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Nevertheless, the article was a heart softner for my hard heart alhamdulillah. its definitely a must read for both married and unmarried bros.

jazakAllah khair for this!

(PS you can totally notice some aspects of the personality of a person (potential spouse) by seeing their reaction to this article lol …)

But Allah knows best. May Allah swt make us all firm upon the most correct path and make us love ONLY that which is beloved to Him and make us hate ONLY that which He dislikes. Ameen!!

Comments- senseless and waste of time

Please stop. Let sisters like Amatullah and IMuslim speak for themselves.

Comments on how the way women are responding to this article are proofs to their emotional state are derisive and offensive.

Chill out. She said nothing offensive. Do not try to bring a flawed secular understanding of the role of men and women to the table.

We are not feminists, we are not secularists, we are Muslims! And it is the Qur’an that is our guidance and is is the example of Prophet Muhammad (s) that we look to.
Get beyond words that make you “uncomfortable” and look at the whole picture.

Why is no one really trying to understand the other side?
Alhamadillah, I loved sis Sadaf’s article, BUT I can see why people are offended.

Many are saying “you don’t understand because you aren’t married”
To this I say:
“you don’t understand because you’ve never seen or been a woman being abused”

Do you have ANY idea how badly our Muslim sisters are being treated around the world?
I’m not just talking about western accounts of Afghani women, I’m talking here IN AMERICA!

Go tell these sisters that they are “irrational” as their husbands (who were forced upon them by arranged marriages) treat them like garbage.
Go tell these sisters that they are “too emotional” as their husbands beat them.
And they will never leave those husbands because it is their job to “obey”.

I’m not making this stuff up. These are not “rare cases”. In fact, if I were to show you these sisters, you would not believe me because they look and act so normal. A facade that is oh so hard to maintain…
We are not just talking about village women, we are talking about educated middle age professional women!

So with this background, do you not see how certain words trigger certain responses?
How exactly do you expect sisters to swallow hadiths like ‘women are deficient in religion’ and ‘women make sujood to men’ (badly paraphrasing here) when all that they have seen of Islam is “religious” fathers/uncles/men in general dominating and abusing women.

In this day and age there needs to be hikmah in how we talk about our sisters in Islam. Rather than speaking of where they are weak and how they need to improve, we should speak more of where they are strong and how brothers need to improve!

The sister who has lived in an Islamic environment lives in a certain bubble and the sister who comes from a not so Islamic environment comes from another bubble.

Both need to be popped in order for there to be an understanding. Look at the other side and see where they are coming from!

This article is good and has a valid points (no one can deny those hadiths, they are truth), but so too do the others sisters who are tired of everyone ignoring the reality of women in today’s world.

We need to go back to the stories of Asiya, Maryam, Sumaaya, Fatima, Khadijah, Aisha (May Allah be pleased with them all!) and show what status Islam TRULY gives to women.

I apologize if I offended anyone…