بسم اللّٰہ الرحمٰن الرحیم
And another one; another friend of mine recently named her baby girl “Maryam”. I reflect upon how many friends named “Maryam” I have. And why not, indeed? It is a name oft-mentioned in the Qurʾān in a tremendously positive light, with a chapter/surah having it as its title. For women, for all time to come, Allāh has mentioned Maryam Bint `Imran, a pious woman from the Bani Israel, as a an example serving to be a beacon of light highlighting positive feminine characteristics and modest character.
The word “Maryam” has Hebrew, Latin and Aramaic origins, and literally means, “pious, chaste”, or, according to other sources, ”bitter sea”, or “wished-for child”. Its Hebrew counterpart is “Miriam“. In Egyptian, it may have been derived from Mry, meaning “beloved”.
The Qurʾān mentions several traits about Maryam Bint `Imran that highlight her high status. Below I have tried to highlight these traits so that we can endeavor to adopt them for ourselves, and also to appreciate those simple yet valuable women in our lives who possess these traits yet we sometimes undermine them.
She and her future progeny were given into Allāh's protection from Satan by her mother
فَلَمَّا وَضَعَتْهَا قَالَتْ رَبِّ إِنِّي وَضَعْتُهَا أُنثَى وَاللّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا وَضَعَتْ وَلَيْسَ الذَّكَرُ كَالأُنثَى وَإِنِّي سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ وِإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ
But when she had given birth to the child, she said: “O my Sustainer! Behold, I have given birth to a female” – the while Allāh had been fully aware of what she would give birth to, and [fully aware] that no male child [she might have hoped for] could ever have been like this female - “and I have named her Maryam. And, verily, I seek Your protection for her and her offspring against Satan, the accursed.” [3:36]
As I mentioned in my last post, when a woman is expecting her baby, she should start its moral “tarbiyah“ or religious training. The foremost way of doing this is by connecting closely to Allāh in worship and prayer, and dedicating the foetus for Allāh's cause even before its birth. Maryam's mother gave the baby in her womb, as well its succeeding generations/offspring, into Allāh's protection from Satan. How wise she was; what foresight she possessed! Truly, she realized the worth of pious offspring and the pivotal role of the mother in shaping the religious inclination/affiliation of a baby.
Allāh made her grow up beautifully, and she was cared for by a Prophet, Zakariyya [عليه السلام]. Allāh provided her with eatables for nourishment Himself
فَتَقَبَّلَهَا رَبُّهَا بِقَبُولٍ حَسَنٍ وَأَنبَتَهَا نَبَاتًا حَسَنًا وَكَفَّلَهَا زَكَرِيَّا كُلَّمَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا زَكَرِيَّا الْمِحْرَابَ وَجَدَ عِندَهَا رِزْقاً قَالَ يَا مَرْيَمُ أَنَّى لَكِ هَـذَا قَالَتْ هُوَ مِنْ عِندِ اللّهِ إنَّ اللّهَ يَرْزُقُ مَن يَشَاء بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ
And thereupon her Sustainer accepted the girl-child with goodly acceptance, and caused her to grow up in goodly growth, and placed her in the care of Zakariyya. Whenever Zakariyya visited her in the sanctuary, he found her provided with food. He would ask: “O Maryam, whence came this unto you?” She would answer: “It is from Allāh; behold, Allāh grants sustenance unto whom He wills, beyond measure.“ [3:37]
Because of the pure intention of her mother, Allāh accepted her nadhar (of her child). After Maryam was born, she was raised in a beautiful way by Allāh, and was given into the caretaking of Prophet Zakariyya. In another place in the Qurʾān, Allāh mentions how lots were drawn by those who wanted to take care of the little girl [3:44] – which was won by Prophet Zakarriya [عليه السلام].
Isn't it a sign of how fortunate she was, that people were drawing lots/vying to take her into their care after her birth? This blessing, too, was from Allāh, who “took care” of her from the moment she came into this world.
Contrast this to the rampant attitude many, if not most, Muslims have towards the birth of a girl, especially if she is their first child. Girls are considered financial burdens; “liabilities” to be provided for and protected; investments supposedly 'wasted' as they do not grow up to work and bring in income for their families (not so much any more, though). Contrast that to how Maryam was received in this world. And then ponder on how a pregnant mother's pious intentions and prayers for her unborn child go a long, long way in favor of that child's good fortune in Deen, not just in this world (as continuation of pious progeny) but also regarding their ultimate success in the Hereafter.
Another special blessing for her was her being constantly provided with food/drink in the synagogue where she eventually worshipped. So much so that Prophet Zakarriya [عليه السلام] asked her in awe, “From where does this come for you?”. Maryam's trust in Allāh and strong faith is apparent in her response, “It is from Allāh” – but she didnot stop there; she went on to state a poignant fact that most women tend to forget or overlook along the trying and traversing paths of their lives, “Inded Allāh provides for whom He wants, without measure”. The words بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ that she uttered show us how we, mere mortals with limited logic, thinking and reasoning, tend to undermine Allāh's immense, omnipotent and limitless capacity to do whatever He wishes.
For example, when we “plan” to have a baby, we tend to calculate how we will “provide” for it over the course of decades, predicting our future career progressions, savings and expenses over the years. Whilst planning is important, we should not forget that Allāh is the One who provides, not our jobs or careers. If we lose our job or if someone in our family dies, or other unforeseen events decreed for us take place e.g. migration, war, natural calamities or illness, we should remember that it is Allāh who provides by creating new opportunities for us, bringing us into contact with new people/helpers, and by creating sources for our income from places or realms we never previously imagined! That is why, when a baby comes into this world, it is important to remember that, plan all we may, its Creator will provide for it from means that we perhaps have not even imagined yet – and more importantly, that Allāh can provide “without measure”, while our jobs or incomes are always within measurable limits.
She was chosen and purified by Allāh – chosen over women of all the worlds
And lo! The angels said: “O Mary!am Behold, Allāh has elected you and made you pure, and raised you above all the women of the world. [3:42]
What greater honor could there be for any woman than (i) to be chosen by Allāh and to be ”purified” by Him, and (ii) to be given preference over the women of all the worlds? Really, is there any greater “crown” or glory? This woman was not touched by any man! And today, the deceptive, so-called glamorous world of media and fashion “crowns” women on the basis of their physical attributes and shallow, “made up”, outward appearances, which they display for the world to see and 'judge'. How far from the truth are the world's beauty pageants and how sad is the way they deceive the young girls of every generation to compete for the wrong crown; the wrong glory!
She was told to be obedient towards Allāh; to prostrate and bow (in worship) along with the (other) worshippers
يَا مَرْيَمُ اقْنُتِي لِرَبِّكِ وَاسْجُدِي وَارْكَعِي مَعَ الرَّاكِعِينَ
O Maryam! Remain you truly devout unto your Sustainer, and prostrate yourself in worship, and bow down with those who bow down [before Him].” [3:43]
The high honor came with responsibility. Maryam's pure and lofty state entailed absolute submission to Allāh; obedience to His commands, and worship along with the other worshippers. Maryam was chosen for devout worship during an era when only men did this – dedicated their lives to Allāh's worship - in the synagogue.
She was given glad tidings of offspring who would be honorable in the world and among Allāh's near ones in the Hereafter
إِذْ قَالَتِ الْمَلآئِكَةُ يَا مَرْيَمُ إِنَّ اللّهَ يُبَشِّرُكِ بِكَلِمَةٍ مِّنْهُ اسْمُهُ الْمَسِيحُ عِيسَى ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ وَجِيهًا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالآخِرَةِ وَمِنَ الْمُقَرَّبِينَ
Lo! The angels said: “O Maryam! Behold, Allāh sends you the glad tiding, through a word from Him, [of a son] who shall become known as `Iesa Ibn Maryam, of great honour in this world and in the life to come, and [shall be] of those who are drawn near unto Allāh. [3:45]
As a further responsiblity for Maryam in her role of being chosen and purified by Allāh was for her to bear a son who would go on to become a very special Prophet. Further, this was to happen miraculously – in that she would not be touched by any man i.e. she would not marry, but would give birth as a virgin. This was a “glad” tiding for her from Allāh, as the above verse states. However, it is obvious that even these glad tidings would entail tremendous pain and sacrifice on her part, as we can only imagine by putting ourselves in her shoes for a moment.
Imagine a girl devout in worship who spent all her time away from the company of men, and guarded herself against any relationships with them: “How shall I have a son, seeing that no man has touched me, and I am not unchaste?” [19:20]. When she was chosen by Allāh, this special “crown” entailed getting pregnant, having to hide from the people as her pregnancy began to show, and answer their questions about the father of her child in the future, not to mention retire to a secluded place to give birth all alone!
A poignant lesson for us from this story is that sometimes, our pain, hardship and sacrifice, especially that related to getting pregnant and giving birth, indicates the pleasure of our Creator with us. For surely, when Allāh is pleased with a slave of His, He tests him; sometimes, His tests push us to limits of patience and strong will we never knew we could reach!
Allāh has confirmed her truthfulness in the Qurʾān - a testimony in her favor till the end of time
مَّا الْمَسِيحُ ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ إِلاَّ رَسُولٌ قَدْ خَلَتْ مِن قَبْلِهِ الرُّسُلُ وَأُمُّهُ صِدِّيقَةٌ كَانَا يَأْكُلاَنِ الطَّعَامَ انظُرْ كَيْفَ نُبَيِّنُ لَهُمُ الآيَاتِ ثُمَّ انظُرْ أَنَّى يُؤْفَكُونَ
`Iesa son of Maryam, was but a messenger; all [other] messengers had passed away before him; and his mother was one who never deviated from the truth; and they both ate food [like other mortals]. Behold how clear We make these messages unto them: and then behold how they are turned away! [5:75]
In Surah Al- Maidah, Allāh calls Maryam Bint `Imran a “Siddeeqa“. Why? Firstly, because she was slandered by the Bani `Israel when she gave birth to a Prophet – a baby who spoke up in the cradle testifying to his Prophethood, defending her against their vicious attacking questions. She was accused of having committed illegal sexual intercourse; of shaming her family/lineage: “O sister of Haroon! Your father was not a man of evil, nor was your mother a woman unchaste!” [19:28] Allāh calls her a truthful woman in the above verse, who never deviated from the truth either in word or deed, defending her against what the Bani `Israel accused her of.
Secondly, we should ponder on why Allāh didnot call her ”صَادِقة“ - but rather ”صِدِّيقَة“. The former means “a woman true in word“; the latter means “a truthful woman who also confirms the truth of something; testifies that something is true“. By believing in Allāh's words and His Divine Books, she confirmed the truth of His scriptures, and proved that she confirmed them by dedicating her time to worship of her Creator, as the last verse cited in this article (coming below) will prove.
Allāh has ordained her mention in His Glorious Book
وَاذْكُرْ فِي الْكِتَابِ مَرْيَمَ إِذِ انتَبَذَتْ مِنْ أَهْلِهَا مَكَانًا شَرْقِيًّا
And make mention of Maryam in the Scripture, when she had withdrawn from her people to a chamber looking East. [19:16]
Allāh commands Prophet Muḥammad [صلى الله عليه و سلم] to make mention of Maryam Bint `Imran in His Glorious Book, the Qur'an, and the mention is in particular about the hardship she went through for His sake, when she isolated herself in a far away place as the birth of her fatherless child became imminent. Thousands of years ago, this chaste young woman hid away from her people, probably very scared about what was to come ahead for her. At that point in her life, despite being alone, so to speak, she probably would never have guessed that the One who was testing her would record, and eventually make millions of His believing servants (followers of Islam) remember as well as recite this trial of hers, and her resultant actions of pain and fortitude, in His Book/Divine revelation, for all time to come.
Another medal for her, therefore, was Allāh commanding the best of His Prophets to mention her difficult and miraculous childbirth experience in His Book.
Allāh has twice called her “the woman who guarded her private parts” viz. who protected herself from illegal sexual intercourse
وَالَّتِي أَحْصَنَتْ فَرْجَهَا فَنَفَخْنَا فِيهَا مِن رُّوحِنَا وَجَعَلْنَاهَا وَابْنَهَا آيَةً لِّلْعَالَمِينَ
And she who was chaste, therefor We breathed into her (something) of Our spirit and made her and her son a sign for (all) peoples. [21:91]
Hands down the best way Allāh has praised Maryam Bint `Imran in the Qurʾān, is by mentioning twice in it that she was “the woman who protected her private parts“. If a woman protects this part of her anatomy adequately, she remains chaste, unless some man forces himself upon her. In a non-literal sense, the phrase highlighted above testifies that Maryam was a virgin when she became pregnant. Allāh Himself is confirming her truthfulness, when she claimed that no man had ever touched her viz. she had never had sexual intercourse.
Further, she and her son were made a clear proof or sign for all the worlds. Her son spoke in his cradle and performed other miracles with Allāh's permission.
Allāh made her and her son “clear signs”/”proofs” for the worlds, and provided them safe shelter
وَجَعَلْنَا ابْنَ مَرْيَمَ وَأُمَّهُ آيَةً وَآوَيْنَاهُمَا إِلَى رَبْوَةٍ ذَاتِ قَرَارٍ وَمَعِينٍ
And We made the son of Maryam and his mother a sign, and We gave them refuge on a height, a place of flocks and water springs. [23:50]
In addition to being made an “āyah” for the worlds, Maryam Bint `Imran and her son `Iesa Ibn Maryam were provided shelter by Allāh in a lofty place that had abundant provision for them both i.e. sweet water springs, peace and security. Once again, notice how Allāh provided for her – dwelling and food – just as He had done so after her birth and beyond, as she grew up. For all those parents who “worry” about their daughters incessantly, especially the latter's future (after they, their parents, are gone from this world) the Qurʾān thus provides lessons in faith and complete trust in Allāh.
He is the Provider of all of His slaves – male or female – and even if a woman ends up all alone in the world with no mahrum, Allāh will be sufficient for her, since He created her.
Allāh testifies that she confirmed His pure words and His Books, and was among the devout servants
وَمَرْيَمَ ابْنَتَ عِمْرَانَ الَّتِي أَحْصَنَتْ فَرْجَهَا فَنَفَخْنَا فِيهِ مِن رُّوحِنَا وَصَدَّقَتْ بِكَلِمَاتِ رَبِّهَا وَكُتُبِهِ وَكَانَتْ مِنَ الْقَانِتِينَ
And Maryam Bint 'Imran, who guarded her chastity; and We breathed into (her body) of Our spirit; and she testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His Revelations, and was one of the devout (servants). [66:12]
This verse above again mentions how Maryam protected her private parts i.e was chaste.
Further, Allāh mentions two more of her glorious qualities/actions: (i) She confirmed her Lord's words and His Divine Books, and (ii) She was one of the very devout ones towards Allāh. The word قانت means the one who is obedient, especially one who is constantly obedient and submissive. Bring to mind another verse in the Qurʾān that describes the foremost quality of فالصَّالحَات (“So the righteous women”) as them being قانتَات – devoutly obedient women [4:34]. The way Allāh has highlighted these two of her qualities indirectly gives women today the incentive to rush towards confirming the truth of Allāh's words and to obey Him submissively, even if we cannot at first comprehend the wisdom behind His commands. This is because He loves women who are devoutly obedient.
When one ponders on the Qurʾān, one finds out the reality behind the facade put forward by the glitter and glamor of the life of this world. In this case, specifically, Allāh's words in the Qurʾān regarding Maryam Bint `Imran show us what traits and actions He really appreciates and values in a woman - viz. what is true beauty; the true worth of a woman, and a young woman at that.
Women are at the apex of outer beauty for a mere short time in their lives – from their teens to thirties; hardly two decades, beyond which they start to show the effects of time on their bodies (the way men do too). However, nowadays, a woman's worth revolves significantly around how well she maintains her physical beauty throughout life. This obssession with the physical outer appearance has made the world in general undermine the actual factors that make a woman truly worthy and, more importantly, beloved to Allāh.
It is only by continuously reciting and pondering on the Qurʾān that we can keep ourselves reminded of what the truth is, and perhaps not fret that much if we are doing the needful to please our Creator, by trying to embody the traits He has outlined for us in the Qurʾān – traits that He loves - even if our hair starts to turn gray, or if we do not look like we just walked off the set of a glossy magazine photoshoot!