Comments on: The Secret Life of Husbands (Sex & the Muslim Ummah) http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/ Discourses in the Intellectual Traditions, Political Situation, and Social Ethics of Muslim Life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jasmine http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96431 jasmine Sun, 24 Apr 2011 12:57:58 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96431 tell that to some muslim religous saudis...hahahahahahaha tell that to some muslim religous saudis…hahahahahahaha

]]> By: jasmine http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96430 jasmine Sun, 24 Apr 2011 12:38:20 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96430 sorry but education is the key sorry but education is the key

]]> By: jasmine http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96429 jasmine Sun, 24 Apr 2011 12:36:29 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-96429 They need a sex therapist if they are raping their wives 5 times a day.................. They need a sex therapist if they are raping their wives 5 times a day………………

]]> By: Shafkat http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-89898 Shafkat Wed, 02 Feb 2011 13:05:50 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-89898 As salaam alykum, May Allah help all of us .. Ameen. Please take time off and read this post by brother Zeyad Ramadhan: 'A dear teacher of mine shaykh Yasir Qadhi has started an online video series on healthy sexuality in Islam called Like A Garment and I wanted to share it with you. Watch the video series here: www.likeagarment.net One of the top mistakes I'm seeing today that is contributing to the increase in the development of sexual addiction is turning to the wrong sources to learn about sexual intimacy. Our religion of Islam would NOT be a complete way of life if we were not given guidance on the intricacies of our day-to-day life and how we can enjoy healthy sexual intimacy and in the process come closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Access the free video series here and learn about sexual intimacy in Islam ========> www.likeagarment.net' Ma asalaam As salaam alykum,

May Allah help all of us .. Ameen.

Please take time off and read this post by brother Zeyad Ramadhan:

‘A dear teacher of mine shaykh Yasir Qadhi has
started an online video series on healthy sexuality
in Islam called Like A Garment and I wanted to
share it with you.

Watch the video series here: http://www.likeagarment.net

One of the top mistakes I’m seeing today that is contributing
to the increase in the development of sexual addiction is turning
to the wrong sources to learn about sexual intimacy.

Our religion of Islam would NOT be a complete way of life if we
were not given guidance on the intricacies of our day-to-day life and
how we can enjoy healthy sexual intimacy and in the process come
closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

Access the free video series here and learn about sexual intimacy
in Islam ========> http://www.likeagarment.net‘

Ma asalaam

]]> By: saeed http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-89885 saeed Wed, 02 Feb 2011 09:06:08 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-89885 You people are altogether wrong. Allah's creations are meant to be used by MAN. Love your wife, but don't be afraid to use her for your needs. Foreplay with women is HARAM. Porn is NOT. Oral and anal sex with women is HARAM. Masturbation is not, even mutual masturbation between two men is not HARAM. All sexual acts are permitted by the Koran in times of desperation. We all know of sexual acts between men (also men and boys), especially during war. Allah makes no judgement on such things. "A Martyr should not die unsatisfied" We should begin to read the Koran for the truth regarding our sexual responsibilities and privileges. Teach your sons how to be satisfied when with groups of men for long amount of time. It will be necessary. My Father taught me. I am teaching my sons. Teach yours'. You people are altogether wrong. Allah’s creations are meant to be used by MAN. Love your wife, but don’t be afraid to use her for your needs. Foreplay with women is HARAM. Porn is NOT. Oral and anal sex with women is HARAM. Masturbation is not, even mutual masturbation between two men is not HARAM. All sexual acts are permitted by the Koran in times of desperation. We all know of sexual acts between men (also men and boys), especially during war. Allah makes no judgement on such things. “A Martyr should not die unsatisfied” We should begin to read the Koran for the truth regarding our sexual responsibilities and privileges. Teach your sons how to be satisfied when with groups of men for long amount of time. It will be necessary. My Father taught me. I am teaching my sons. Teach yours’.

]]> By: chemaatah http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88579 chemaatah Thu, 20 Jan 2011 03:01:36 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88579 i think so too. it's the internet version of flashing. there are sickos out there who enjoy subjecting hapless passersby to their sick perversions-they enjoy the shock factor. and keeping it up here is allowing him to get to relive that, over and over. it's a blatant violation of the trusting people who come to read what's supposed to be wholesome content here and stumble across this. i think so too. it’s the internet version of flashing. there are sickos out there who enjoy subjecting hapless passersby to their sick perversions-they enjoy the shock factor. and keeping it up here is allowing him to get to relive that, over and over. it’s a blatant violation of the trusting people who come to read what’s supposed to be wholesome content here and stumble across this.

]]> By: Umar http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88572 Umar Thu, 20 Jan 2011 01:47:25 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88572 Admins, why was "saeed's" moronic ignorant comment let through the filtering system. It is subtle mockery. Even if the guy is given the benefit of the doubt, who wants to read about his desire not to waste his seed by swallowing it?! Refuting ignorance like this is pointless. Better to delete it...reminds me of something I think Imam Shafi said: I have never argued with an intelligent person except that I have won. I have never never argued with a foolish person except that I lost. Actually I was wrong. His comment was not subtle mockery - it is a crystal clear attempt at "saeed" trying to share his perversion with others. Admins, why was “saeed’s” moronic ignorant comment let through the filtering system. It is subtle mockery. Even if the guy is given the benefit of the doubt, who wants to read about his desire not to waste his seed by swallowing it?!

Refuting ignorance like this is pointless. Better to delete it…reminds me of something I think Imam Shafi said: I have never argued with an intelligent person except that I have won. I have never never argued with a foolish person except that I lost.

Actually I was wrong. His comment was not subtle mockery – it is a crystal clear attempt at “saeed” trying to share his perversion with others.

]]> By: US http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88554 US Wed, 19 Jan 2011 23:24:32 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88554 @Saeed Your post is unbelievable and all this about "eating" and "swallowing" your "own seed"...seriously where are you getting this from??? MASTURBATION IS HARAM. PORN IS HARAM!!!! I am sorry for sounding harsh but you are deluded and need to snap out of the mentality you hae adopted because not only do you have ne remorse for the sins you committ but you are "proud" snd consider them "manly" and praiseworthy actions and you are almost bragging about the sins!!! What you are doing is committing "virtual fornication" and it is a form of being unfaithful to your wife becasue you are lusting and acting upon the lust for complete strnagers in a most perverse manner. I assunme your wife does not know about your habits in which case if she ever finds out she will be devastated and you will add to your sins that of being traitor and unfaithful and hurting the woman entrusted to you by Allah!!!! If she does know and is tolerating it may Allah reward her patience!!! you are no saint just because you dont force or beat her to satisfy your "manly" desires...you would be more of a man to avoid the disgusting habits and control yourself!!!!! Coming on a thread like this where some people are trying to mend their ways and give up wrong and then "preaching" like masturbation and pornography is a "good" deed is despicably hypocritical!!!!! When you commit sins so often and feel no shame, Allah seals your heartr, he makes it blind and you really lose trackk of what is right and wrong... you need help from a learned muslim who will help you through sunnah and Quran and not made up sayings about seeds!!! again I apologise for being so hard on you but before I had to be blunt coz no-one should read your comment and believe what you are saying, it is wrong and I hope someone patient and truly GodFearing finds their way to you and helps you. @Saeed

Your post is unbelievable and all this about “eating” and “swallowing” your “own seed”…seriously where are you getting this from??? MASTURBATION IS HARAM. PORN IS HARAM!!!!
I am sorry for sounding harsh but you are deluded and need to snap out of the mentality you hae adopted because not only do you have ne remorse for the sins you committ but you are “proud” snd consider them “manly” and praiseworthy actions and you are almost bragging about the sins!!!
What you are doing is committing “virtual fornication” and it is a form of being unfaithful to your wife becasue you are lusting and acting upon the lust for complete strnagers in a most perverse manner.
I assunme your wife does not know about your habits in which case if she ever finds out she will be devastated and you will add to your sins that of being traitor and unfaithful and hurting the woman entrusted to you by Allah!!!! If she does know and is tolerating it may Allah reward her patience!!! you are no saint just because you dont force or beat her to satisfy your “manly” desires…you would be more of a man to avoid the disgusting habits and control yourself!!!!! Coming on a thread like this where some people are trying to mend their ways and give up wrong and then “preaching” like masturbation and pornography is a “good” deed is despicably hypocritical!!!!! When you commit sins so often and feel no shame, Allah seals your heartr, he makes it blind and you really lose trackk of what is right and wrong… you need help from a learned muslim who will help you through sunnah and Quran and not made up sayings about seeds!!! again I apologise for being so hard on you but before I had to be blunt coz no-one should read your comment and believe what you are saying, it is wrong and I hope someone patient and truly GodFearing finds their way to you and helps you.

]]> By: Amad http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88496 Amad Wed, 19 Jan 2011 08:54:25 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88496 Wow, that's indeed an interesting way to justify watching haram and engaging in haram. Why stop at watching porn, enjoy "Allah's blessings" and have illicit relationships with other beautiful women? You see the issue? I know the sins are not equal, but it's a slippery slope. You should work on convincing your wife before you destroy your own hereafter and also ultimately affect your relationship with her. Because your wife can never compete with "tuned" images of beautiful women! Wow, that’s indeed an interesting way to justify watching haram and engaging in haram.

Why stop at watching porn, enjoy “Allah’s blessings” and have illicit relationships with other beautiful women? You see the issue? I know the sins are not equal, but it’s a slippery slope. You should work on convincing your wife before you destroy your own hereafter and also ultimately affect your relationship with her. Because your wife can never compete with “tuned” images of beautiful women!

]]> By: saeed http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88492 saeed Wed, 19 Jan 2011 06:44:35 +0000 http://muslimmatters.org/2007/07/31/the-secret-life-of-husbands-sex-the-muslim-ummah-series/#comment-88492 I often masturbate while watching pornography. My wife's sex drive is simply not sufficient and I live in a country where multiple wives are not permitted. I am a very masculine man with an extremely high sex drive. Something I believe all good Muslims should be proud of. I believe that I should not force my wife into relations. I believe that the Koran states that seed should not be wasted. As semen dies, after a certain time in the scrotum it is recycled into the body, I believe that is a waste. Allah wants us to use all of the blessings that HE has bestowed upon us. Do not waste your seed. Enjoy it while looking at images of the Almighty's beautiful creations. Swallow your own seed to let Allah's greatest creation nourish your soul. Swallow not another man's seed. Only your own. I will not beat my wife for lack of relations, as MANY of my relatives do. I will watch Allah's creations and eat the seed of his benevolence. Consider it. Read. You will see that I am right. Praise Allah. I often masturbate while watching pornography. My wife’s sex drive is simply not sufficient and I live in a country where multiple wives are not permitted. I am a very masculine man with an extremely high sex drive. Something I believe all good Muslims should be proud of. I believe that I should not force my wife into relations. I believe that the Koran states that seed should not be wasted. As semen dies, after a certain time in the scrotum it is recycled into the body, I believe that is a waste. Allah wants us to use all of the blessings that HE has bestowed upon us. Do not waste your seed. Enjoy it while looking at images of the Almighty’s beautiful creations. Swallow your own seed to let Allah’s greatest creation nourish your soul. Swallow not another man’s seed. Only your own. I will not beat my wife for lack of relations, as MANY of my relatives do. I will watch Allah’s creations and eat the seed of his benevolence. Consider it. Read. You will see that I am right. Praise Allah.

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