Salaam. I really don’t understand why Muslims are hung up on MJ. Let him rest in peace. Move on to more interesting topics.

I don’t understand why people arent talking more about Sister Marwa who was slain in Germany for wearing hijab rather than MJ.

I, for one, am going to comment on the topic the video addressed – marriage.

The problem with “seizing the moment” (14:40 onward) after a look at a convention is that the man knows nothing

about a woman besides the fact that her countenance is pleasing to him. This might be a shock to some men out there,

but not all women want to be married for their physical appearance.

The problem with most marriage advice out there is that there’s hardly anything for a woman to ensure she marries someone who will be good for her. Instead, you have advice time after time telling men to make sure they like how the women they marry look. However, when a sister once asked a question about the permissibility of declining a proposal because she didn’t find the man pleasing to her eyes, she was told (and I am paraphrasing) that women will always be the more beautiful of the sexes and how, in effect, it is not men’s role (in marriage) to be good looking.

What is good for the goose is not good for the gander apparently, at least not in Islam. In theory, it is (the

rights of women in Islam can be recited by most without pausing for breath) but certainly not in practice.

Why can’t the shuyukh give out advice like – Although you have the right to decline a woman if she is not pleasing

to your eyes, first talk to the woman and if her conduct is pleasing to you, she will begin to look beautiful in your eyes. And that if you believe in love at first sight you truly will never stop looking. Also, that the visual sense is one which tires quickly – the object of interest will be less appealing to you with the passage of time (regardless of the effects of aging); I suppose this is what results in the marriage advice to women to constantly reinvent themselves appearance-wise (Madonna-like, I suppose) so their husbands’ eyes will be honed in solely on them.

For men who say that they need to be married to beautiful women to be rewarded for their not straying into zina

during their years of bachelorhood, I got news for you – your wife isn’t going to look beautiful to you for very

long (as is especially evident from the roving eyes of married men who have the most beautiful of women on their

arms).

This obsession with physical beauty fed by popular culture is something that really needs to be dealt with. When you

hear of Muslim men who have married women who can give Salma Hayek a run for her money against their families’

legitimate advice not to do so and then suffering because of the wives’ less than ideal-Muslimah-like behavior, you can’t help but think that those men had it coming. Muslim men are depriving themselves of women with the most amazing of personalities who can pave their husbands’ path to jannah and who have the potential to be mothers of future Muslims who can shake the Ummah out of its slumber.

And as for the woman’s perspective, if she’s the kind of woman who can garner a proposal from a single “look”, chances are she gets a number of such looks. What would differentiate a man from the other bearers of such “looks” would be a man who actually values her for what she is – for what she thinks she can bring to the table besides her face. Just like a man who is financially blessed is looking for a way to winnow out the gold-diggers, a woman like that is looking for a man who doesn’t consider his wife’s worth proporionate to her looks.

-An unhappy practimate user

Sheikh Yaser, may Allah subhanahu wa Ta’Ala reward your efforts and and may they be a part of a true islamic revolution.

@MM: what about an article about the ethnic violence in China…

BintKhalil: I completely agree with your points, but I personally haven’t heard the opinion from people that it’s the woman’s job to look good and not so much the mans. I’m not saying that people don’t think this way, just that I personally haven’t heard of such a thing. Also, isn’t there a hadith where a Rasul (saw) allowed a woman to seperate from her husband because she did not want to stay with him because of his looks. Although I think that the case was that the woman had been freed and she therefore had the choice of staying with or divorcing her husband whom she was married to while she was a slave, in which case she divorced him. Allahu A’alam, but the point being that Rasul (saw) took into consideration her feelings for her husband and he took into consideration the fact that she didn’t like the way he looked. So doesn’t this show that a woman obviously also needs to like her spouses looks (not just the other way around), otherwise there wouldn’t be mutual compassion between the two.

as salam o alaikum
well I just want to say that if MJ was a muslim then he deserves our appreciation and a path to every muslim that if u wish u can choose the right path and remain steadfast to it he could have become the worst of the living beings after success at such an early age; if he was not he was a good human being and owed our respect and he died due to zulm so we should not say anything bad about him as ALLAH only knows who he was and lets repent for commenting on him. we should not say anything regarding his dancing steps since it is evident from QURAN that if ALLAH wills he forgives so we are here not to comment. so try to peep in ur inner self and repent and not comment or u would waste ur time on earth