Comments on: I’m Wearing Hijab, So You Better Get This Party Started http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/ Discourses in the Intellectual Traditions, Political Situation, and Social Ethics of Muslim Life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kiyana http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-80494 kiyana Sat, 13 Nov 2010 06:12:52 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-80494 i want a hijab party :( i want a hijab party :(

]]> By: Middle Ground http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-69554 Middle Ground Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:31:36 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-69554 Salam Yes I have seen a couple of these, and I think it's a good idea as long as people don't go over the top. After all, the Prophet(SAW) said that a believer is happy when he does good deeds. I remember when I once memorized a certain surah of the Quran, I was so happy that I went out and got a fat chocolate cake, and took it to the mosque to celebrate. Salam

Yes I have seen a couple of these, and I think it’s a good idea as long as people don’t go over the top. After all, the Prophet(SAW) said that a believer is happy when he does good deeds. I remember when I once memorized a certain surah of the Quran, I was so happy that I went out and got a fat chocolate cake, and took it to the mosque to celebrate.

]]> By: Sabah4Allah http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-69552 Sabah4Allah Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:26:29 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-69552 Salam Alaykum wa Rhamatullah wa Barakatuh Ukhtis: I am a revert now for 3 years, wearing Hijab always, even at my job (I work as an Occupational Therapist in a Rehab Center for our geriatric population). Hamdulilah my job allows this. :) However, I am the ONLY one in my town (Naples, Fl) that wears Hijab everywhere, not just when I go to the masjid for Jummah. I live in a town that is mostly rich, retired Jewish people. You can imagine the looks and stares I get from all populations ( Spanish and Haitians) here. I think the "Hijab Parties" should be not overdone but simple and really for the sisters in the community to come together to support the sister who has just stared wearing Hijab full-time. For instance bring the Holy Qur'an and read from it the Surahs that tell us of Hijab. Everyone needs support, especially here in the USA, where it can be difficult at times to wear the headscarf. The sisters need to support one another, offering tips, guidance and make special Du'a for a successful outcome, Insha'Allah. We must come together and support each other always. Remember: Hijab is not just wearing the headscarf but it is all encompassing who we are and how we carry ourselves, the words we speak and the interactions we have with others. Yes wearing Hijab is "The greatest reward, and I think most would agree, is the recognition that comes from Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala, and knowing that when you took one step to come closer to Him, He came walking to you". Wearing Hijab is an outward sign of the inner commitment we have made to submit our will to the will of Allah (SWT). Hamdulilah I am a Muslimah!!! JazakAllah khair. La ilaha illAllah Muhammadur RasulAllah. Uhkti fi Islam, Uhkti Sabah :D Salam Alaykum wa Rhamatullah wa Barakatuh Ukhtis:

I am a revert now for 3 years, wearing Hijab always, even at my job (I work as an Occupational Therapist in a Rehab Center for our geriatric population). Hamdulilah my job allows this. :) However, I am the ONLY one in my town (Naples, Fl) that wears Hijab everywhere, not just when I go to the masjid for Jummah. I live in a town that is mostly rich, retired Jewish people. You can imagine the looks and stares I get from all populations ( Spanish and Haitians) here. I think the “Hijab Parties” should be not overdone but simple and really for the sisters in the community to come together to support the sister who has just stared wearing Hijab full-time. For instance bring the Holy Qur’an and read from it the Surahs that tell us of Hijab. Everyone needs support, especially here in the USA, where it can be difficult at times to wear the headscarf.

The sisters need to support one another, offering tips, guidance and make special Du’a for a successful outcome, Insha’Allah. We must come together and support each other always.

Remember: Hijab is not just wearing the headscarf but it is all encompassing who we are and how we carry ourselves, the words we speak and the interactions we have with others. Yes wearing Hijab is “The greatest reward, and I think most would agree, is the recognition that comes from Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala, and knowing that when you took one step to come closer to Him, He came walking to you”.

Wearing Hijab is an outward sign of the inner commitment we have made to submit our will to the will of Allah (SWT). Hamdulilah I am a Muslimah!!!

JazakAllah khair.
La ilaha illAllah Muhammadur RasulAllah.
Uhkti fi Islam,
Uhkti Sabah :D

]]> By: Ummezaynub http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-61978 Ummezaynub Sat, 20 Mar 2010 02:52:41 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-61978 I am guilty as charged- I just hosted one for a young sister in our youth group- I don't do birthdays , anniversaries etc. but I was extremely proud of this young girl. No one in her family covers; her mother thought she is too young at fifteen! to wear hijab. She studied her deen and made the decision. I agree with Brother Mohammad that the state of the Ummah is such-that people who are struggling to complete the fundamentals are considered 'religious'. I remember when I first started covering- I had 'alimah' status overnite- I would have people asking me for fatwas. A couple of her friends and their moms came with food and gifted her some hijabs to start her off & it was the first time we had one in our community. None of us are 'rich'. It was a surprise and she never expected it. We read some hadith on the virtues of hijab, discussed the proper way to cover & how Allah (SWT) loves modesty. The girls who know how gave her tips on wrapping it so her hair won't show- Alhamdulillah. If I was a part of bida'a, I pray that Allah forgives me. I may not do it for my daughter as she knows that it is incumbent on her and Alhamdulillah we have the mahoul in our home but for the sisters who don't- my heart goes out to them. May Allah make it easy for them. Ameen I am guilty as charged- I just hosted one for a young sister in our youth group- I don’t do birthdays , anniversaries etc. but I was extremely proud of this young girl. No one in her family covers; her mother thought she is too young at fifteen! to wear hijab. She studied her deen and made the decision. I agree with Brother Mohammad that the state of the Ummah is such-that people who are struggling to complete the fundamentals are considered ‘religious’. I remember when I first started covering- I had ‘alimah’ status overnite- I would have people asking me for fatwas.
A couple of her friends and their moms came with food and gifted her some hijabs to start her off & it was the first time we had one in our community. None of us are ‘rich’. It was a surprise and she never expected it. We read some hadith on the virtues of hijab, discussed the proper way to cover & how Allah (SWT) loves modesty. The girls who know how gave her tips on wrapping it so her hair won’t show- Alhamdulillah.
If I was a part of bida’a, I pray that Allah forgives me. I may not do it for my daughter as she knows that it is incumbent on her and Alhamdulillah we have the mahoul in our home but for the sisters who don’t- my heart goes out to them. May Allah make it easy for them. Ameen

]]> By: suaaf http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-61358 suaaf Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:40:22 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-61358 thank you so much i was about to have one but said: i have to do it for the sake of allah im twelve years old......now to thnk of a way to tell my friend... lol spelled my name wrong ment suaad lol ;) :) thank you so much i was about to have one but said: i have to do it for the sake of allah im twelve years old……now to thnk of a way to tell my friend… lol spelled my name wrong ment suaad lol ;) :)

]]> By: Umm Ismael http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-40279 Umm Ismael Fri, 13 Mar 2009 09:19:13 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-40279 Asslam u alaikum wr wb' While I am all out for encouraging a sister when she does anything in obedience to ALLAH, but I have a different experience to narrate. When I started the hijab, all i faced was ridicule and opposition (and all this while living in Pakistan where wearing hijab at that time was a non existent practise- though the situation has changed dramatically alhamdulillah). Alhamdulillah, even at that age, ALLAH Gave me strength to hold on. The kind of depth and understanding that is created in a person when faced with such opposition is not "merely a phase". A pat on the back is aways comforting but a level needs to be defined. We need to let the person face some bouts of harsh reality as well so that she can understand why shes doing what shes doing. And ALLAH Knows best. Asslam u alaikum wr wb’
While I am all out for encouraging a sister when she does anything in obedience to ALLAH, but I have a different experience to narrate. When I started the hijab, all i faced was ridicule and opposition (and all this while living in Pakistan where wearing hijab at that time was a non existent practise- though the situation has changed dramatically alhamdulillah). Alhamdulillah, even at that age, ALLAH Gave me strength to hold on. The kind of depth and understanding that is created in a person when faced with such opposition is not “merely a phase”. A pat on the back is aways comforting but a level needs to be defined. We need to let the person face some bouts of harsh reality as well so that she can understand why shes doing what shes doing. And ALLAH Knows best.

]]> By: Mehak http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-36904 Mehak Tue, 20 Jan 2009 12:38:33 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-36904 Assalamualaikum.... wow thats soo crazyy.. It just shows how people do were Hijab to be good in others eyes or to get pizza/party or whatever.. I started wearing HIjab when I was very young as well.. I never celebrated that except I always Thank ALLAH and my Parents for showing me the right path... ohh well.. we should Pray for these people man.. seriously..! Assalamualaikum….

wow thats soo crazyy.. It just shows how people do were Hijab to be good in others eyes or to get pizza/party or whatever..
I started wearing HIjab when I was very young as well.. I never celebrated that except I always Thank ALLAH and my Parents for showing me the right path…

ohh well.. we should Pray for these people man.. seriously..!

]]> By: Maryam http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-34062 Maryam Sun, 14 Dec 2008 13:30:27 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-34062 Wow, *almost* ridiculous. Hijab parties? I don't think I've ever heard such a thing. I do like the whole idea of a milestone in a sister's life, but yeah. Hey, I started wearing hijab when I was 3.. How come <em>I</em> didn't get a party?! Ah well, I suppose I'll just suck it up and live... XD Wow, *almost* ridiculous. Hijab parties? I don’t think I’ve ever heard such a thing. I do like the whole idea of a milestone in a sister’s life, but yeah.

Hey, I started wearing hijab when I was 3.. How come I didn’t get a party?! Ah well, I suppose I’ll just suck it up and live… XD

]]> By: Sarah http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-33852 Sarah Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:31:01 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-33852 I think the growing extravagance of these hijab parties is a symptom of the fact that our Muslim community puts so much emphasis on hijab to the point that it's seen as one of the most important things in Islam, akin to the five pillars (which is a problem unto itself). Ask any legit scholar, and they'd agree that hijab is not #1 or even #10 on the priority list, yet the community makes women feel as if they are wretched scum for not wearing it. So, with that kind of pressure and bloated sense of importance, it's no surprise that these parties have started. I think the growing extravagance of these hijab parties is a symptom of the fact that our Muslim community puts so much emphasis on hijab to the point that it’s seen as one of the most important things in Islam, akin to the five pillars (which is a problem unto itself).

Ask any legit scholar, and they’d agree that hijab is not #1 or even #10 on the priority list, yet the community makes women feel as if they are wretched scum for not wearing it. So, with that kind of pressure and bloated sense of importance, it’s no surprise that these parties have started.

]]> By: khawla http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-33672 khawla Tue, 09 Dec 2008 13:25:37 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/12/02/im-wearing-hijab-so-you-better-get-this-party-started/#comment-33672 Eid Mubarak everyone!!! Party? Rather we need to put our Hijab properly for the sake of Allah, put khimar over that tight jeans and tshirts; and SHUT up during Friday Kutbah. Eid Mubarak everyone!!!
Party? Rather we need to put our Hijab properly for the sake of Allah, put khimar over that tight jeans and tshirts; and SHUT up during Friday Kutbah.

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