assalamu alaikum,
for everyone making comments about quality of MM articles, inshallah we will take your advices to heart and be more stringent in regards to what is published.

as for haythams article, i think he has already said it best himself that he has learned a lot from the comments on this article. i think we can all agree that it was well intentioned and shedding light on an issue not often discussed in our communities.

please let’s just remember to be just in our criticisms and naseehah, and also be patient with MM as we continue to grow as well

jazakumallahu khayran

My dear brother Haytham… I think it was a mistake from your side to write an article about such a controversy and serious subject.

Leave this matter to scholars and the duat..

This subject can fool some people and trigger other, and anger third people.

My advice to MuslimMatters admins is:

PLEASE DELETE THIS ARTICLE BEFORE IT LEADS TO SOMETHING WORSE

May Allah forgive you and us (especially me) =)

High academic credentials never gives authority to people over any subject and we have proof of this all around us, media and radio personals with high credentials convey only filth and lies. Credentials of Al-Hakam Ibn Hesham (also known by makkans as Abu Hakam father of wisdom), did not prevent Prophet (peace be upon him) from calling Ibn Hesham as Abu jahl, father of ignorance.
It’s really upsetting to see Muslims (I’m assuming the commentators are Muslims) making full effort to destroy or at least discourage and dishearten brother Haytham and his passion for writing even though, I’m sure everyone in their hearts know that he has good intentions behind this article. Instead of making suggestions to him privately so he can improve his writing and presentation skills, they are indirectly trying to convince MM that he should not be allowed to write for Muslim Matters. Everyone remembers the ugliness divorce brings to ones duniya but people who made malicious, rude, discouraging and underestimating remarks about brother, they don’t pay heed to numerous hadiths about the importance of brotherhood and antiquates one should have in dealing with their brother in Islam.
The Prophet (PBUH) said, “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent.”
[Muslim].
Someone asked the Messenger of Allah (PBUH): “Who is the most excellent among the Muslims?” He said, “One from whose tongue and hands the other Muslims are secure.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Prophet (PBUH) saying, “A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about its being good or not) and, as a result of this, he will fall down into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

As far as those who are criticizing with indirect mockingly suggestive statements, I bet even William Shakespeare (who only had 7 years of formal education up till age 14, never was able to attend university) can’t pull an A if you would grade him based on his academic credentials/expertise.

ITS ABOUT TIME SOMEONE GETS ANGRY ABOUT ADULTERY>…………
Seriously, there are some things we NEED TO GET ANGRY ABOUT…………….

it is a NATURAL RESPONSE TO GET ANGRY AND SAY SOMETHING ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON.

MAYBE YOU GUYS SHOULD LOOK AT THESE HADITHS………………………

http://www.usc.edu/schools/college/crcc/engagement/resources/texts/muslim/hadith/bukhari/082.sbt.html#008.082.829
Volume 8, Book 82, Number 829:

Narrated Al-Mughira:

Sa’d bin Ubada said, “If I found a man with my wife, I would kill him with the sharp side of my sword.” When the Prophet heard that he said, “Do you wonder at Sa’d's sense of ghira (self-respect)? Verily, I have more sense of ghira than Sa’d, and Allah has more sense of ghira than I.” (Bukhari)

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 148:

Narrated ‘Aisha:

Allah’s Apostle said, “O followers of Muhammad! There is none, who has a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah, so He has forbidden that His slave commits illegal sexual intercourse or His slave girl commits illegal sexual intercourse. O followers of Muhammad! If you but knew what I know, you would laugh less and weep more!” (Bukhari)

Volume 9, Book 93, Number 512:

Narrated Al-Mughira:

Sa’d bin ‘Ubada said, “If I saw a man with my wife, I would strike him (behead him) with the blade of my sword.” This news reached Allah’s Apostle who then said, “You people are astonished at Sa’d's Ghira. By Allah, I have more Ghira than he, and Allah has more Ghira than I, and because of Allah’s Ghira, He has made unlawful Shameful deeds and sins (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) done in open and in secret. And there is none who likes that the people should repent to Him and beg His pardon than Allah, and for this reason He sent the warners and the givers of good news. And there is none who likes to be praised more than Allah does, and for this reason, Allah promised to grant Paradise (to the doers of good).” ‘Abdul Malik said, “No person has more Ghira than Allah.” (Bukhari)

Now, if your mother had written an article about such an issue, then it would definitely be more credible. Do not let your anger blind your better judgment. Be fair with your words, and just in your accusations….advice first to myself, and then to my brothers and sisters in Islam.

Lastly, I for one would like to see those statistics that say women are more prone to succumbing to pornography than men. I beg to differ.

Jazakallah khair for your effort. But next time inshallah, let the experienced shuyook or counselors tackle such a topic. May Allah reward you for your intentions.

Bismillahirrahmaanirraheem

I feel that divorce would NOT protect a person (man/woman) looking for relationships outside marriage from committing Zina, unless he/she can marry immediately after divorce. It would only give him/her more freedom and another excuse to fornicate. Also in most muslim societies, divorced men/women have difficult time getting married, thus taking longer to have sex in halal way and eventually shaitaan deceives us with one more excuse to commit Zina. REMEMBER, single people are more prone to commit zina than married ones.

- Quadir

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