Comments on: Dealing With Homosexual Urges: Yasir Qadhi to Muslim Student http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/ Discourses in the Intellectual Traditions, Political Situation, and Social Ethics of Muslim Life Thu, 24 May 2012 01:29:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: talha http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-110384 talha Tue, 22 May 2012 11:16:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-110384 i keep on concentrating on waswass i tr to prove them wrong once i am done with one another takes its place my faith has become too weak i am 15 years and i fell satan has thrown me to the doom already before all this when ever i had done anything wrong i felt guilt in my heart but today i dont care about it i want to restore my faith what should i do please help me sir. i keep on concentrating on waswass i tr to prove them wrong once i am done with one another takes its place my faith has become too weak i am 15 years and i fell satan has thrown me to the doom already before all this when ever i had done anything wrong i felt guilt in my heart but today i dont care about it i want to restore my faith what should i do please help me sir.

]]> By: Guest http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-110081 Guest Wed, 09 May 2012 17:50:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-110081  Salam, I am also suffering from this problem all my life. I have feelings for men and I have no interest in women. I know Islam forbids it but it is not in my hands. I have desires for men that come from inside just like a normal man has for women has no control over it. I fought with these desires since many years. I have prayed to Allah for me to be normal. I perform daily five times prayer. I have cried after prayer in a masjid asking Allah to cure me but nothing worked. I am still the way I am. My response to the people who recommend to get married is a big "No". Don't get married as I have made that mistake and it did not help me to get cured. I am still married but no desire toward my wife. I have destroyed a girl's life by getting married to her and not giving her what she expected from me. Marriage is only for those men who are initially attracted to women. I am at the point in my life that I have nowhere to go. I have accepted my fate to be a homosexual and I am at peace now. All you guys like me...believe me these same sex feelings will never go away. I have never heard from anyone who was gay and later became straight and normal. This is the test from Allah and stays with us all our lives. We must control our desires and avoid acting on them as I have never had any relationship with a man. I used to get frustrated by seeing other normal people spending normal healthy married life, but now I don't feel bad anymore as I have accepted the reality. A normal sexual pleasure was not in my fate. Just like someone is blind, deaf or physically disabled, these gay desires stay with men like me. We have to learn to live with that. That's all I have to say.  Salam,

I am also suffering from this problem all my life. I have feelings for men and I have no interest in women. I know Islam forbids it but it is not in my hands. I have desires for men that come from inside just like a normal man has for women has no control over it.

I fought with these desires since many years. I have prayed to Allah for me to be normal. I perform daily five times prayer. I have cried after prayer in a masjid asking Allah to cure me but nothing worked. I am still the way I am.

My response to the people who recommend to get married is a big “No”. Don’t get married as I have made that mistake and it did not help me to get cured. I am still married but no desire toward my wife. I have destroyed a girl’s life by getting married to her and not giving her what she expected from me. Marriage is only for those men who are initially attracted to women.

I am at the point in my life that I have nowhere to go. I have accepted my fate to be a homosexual and I am at peace now. All you guys like me…believe me these same sex feelings will never go away. I have never heard from anyone who was gay and later became straight and normal. This is the test from Allah and stays with us all our lives. We must control our desires and avoid acting on them as I have never had any relationship with a man. I used to get frustrated by seeing other normal people spending normal healthy married life, but now I don’t feel bad anymore as I have accepted the reality. A normal sexual pleasure was not in my fate. Just like someone is blind, deaf or physically disabled, these gay desires stay with men like me. We have to learn to live with that. That’s all I have to say.

]]> By: Kay Slimani http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-109533 Kay Slimani Fri, 13 Apr 2012 10:23:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-109533 Sodomy for men., sihaq is for women. it is simply a gentle intercourse.... Im just sad, because our world is falling apart :(  Sodomy for men., sihaq is for women. it is simply a gentle intercourse…. Im just sad, because our world is falling apart :( 

]]> By: Kay Slimani http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-109532 Kay Slimani Fri, 13 Apr 2012 10:20:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-109532 Salam, Yep..You are right... I m encountering this thing, I am girl who from childhood likes girl.......and now I am forcing myself to like guys instead...because I am very aware that I will not bear children if I am with a woman. Very Basic logic and thus very Alarming.  Well, It does happen... sadly... I cannot refrain from looking at women but I consciously divert my thinking. Its a MENTAL BATTLE. Salam, Yep..You are right… I m encountering this thing, I am girl who from childhood likes girl…….and now I am forcing myself to like guys instead…because I am very aware that I will not bear children if I am with a woman. Very Basic logic and thus very Alarming. 

Well, It does happen… sadly… I cannot refrain from looking at women but I consciously divert my thinking. Its a MENTAL BATTLE.

]]> By: Kay Slimani http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-109531 Kay Slimani Fri, 13 Apr 2012 10:17:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-109531 I am a Girl, and I have exactly the same problem. The urge is honestly beyond my control, but I am in constant control of avoid actions. I do believe that most of muslims out there are close minded about this issue. We are supposed to close our mouths about it, well, it does exist... and Its crazy how it is on the rise. Well.... All I can tell my fellow queers out there... homosexuality can be also a result of the external factors so if that is the case,,, it can be regulated.  :-) Never Lose Faith in God/Allah because he gave us a rope to hold on to, no matter our "urges" incline to. Peace :) I am a Girl, and I have exactly the same problem. The urge is honestly beyond my control, but I am in constant control of avoid actions. I do believe that most of muslims out there are close minded about this issue. We are supposed to close our mouths about it, well, it does exist… and Its crazy how it is on the rise.
Well…. All I can tell my fellow queers out there… homosexuality can be also a result of the external factors so if that is the case,,, it can be regulated. 

:-) Never Lose Faith in God/Allah because he gave us a rope to hold on to, no matter our “urges” incline to.

Peace :)

]]> By: Nearzzz1 http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-108836 Nearzzz1 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 11:21:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-108836 you sound like such a ignorant self obsessed person, are you in love with yourself? do you live in a box?, please don't try to sound like your a perfect individual who is so pure that he's shit don't stink! you sound like such a ignorant self obsessed person, are you in love with yourself? do you live in a box?, please don’t try to sound like your a perfect individual who is so pure that he’s shit don’t stink!

]]> By: Ajnabi http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-108648 Ajnabi Mon, 05 Mar 2012 04:27:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-108648 homo is as natural as hetro. homo cant be hetro and hetro cant become homo its simple science homo is as natural as hetro. homo cant be hetro and hetro cant become homo its simple science

]]> By: tahre http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-100282 tahre Mon, 13 Jun 2011 14:49:45 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-100282 May Allah help those suffering from it May Allah help those suffering from it

]]> By: Muslimaa http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-97025 Muslimaa Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:33:46 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-97025 Well put. Well put.

]]> By: Muslimaa http://muslimmatters.org/2009/04/13/dealing-with-homosexual-urges/#comment-97024 Muslimaa Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:29:54 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/?p=4363#comment-97024 If you have read my note properly, I said the same thing you are repeating again. Homosexuality, fornication, adultery and other big sins have been in existence before our time, I mean way long ago. Acting on them is a sin then and now. Randomly hooking up with other people and living in Zina is the norm now. When bad things get so rampant, people get so desensitized and unashamed of joining in. Does that make it right in Islam, no. Haram is always Haram and halal will remain as is. I am not saying that since someone is a Homosexual they are the worst Muslim, no. Allah said he can forgive all sins except shirk. But the worst kind of sin is one that a person does or flaunts publicly. Just because you are gay does not mean that you can impose other people to oblige and accept it as normal or Halal behavior.The imposing acceptance that is in the West is what is wrong. Allah knows best. If you have read my note properly, I said the same thing you are repeating again. Homosexuality, fornication, adultery and other big sins have been in existence before our time, I mean way long ago. Acting on them is a sin then and now.
Randomly hooking up with other people and living in Zina is the norm now. When bad things get so rampant, people get so desensitized and unashamed of joining in. Does that make it right in Islam, no. Haram is always Haram and halal will remain as is.
I am not saying that since someone is a Homosexual they are the worst Muslim, no. Allah said he can forgive all sins except shirk. But the worst kind of sin is one that a person does or flaunts publicly. Just because you are gay does not mean that you can impose other people to oblige and accept it as normal or Halal behavior.The imposing acceptance that is in the West is what is wrong. Allah knows best.

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