I think there is a higher reason that you found an answer on a Muslim site. Allah (God) works in mysterious ways… perhaps you stumbled here for something bigger, better.

I urge you to ponder over this thought. You can email us or comment here if you have start looking into Islam and have questions. I hope you will, because your expressed purity in this one matter is something all Muslims aspire for, but purity goes well beyond it.

thanks.

I would just like to say Thank You to MuslimObserver for writing his thoughts in 2007 not knowing that in 2010 it would speak to my heart.

I am Christian, adult, and have all the sex-ed as any mature adult would have by now but I was about to make the biggest mistake of my life this weekend. Thanks be to God Almighty because I stumbled upon this article/site. I read all the comments but was particularly touched by comment made by MuslimObserver.

I echo your words my brother. I lost track of the goal which all believers aim for and hold true to their faith. To live a pure, chaste life and to present your body as a living sacrifice unto God. Especially when you are single/unmarried. Pre-marital sex is wrong in any language or religion.

Thank you for reminding me of what is important to us who believe. Today I renewed my commitment to God.

When you put God as your goal everything else falls into place.

Peace be with you always.

I am sorry but I do not understand the meaning of your words.

I don’t understand why you claim “internet is for porno”…
I have read the 1001 Nights, there is much more sex and adultery there than in any other book I’ve read, and I have read quite a lot…

Yes, there IS pornography on the internet, but surely you’ve found better sites to visit ?

I don’t understand why you must pull Jesus and the Jews into this… or Solomon, who was a Jewish king…
…I asked for help into a dissertation I am preparing on “multiculturality” or “Cultural Awareness”.

If you read my query for help, I stated :
“We are 95% alike, the 5% difference should be valued as our uniqueness; we should appreciate and love each other for the 95% that makes us so similar, and respect the 5% that makes us unique“.

I am sure that a Saudi going to Indonesia would have more than a few problems with food, language, customs etc., regardless they share the same religion.

So… what should a Mashriqi or a Maghrebi expect when visiting Italy or Spain ? Or Sweden ?
What should an Italian or Spanish expect when visiting Morocco, Egypt, or Lebanon, or Iran ?
Did you know that, if living in Europe or some places in the Mashriq (Lebanon, for example, but also France, or the USA), “the good Muslim Father” will send his daughters to a school of Catholic nuns, in order to insure they get the best education while still staying separate from the boys? My own wife is witness to this.

If you, or anybody else on this Forum, is willing to help me, I will be extremely grateful.

If not … I will work alone.

Peace be with you.

human are weak and Allah SWT is the only great.he the only one no other god exist beside him. Jesus kill by jews. and he just a human. Jesus still alive he in heaven,when solomon come he came down.to save Ummah from down.

My name is Maurizio, “Moris Abu Lorens” I am writing from Italy.
As you will correctly assume from my name and my country of origin, I am not Muslim and I am not Arabic.

So, you will ask yourselves, why am I posting to this page ? I need your help.

I am preparing a short dissertation on “Cultural Awareness”.
Being European and Christian, my Tutor expected a dissertation in the style
“we are different but we should still be tolerant with each other”.

After some research, I came to my own conclusions and decided a different approach:
“We are 95% alike, the 5% difference should be valued as our uniqueness; we should appreciate and love each other for the 95% that makes us so similar, and respect the 5% that makes us unique”.

So, my dissertation is focused on the 95% that Christians and Muslims (and Jews) have in common with each other.

I have been researchnig , but have found a number of small difficulties and would like to address them, if anybody is willing to shed a little light and help me with them.

1) Puberty and Adolescence: in both Judaism and Christianity (or should I say in both Judaic and European traditions) once a boy or girl reach 13 years of age (+/- a few months) there is a cerimony, very ancient I believe, where they undergo a final religious preparation and welcomed into the “adult world”. For boys, it was when they were acknowledged to be old enough to work, train as soldiers and become apprentices of a skill, in order to become fully fledged adults and have their place in society; for girls, it was when they were acknowledged to be old enough to start training as housemaids, working in their own homes or in the home of others, learning “how to look after the house”, and the skills of domestic administration.
Mind you, as I said, it is a tradition that dates back thousands of years and has been sent down scores of generations.
=> I would like to know if there is a similar tradition in the Muslim world, be it limited to Persian Shi’a, Mashriq, Maghreb, or to secular traditions in Algeria,Syria, Egypt, Pakistan…

2) I have noticed that many “invocations” are trasncribed directly from Arabic; this makes it extremely difficult for anybody who is not fluent in Arabic as it is next to impossible to understand the invocation; BUT as the invocation is generally in thanks, or a blessing, or the arabic word for a principle which exists in all languages… why not use English?

I do not want to create the impression that I am disrespectful, I simply want to say that sometimes I find myself doing some very fancy guessing exercises in order to understand what the person really wanted to say…

My parting comment is a word of encouragement and of sympathy to Ashley.
I married at the age of 30, my wife was 26, and guess what? No premarital sex.
HUH ? What ? A European girl etc.etc.etc. ?
Please allow me to provide a short explanation.
There is so much more in common between a Mashriqi family, and an Italian, or Spanish, or Greek family, than there is between said “Mediterranean” families and … Scandinavians, or other Northern Europeans in general.

You may find it surprising, but if you think about it… an Algerian father will find it easier to take his family to France than to Pakistan or Tanzania, and Tunisians, Egyptians and Lebanese find themselves much more at home in Italy than in Denmarks or Belgium.

The reason is history; the Mediterranean is not just a sea dividing the shores, but a common means of communication and exchange of cultures; the Alps have separated peoples for time immemorial.

Thank you for bearing with my long post. I apologize for a few typing errors.

Maurizio – Rome, Italy

What you posted is the typical cut and paste message, patronizing and a bit condescending. And who are the scholars of Sunnah now in your opinion? Allamah Hazat Mawlana Rabee Madhkhalee and about 10 that agree with him? Please, bro, it would be nice if you start respecting the people of knowledge that RESIDE in the West, who are in TOUCH with the West, and who UNDERSTAND the problems facing Muslim families in the West. Everything doesn’t have to flow from the mouth of the scholars in the East in order to be beneficial and applicable. In fact, in many cases, applying blanket rulings and opinion from scholars residing in the East, to the Muslims in the West, is counter-productive and inapplicable.

You talk about common people falling for the “scholar-pretenders” in the West. Rather, I would contend that many common people have been trapped in near cultish cells that claim to follow the Sunnah, but are actually blindly following a few individuals.

I am sorry if I sound harsh, but your comment rubbed me off in the wrong way.