Comments on: The Nikah Kitaba (Katb Al-Kitab) Survival Guide http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/ Discourses in the Intellectual Traditions, Political Situation, and Social Ethics of Muslim Life Wed, 23 May 2012 17:43:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Coastam http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-109987 Coastam Sat, 05 May 2012 08:12:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-109987 I tend to agree with you.  Not living together after marriage,Katb al Ketab pre wedding, seems like a way to circumvent the rule against dating.  It seems like a slippery slope.  If university students were to institute this during their entire four years it would in essence be dating with the stamp of marriage. Marriage is providing a home for your wife and living with her, not just dating her.  I tend to agree with you.  Not living together after marriage,Katb al Ketab pre wedding, seems like a way to circumvent the rule against dating.  It seems like a slippery slope.  If university students were to institute this during their entire four years it would in essence be dating with the stamp of marriage. Marriage is providing a home for your wife and living with her, not just dating her. 

]]> By: Coastam http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-109986 Coastam Sat, 05 May 2012 07:50:00 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-109986 As Salamm alaykum The prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, delayed consummation with Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, but that doesn't necessarily mean they lived separately.  I don't know their exact situation, but I do know it is possible to live with someone and delay consummation of the marriage.   Even if they did live separately, doesn't automatically mean that all Muslim couples with  Katb al Kitab are allowed to live separately before the wedding. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, might have just been waiting for her tor grow up a little more, that's different than two college students living separately after Katb al Kitab.  Muslims should ask scholars before getting into these kind of thing, it has the potential to be a slippery slope.    As Salamm alaykum

The prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, delayed consummation with Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they lived separately.  I don’t know their exact situation, but I do know it is possible to live with someone and delay consummation of the marriage.   Even if they did live separately, doesn’t automatically mean that all Muslim couples with  Katb al Kitab are allowed to live separately before the wedding. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, might have just been waiting for her tor grow up a little more, that’s different than two college students living separately after Katb al Kitab.  Muslims should ask scholars before getting into these kind of thing, it has the potential to be a slippery slope.   

]]> By: Bint Afzal http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-91774 Bint Afzal Mon, 28 Feb 2011 01:28:10 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-91774 Just wanted to second this! JazakAllah khair brother. Just wanted to second this! JazakAllah khair brother.

]]> By: umm hurairah http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-58906 umm hurairah Sun, 07 Feb 2010 06:21:43 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-58906 salam. Apparently, it is v common in todays world. With parents and culture demands and at times, material demands... no wonder such things exist. Allahu Akhbar! salam. Apparently, it is v common in todays world.

With parents and culture demands and at times, material demands… no wonder such things exist. Allahu Akhbar!

]]> By: Celibate Marriage Survival Guide « The Journey to Marriage http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-58207 Celibate Marriage Survival Guide « The Journey to Marriage Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:02:10 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-58207 [...] February 1, 2010 in For Both | by Aisha by SaqibSaab [...] [...] February 1, 2010 in For Both | by Aisha by SaqibSaab [...]

]]> By: Abdul At-Tawwaab http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-49508 Abdul At-Tawwaab Sat, 19 Sep 2009 22:48:18 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-49508 AsSalaamu Alaikum, JazakAllahu Khairun for this Alhamdulillah. May Allah reward you greatly. Can anyone direct me to the conditions of nikah kitab? What do the conditions of the man need to be in order to be married. Where can I find this information in Qur'an and Hadith? InshaAllah, this is even more fuel and inspiration to take the Fiqh of Love class coming up soon inshaAllah. I'm engaged, in fact today is my anniversary of engagement, and am ever seeking if marriage is better than engagement at this time but I'm so concerned that my conditions may not be correct for marriage. If anyone could direct me to proper information May Allah reward you for your efforts. Alhamdulillah AsSalaamu Alaikum AsSalaamu Alaikum,

JazakAllahu Khairun for this Alhamdulillah. May Allah reward you greatly. Can anyone direct me to the conditions of nikah kitab? What do the conditions of the man need to be in order to be married. Where can I find this information in Qur’an and Hadith? InshaAllah, this is even more fuel and inspiration to take the Fiqh of Love class coming up soon inshaAllah. I’m engaged, in fact today is my anniversary of engagement, and am ever seeking if marriage is better than engagement at this time but I’m so concerned that my conditions may not be correct for marriage. If anyone could direct me to proper information May Allah reward you for your efforts. Alhamdulillah

AsSalaamu Alaikum

]]> By: Adam http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-49105 Adam Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:43:29 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-49105 great advice! great advice!

]]> By: MR http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-43035 MR Sat, 16 May 2009 02:35:28 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-43035 Hey Saqib can you put up some resources on nikkah kitaba (because your post is the number 1 result on google). Thanks! Hey Saqib can you put up some resources on nikkah kitaba (because your post is the number 1 result on google).

Thanks!

]]> By: SP http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-32520 SP Mon, 24 Nov 2008 20:12:17 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-32520 <blockquote>We ask Allah ‘azza wa jal to bless all couples everywhere and give us all the ability to preserve our communities’ relationships into the future, and that He makes marriage easy for those whom it is difficult and serve as a means to Jannah and His pleasure.</blockquote> <strong> AMeen!</strong> So this post is about to hit its 6 month mark... can we see a part two? the after-rukhsati advice...or even an extended list of advice for nikkah-prerukhsatied couples to benefit from? This was indeed really beneficial. may Allah reward you

We ask Allah ‘azza wa jal to bless all couples everywhere and give us all the ability to preserve our communities’ relationships into the future, and that He makes marriage easy for those whom it is difficult and serve as a means to Jannah and His pleasure.


AMeen!

So this post is about to hit its 6 month mark… can we see a part two? the after-rukhsati advice…or even an extended list of advice for nikkah-prerukhsatied couples to benefit from? This was indeed really beneficial. may Allah reward you

]]> By: mulsimah http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-katb-al-kitab-survival-guide/#comment-32388 mulsimah Sun, 23 Nov 2008 01:38:43 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2008/06/21/the-nikah-kitaba-survival-guide/#comment-32388 Sister I recommend you delay the ruksati until you are sure. say Alhumdulilah you dont have ruksati. you dont want a child in this type of situation if its bad. do istikhara. get your parents to talk to his. confront him and say 'WAIT BEFORE YOU HANG UP I HAVE A QUESTION . and say do you want to go on with this marriage? ask him if he will continue to see his girlfriend. if he isnt giving you str8 answers its a good idea to get the elders involved. make a big deal. its your whole life. again you do not want a child involved. you should never expect that one will get better but always expect that it will get worse and be prepared fo rthat. Sister I recommend you delay the ruksati until you are sure. say Alhumdulilah you dont have ruksati. you dont want a child in this type of situation if its bad. do istikhara. get your parents to talk to his. confront him and say ‘WAIT BEFORE YOU HANG UP I HAVE A QUESTION . and say do you want to go on with this marriage? ask him if he will continue to see his girlfriend. if he isnt giving you str8 answers its a good idea to get the elders involved. make a big deal. its your whole life. again you do not want a child involved. you should never expect that one will get better but always expect that it will get worse and be prepared fo rthat.

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