Comments on: Some Advice for Muslim Husbands on Giving Your Wife a Break

By: muslimbestlife » Blog Archive » The Weekly Recharge

muslimbestlife » Blog Archive » The Weekly Recharge — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 17:50:17 +0000

[...] for activities I anticipate will happen on certain days.Â For example, I try to give my wife about two hours daily away from the kids so she can relax.Â I also allocate time for activities that should happen daily [...]

By: Ummezaynub

Ummezaynub — Sat, 08 May 2010 21:47:51 +0000

Asalamaliakum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

MashaAllah Brother Siraj
It was a pleasure reading about your epiphany after walking in your wife’s shoes. A beautiful journey it is with the ups and downs. If it was perfect all the time, that would be Jannah. Alhamdulillah for the men in our lives- the ones that do help and the ones that don’t AND for the women who need the help and those who don’t.

After reading all the comments- May Allah make your life on earth full of ease and if not, your reward is with Allah Subhanwa ta’ala and what a reward it will be. Ameen

I wanted to forward your article and echoed comments to all the ‘oh we are so liberal’ Aunties, who think the so little of ALL ‘practicing Muslims’ home lives. At one event, one of them went on and on how in ‘progressive’ marriages the partners cook together and workout together, how this is new trend in marriages. When I chimed in… ‘Oh that was the sunnah of our beloved Prophet, we try do it whenever we can.’ The look on her face was priceless!

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:42:10 +0000

By the way, the fact that brothers complain about “feminism” when sisters ask them to live up to the sunan involving service to the family and not acting like small children who can hardly tie their own shoes, much less fix their own dinners, is the best argument for feminism that I can think of. There is nothing un-Islamic about the radical notion that women are people too, in fact quite the opposite.

By: sultana

sultana — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 19:47:25 +0000

I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy and he is 7 weeks old now and by the time it is 5 pm i am burned out and ready for my husband to rescue me. so when he comes home he washes his hands, takes sufyan (my son) and takes care of him till we go to bed. it helps me unwind and i feel like a normal person again :) great article i hope other husbands out there practice this also insha allah

By: a friend in need

a friend in need — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:02:22 +0000

+1. Agreed. Very practical information indeed. may allah bless you and your family and increase good in you.

By: muslimah101

muslimah101 — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 09:18:17 +0000

you are right, i was given options. one- contact nasiha – sorry it’s not for me, i don’t live in NA.
two- contact br.siraaj- i dont know about you, but i feel uncomfortable emailing guys..unless there’s absolutely no choice.

..and if an administrator from MM asked me to take this *personal* situation elsewhere, believe me i would.

that’s all from my end. i dont like to have back and forth conversations w/ someone who can’t understand the circumstances i am in.

ma-aasalam

By: Let's Move on...

Let's Move on... — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:34:46 +0000

When I say it does not concern us, it is said out of genuine concern for you to find the RIGHT kind of help, from the right resources. How can you be sure that this is the ULTIMATE right place to find the right kind of help you may be in search for? Yes true not everyone has the right outlets, but once you’ve posted on here a few times, and gotten to know some of the right outlets, doesn’t it make sense to take this private discussion into some place private? and discuss it with a therapist that can actually help, rather than just a random audience reading it on a completely unrelated post, who may or may not be able to give you ample advice? just something to think about..

By: Let's Move on...

Let's Move on... — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:30:04 +0000

First and foremost, I stand behind what I said 100%. I said in the post that my intension was not to hurt anyone, but merely display my concern for such private matters being discussed so publicly, on a completely unrelated post.

Alumdulillah, I do not have a problem. If I displayed my concern that such matters should be discussed privately, does not make me a bad person, or someone who doesn’t care. Like the sister above mentioned there are other sources like the 1-866-NASEEHA line, or even contacting someone personally, which brother Siraaj graciously mentioned for you to even contact him directly. They are basically telling you blatantly without actually saying it, that this IS NOT THE PLACE for such a discussion…and if you have any issues we will gladly help you or find you help, but this is not the place for this discussion. I realize that some people may find it a bit harder to understand something that is not clearly spelled out, but the beauty of our religion is that one makes the other person feel welcomed even while giving Naseeha(advice).

No one has ever denied anywhere above that we do not want to help. Of course we all do, but lets find the right place to find help, so we may be able to help others going through similar things, and help ourselves also in the process.

Sometimes, its not about what we say, but its how we say it, when we say it, and where we say it…that matters more than what is being said itself.

By: muslimah101

muslimah101 — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:27:55 +0000

oh and one more thing, i don’t know how any *muslim* can come out and say ‘it doesn’t concern me’. do you think that’s how the Prophet salallahu’alaihee wasallam would have responded? i know there’s a time and palce for everything, but not everyone is lucky like you to have the right outlets at the right time.

By: muslimah101

muslimah101 — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:23:00 +0000

insha’Allah, as long as i dont have to see that guy again. jazakAllah khayr.