ath-Thaqafi.

During the Conquest of Persia, the commander of the Muslim army was the great ṣaḥābi, Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqāṣ (raḍyAllāhu 'anhu). Because he knew that sin was the cause of defeat, he did all he could to keep Muslims on the path of guidance and away from sin. When one Muslim, Abu Mahjan, was imprisoned by Sa'd for getting drunk, he deeply desired to get back on the battlefield and contribute to the efforts of the Muslims. Sa'd (raḍyAllāhu 'anhu) became very sick and was unable to fight, so Abu Mahjan recited emotional poetry to Sa'd's wife, begging her to let him loose and fight on Sa'd's horse. If he lived, he promised he would come back and tie himself up again. She was moved by his sincerity, and she let him go. Abu Mahjan got on Sa'd's horse and fought like no one else on the battlefield. He exemplified bravery and courage and helped the Muslims attain victory on that day. Sa'd saw him in the distance, and said, “That looks like Abu Mahjan riding my horse – if I didn't know he was tied up, I would have thought it was him!”

Abu Mahjan kept his word and tied himself up again at the close of the battle, but Sa'd found out nonetheless. He untied Abu Mahjan himself, and said, “Wallāhi! I will never imprison you again for drinking alcohol!” Abu Mahjan replied, “Then wallāhi, I will never drink alcohol again!”

Abu Mahjan's story was quite literally an example of locked up potential. Sa'd did the right thing in locking him up the first time for his sin, but when he came to know of the potential this man had on the battlefield, he knew not to hold it back. And after tasting the sweetness of aiding the cause of Allah with his skill, and realizing that sinning could hold him back from it as it did in the beginning of this battle, Abu Mahjan vowed never to repeat the sin again. Sa'd was a wise leader who adapted to circumstances as he saw them in new light – and when he approached the case of Abu Mahjan wisely, his potential was unlocked, and his sin was eliminated.

But what drowns out the story of Abu Mahjan and Sa'd, is the story of 'Umar and Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with them all. In the final days of Abu Bakr's khilāfah, as he prepared to return to Allah, he realized the need to choose a successor. He had a few candidates in mind, but he wanted to do his research before settling on his first choice. He questioned the elite ṣaḥābah, the ones most knowledgeable of the job requirements and most familiar with each potential candidate – in other words, they had the appropriate religious and worldly knowledge. He asked one after the other what they thought about 'Umar b. Al-Khaṭṭāb. They all said words of praise and told Abu Bakr that he is the most pious among them. None could say a word about his taqwa, and they were all well aware of his deep knowledge attested to by the Prophet (ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam). Finally, when Abu Bakr questioned 'Abdur-Raḥmān Ibn 'Awf about 'Umar, he told him to fear Allah – “What will you say when Allah asks you why you appointed over us the most stern from among us?” Abu Bakr said, “I will say that I appointed over them qawiyyamīn” – the strong, the trustworthy! (This is the same way the two girls described Mūsa to their father before he was given the job.)

Abu Bakr clearly saw the leadership potential in 'Umar, and he saw that 'Umar's sternness and even harshness came from his intense fear of Allah, not out of mercilessness. Abu Bakr was able to place all of these attributes into perspective, and saw past the doubts of some other ṣaḥābah. He saw that 'Umar's immense fear of Allah combined with his brilliant judgment, and the strong, dominant nature of his personality, would provide the perfect combination for legendary leadership.

'Umar's first speech as Khalīfah:

“I had been in the company of the Messenger of Allah, and a servant of his; and he had been, as nobody else, of extreme lenience and mercy; and he had been, as Allah says of him: 'to the believers compassionate and merciful' (9:128). And I had been at his disposal an unsheathed sword until he sheathed me or let me go. Such had I been with the Messenger of Allah, until he passed away, with me much pleased. Many thanks to Allah for this, and with it I am greatly happy. Then Abu Bakr came into power to manage the affairs of the faithful; and he was, as you all know, of much graciousness, generosity and lenience; and I was a servant of his and an assistant, mixing my severity with his lenience, thus being at his disposal an unsheathed sword, until he sheathed me or let me go. Such had I been with him until he passed away, with me much pleased. Many thanks to Allah for this, and with it I am greatly happy. And now, brethren, I have been nominated to manage your affairs. So be aware, then, that that severity has been weakened, but it will be used only against those who are oppressive and aggressive to the Muslims. But to those who seek safety, religion and good will, I shall be more lenient than each of them to the others. I will never allow anybody to oppress another, or be aggressive to him; for, then, I will put his cheek to the ground and set my foot on the other cheek until he yields to the truth. And after practicing this severity of mine, I will put my cheek to the ground for those who are virtuous and content.”

After 'Umar took up leadership, he ruled with indescribable justice which could only be matched by his unexpected mercy. 'Umar explained that during the early days, he was tough because the Prophet (ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) was remarkably merciful, and he wanted to provide a resource of strength to the Muslims. If 'Umar was needed, the Prophet (ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) could use him. When the Prophet (ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) died, and Abu Bakr ruled, he did the same, and if 'Umar was needed, Abu Bakr could use him. However, now that it had become his turn, 'Umar would continue the tradition set before him, and rule the ummah with justice and mercy – and the ummah can attest that he in fact did.

Because of Abu Bakr's choice, justice dominated the ummah, and Islam spread with strength to the East and West for the next 10 years in which 'Umar ruled, and Abu Bakr will be rewarded for all the good that happened as a result of 'Umar's rule because he saw the potential in him and cashed in on the treasure.

So look to those around you, and notice their potential. Look at their strengths and suggest ways they may put them to use to benefit themselves, their families, and their communities. Do what Abu Bakr did and reap reward through the good deeds of others by sowing the seeds and encouraging them to put in the work to water the plant so that the community on one scale, and the ummah at large, may harvest its fruits. Encourage others when you see some interest and talent in them. Be an active listener as they share their interests with you. Help them develop their potential and share your own knowledge of related fields – even if you don't have knowledge in that field itself (if you do, then that's superb, but if you don't, then don't waste the opportunity to share useful advice and insight). This is among the ways that a true leadership-oriented personality brings out the best in others for the benefit of everyone.

12 Responses

  1. Umm Sulaim

    To be able to offer advice to others, one must first be sincere to oneself. If one is reluctant and unable to tell oneself the truth, I cannot imagine how one can be honest to others.

    Leadership skills begin with leading oneself.

    Umm Sulaim

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  2. Wael - IslamicAnswers.com

    Jazak Allah khayr. Good points. A true leader encourages the development of all those beneath him, for their own benefit.

    As a martial arts teacher my job is to help my students develop and become the best martial artists they can. Every now and then a student will perform a technique better than me, or even beat me in a sparring session. They’re always apologetic, but I tell them, “Don’t apologize, you did exactly what I have trained you to do. Your skill is a compliment to me as your teacher.”

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  3. Aadil

    Jazak Allah Khair for the great article.

    “I will say that I appointed over them al-qawiyy, al-amīn” – the strong, the trustworthy! ” Isn’t Al Qawiyy one of the names of Allah?

    I know this is slightly off topic but I couldnt find the answer elsewhere.

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    • Ramy

      Yes, you’re right, akhi Aadil. Al-Qawiyy is among the perfect names of Allah. But the way it is being used in this context is not to indicate that Musa, or Omar has the ultimate degree of strength – it is to indicate he is merely someone characterized by strength. That’s where the context comes in.

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  4. UmmUmar

    MashaAllah, great article. Please pray that my son Umar-Hamza can be worth the names he is given. Both are such strong personalities. :-))

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  6. Abu Ibrahim Ismail

    Alhamdulillah, good article here.

    All too often, I’ve found many Muslim community leaders bemoan the lack of activity from their community’s members. Yet, at the same time, they do little to encourage others to participate except by using guilt.

    Everyone cannot be good at everything, but we are all good at something. One of the best ways to have many things going on is to be open to different suggestions from as many different perspectives in your community.

    A good leader will welcome discourse and friendly debate. A good leader will want to hear objections to his opinion. Not so that he can shoot them down, but so that he can learn the flaws of his stance.

    A good leader will have a second-in-command because he won’t be afraid of competition or losing his position.

    Take a look at the person in power at your community and see if he’s doing these things. See if he is really trying to incorporate everyone into the overall success of the community and not just trying to hold on to power or play off divisions.

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  7. Muslimah

    SubhanAllah this is a beautiful article.. JazakAllah khayr for writing it and inshaAllah we’ll all be able to implement the advice you’ve given!

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