Secondly, any person, whether they are male or female, is a fool if they follow everything another says. How ridiculous that you can say a woman is more prone to the influence of the devil when statistically and historically it is men who sin more! When a person is wrong it does not mean they are under the influence of the devil, they are just human!

Frankly, you sound like a chauvanist. You seem like the type of man that sees one woman do something and you’ll say “I knew it, all women are like this…”. Throughout history women have been made to blindly follow the rule of man but this has never been considered wrong! For thousands of years men have ruled the world in majority and if men were always right, just, fair, etc then we’d all be living in utopia. Clearly we’re not.

My point is BOTH men and women are EQUALLY liable to make mistakes/errors in judgement/bad choices/etc and that’s down to being human, not due to gender

Misogynist attitudes pervade all cultures. The beauty of Islam is that it transcends this which shows that it is a truly just and fair religion. Islam documents how women are equal- in fact, if you study enough on the Islamic roles of men and women you will find that men have the short straw because they have many more responsibilities! But instead of celebrating and promoting this it is shrouded and perverted to oppress women.

It saddens me every time a Muslim man says something to undermine women, even if it is ‘a joke’- it’s not funny. If non-Muslim women were exposed to the true level of a woman in Islam then they would most likely want to be a part of this beautiful religion.

Nice article!

Always love the story regarding the hudaybiyah incident with Umm Salamah’s advice.
Small note however, what I heard (or read?) and understand that the prophet (SAW) only ordered the companion twice because he was affraid that if he said thrice and they still wouldn’t follow, they would get Allah’s anger for disobedience?

Also I love that you mentioned the story of Muawiiyah (ra) asking ummahaathul mu’miniin Aisyah (ra). Which I’ve never heard.

Wassalaam.

I’ve heard of way too many horrible stories involving husbands, wives and mothers taking place within desi communities (many more so in Pakistan) that are downright scary and depressing, making you wonder if its possible for muslims get any dumber…

Awesome job on the article, great job citing a well known example from the life of the rasool SAW himself to disprove an apparently unsound hadith! the importance of making mashwara and the barakah comes from doing so cannot be over stated.

brother yasir, i was interested in hearing you elaborate on two things which you mentioned:

1. Women should be consulted but we should not forget the status of women amongst themselves. Mother’s opnion should come first followed by wife and so on.
I understand that everyone in this world is placed in a sort of rank when it comes to various things like obedience, good treatment, etc. But I do not understand how something like advice can be relegated to this same ranking system. For example, a mother might deserve the best treatment and obedience, but what if she gives you bad advice on a particular subject, whereas your wife (or even you grown child) or father or brother gives you better advice? Isn’t a person called upon to follow that advice which is best, regardless of where it is coming from?

2. We should be smart enough to judge when a woman is right and when she is under the influence of shaitan, as I beleive they are more prone to the whisper of shaitan.
Please elaborate. Of course, as of right now i’m just assuming this is your personal belief, since you used the precursor “i believe.” if there is some sort of hadeeth about this than please enlighten me. until then i’m interested in hearing what you have to say (and really, im not offended, so please don’t misjudge my tone).

I am sure what I want to comment on is nothing new to anyone but it is always good to remind oneself. Women should be consulted but we should not forget the status of women amongst themselves. Mother’s opnion should come first followed by wife and so on. We should be smart enough to judge when a woman is right and when she is under the influence of shaitan, as I beleive they are more prone to the whisper of shaitan.

It is commonly seen in our community that many men blind foldedly follow what women say and that leads them leaving their family, parents, old good friends and so on. More importantly, this is something typical of a married man. Be caring but CAUTIOUS too. The above story is of our mother and no woman today is even compared to the foot-dust of any of our mothers – Ummahaathul Mumineen.

JazakaAllahu Khairan

Wasalaam

Yasir